Oh yeah, stay away from processed meats. They still have chemicals in them designed to fatten the cows up...guess what they do to you?

Jess642 for President! Death to the double-standard of honesty/games!

Again, when guys lie to mold your reaction, we are A-holes. Why do women think its ok when they do it? And then wonder why men are the way they are...

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

The key difference is the goal. If your out to get laid, it's easy to fail. If your objective is to carry a decent conversation, and make her smile at least 3 times... that goal is much easier to attain. Less stress.

Also, this will sound DUMB (maybe even crazy), but it WORKS. Try some role-playing. Think of an idealized version of yourself, get the character worked out, and just try it on one night. Seriously, you will not believe how effective this is until you try it. It's so cheesy and fun that you won't have time to be nervous. Set aside a weekend as practice. Go someplace you don't normally go, and never have to come back too if you don't want. It's not even lying, people's personalities have many different sides.

If your not sure what I mean by roleplaying an idealized version of yourself... hmm, the closest thing I can think of would be a RedDwarf reference: Ace Rimmer

When you're crippled by fear, a little dissociation can be very healthy.
It Works

PS: Someone said women can spot a faker...well yeah the BAD ones lol. There's plenty of women on this site who say they've been fooled hook, line and sinker (repeatedly). Not saying that's the way to be all the time, but it's a great confidence building exercise. Baby-steps bro, you'll get there.

PPS: They can definitely smell confidence in WAY UNDER 5 minutes. Might help to check out some web pages on male body language, you might be sending a lot of signals you aren't even aware of. You have to remember, attraction is wired into a brain chemistry that hasn't changed in 40,000 years. Much of it completely bypasses rational thought (why smart women who want nice guys end up chasing scumbags)

And they wonder where all the nice guys went, hah! To think, most of you put honesty and no games in your profile. You should be ashamed. Imagine if we lied to you on purpose just to get a specific reaction... why do you think it's ok when you do it?

This topic should be called "Men should know when we are lying"

Just saying, if you're letting someone put you in a bad mood... you're LETTING them. You can stop anytime you want. That's the control I'm talking about. I wasn't attacking anyone (everyone's so defensive today!)

But one thing I HAVE learned about women, is that a lot of the time, they don't want your "help" because it usually implies some kind of judgment. They just want someone to listen and not outline the 800 things they are doing wrong with their life, ya know?

That's exactly why you SHOULDN'T let it bother you.

Every time they piss you off, they control you. They win. That thought alone should be annoying enough to put a stop to it. And to be honest, the more you talk about it on the forums, and dwell on it, the worse it's gonna get (kinda like now). Just relax and let it go.

I mean, I get like 20 emails a day for penis enlargement, but I don't let it get to me. They don't even know me.

The trick is, you just have to tell yourself:

"Hey, that's just some random D-bag on the internet, why should I care what they think"

Thats what I do. But then again I may not be the best role-model.

Doh... I admit, sometimes I am hypnotized by that sexy man in the mirror (closest I come to being gay) but have you ever tried to take a picture of yourself WITHOUT a mirror? I have, it's hard. And it's not like I flex for them or anything, since I take them to see what my tone is like at a resting state.

Besides, if I had a girl to take pictures of me (not about to ask my guy friends to do it), I wouldn't be here!

Ah well, I guess I will take em back down in a while. I really do appreciate the input though, and I wasn't expecting nearly this many people to respond

Then I guess I'm showing people that I'm long-winded (and love parenthesis!)

PS: How did this become an age debate? Let Missfabulous be! God, when did men start hating 18 year old girls? Is this Bizarro world?

hmm.... I think I will add some pictures now so you can all laugh at me.

So feel free to judge me and tell me to put a shirt on

Wow, some pretty polarized responses here... glad I asked before I put up my muscle pic. Just for the record I don't "pose" for them, but I DO take pictures of myself every so often gauge my workout progress.

While we're on the topic of saving more for later, does the same thing hold true for the profile? Mine is like a small novel (I thought women liked guys who were open, and I'm not real shy), but now you have me thinking I should go to one of those 5-word profiles!

It's just kinda weird nowadays, guys have to show interest without coming off as TOO interested, or a stalker, etc.

But even then, I can't believe women could be confused by this. We aren't the coy ones in this equation

How do women feel about guys with shirtless pics in their profile?

Obviously not talking about the heavy guys, but if you're in good shape, is it acceptable or does it just make you seem narcissistic?

Nailed it. Going vegetarian can also help a lot.

Did you know that the fiber/cell walls in plants will not only soak up cholesterol and keep you from absorbing it, but if you eat it last, it will actually push the other food through your system before you can absorb all the calories?

Oh yeah, and only eat when you're Hungry, instead of just Bored (I used to do that).

He was probably just some Loser sharpening his game on a safely-distant target. Hate to say it, but I know guys like that.

The first person who responded nailed it.

You should stay with him forever, what an awsome life that would be! Yeah right, hah!

Weird to hear about a guy doing that though. I knew a couple goth chicks (back when they were actually called goths and not emo) who tried that. I told them I didn't care, which obviously proves I'm not worth it! None of them killed themselves, just for the record.

The sick part is, if you stay with them, thinking your being a nice person, all you're doing is feeding the insanity and making it worse. If you keep that in mind, it's a clean easy break.

Allow me to translate to your target audience:
"Screenshot or it didn't happen"

Like I said in your other thread, women have needs, and they gotta have a man who will meet them. Sex is not the devil.

It sounds like what you're saying is this:
- I know women have sexual needs
- I refuse to meet those needs
- Is that ok?

The answer, sadly, is no. Thats why they are called needs.

Hit me up, I love giving advice. Best part of good advice is asking the right questions, so you end up answering them and giving yourself advice. Sounds strange but very effective!

I seem to have this weird ability to know what everyone ELSE should be doing... and no clue for myself hah!

This is one of those double standard things. They want the attention of being sexy to be like a moviestar, not realizing we see it as a piece of meat instead.

I forget if it was chris rock or dave chappell, but there was a perfect sketch about "you may not be a ho, but you're wearing a ho's uniform, and that's damn confusing!". I can't do it justice but if you've heard it, it fits exactly what you're saying.

PS: In a world where some women will judge a man entirely by his SHOES, I don't think we're the villains here. Not saying that makes it ok, just saying everyone does it.

EDIT: Geek beat me to the punch on the dressed like a ho sketch. Get out of my head man!