I think it is easier to point out our differences than our similarities. Everyone strives to be this individual but have no problem clutching to a religion that sets boundaries of existence. I believe major religions focus on good and tell you exactly what they believe to be good. The spiritual being recognizes that we all have light and dark within us and aim to be at peace with themselves and the world around. Spirituality is a personal path to enlightment and peace and those along those paths respect that everyone's is different. Religion should not be different.

Time to yourself is best and don't even bother dating... but if you want company at least make that point loud and clear before anything else... women normally date to be romantic not just to be friendly... good luck, amor.

I normally think that someone that states "professional" as their occupation is in a sort of profession that would attract perhaps golddiggers, like a doctor or lawyer. Those jobs equate to money in some minds and single men and women flock to them. Lawyer friend of mine does it. It may not be the truth for everyone but that's what crosses my mind when I see it. Someone trying to be noticed for who they are not what they are.

Oh crap! I'm old.

that was awesome!

Unfortunately, my friends have passed judgment on a wonderful full figured woman because of her size. It's very sad to see that. Just remember guys... if you are looking to grow old with someone outer beauty should only be SECOND to what she holds in her soul.

I find straight honesty to be the best solution since simply avoiding makes hurt feelings last longer and misunderstandings unavoidable.

The important part of that comment was "wise." Age is inevitable for all of us. No one will hold it against you

shark bait!

Good one. There was one youngin' that was close... but he assumed the ugly women would be stupid too... tsk tsk

I like this topic! Come on guys... the "ugly" chicks have beer! LOL

what sort of music?

The advantage of online dating has always been to look with a certain amount of privacy and if you find someone that piques your interest you contact them. It's like walking around on South Beach... you people watch but you don't go try to approach someone that you aren't attracted to initially. Let's be honest, if you wanted to be judged solely on your personality, intellect and all other assets other than physical you wouldn't have a picture up. That is the whole point of a picture... to attract on the first level so you can move on to the others. So why send a message to everyone you happen to 'see' if you aren't attracted to them... We are supposedly here because the traditional method is too time consuming and there are a lack of quality people in the typical bar or nightclub. Why be harsh on those that just want to look around and not waste their or someone else's time? If you are looking for friends and want to send someone a message on that note then so be it but we aren't all here just looking for friends...

that brought a tear to my eye LOL

it all depends on my status:

if i'm thoughtful, my head
if i'm sentimental, my heart
if i'm drunk, my kitty is queen!

On a Valentines day many years ago arranged a champagne and strawberries picnic on the most desolate beach i could find in the keys with the boyfriend blindfolded on the way there. That night was a little chilly and the moon was close to full and very bright. We had a very nice time cuddled with our treats under the blanket and we slept there until sunrise... another nice touch. I miss doing the sweet stuff but I'm glad I got rid of the guy!

having another Valentines day come and go without someone to do something sweet with... at least my daughter gets spoiled

I'm 29... my limit is 36. After that he's at a stage at life that I am not.

I've been the aggressor and made the first move many a time. But if I feel flirty sometimes good body language is all you need to increase his courage. I think a woman that is making a first move needs a certain confidence.