Sorry to say it, but it seems to happen more often in life everyday. I have never cheated on a partner, but I've been cheated on a few times. The latest was by my now ex-wife of 12 years. I had no idea we were having any real problems. She would tell me how much she loved me nearly everyday. To my knowledge, we had a very good marriage. Then she started a new job and a month later she's telling me she's leaving. I just stood there in shock. I unfortunately overheard her on the phone talking with her boyfriend a few days later, telling him how much she loved him and how my boys would get used to him. I really wish I didn't hear it at all. I have never had my heart completely crushed like that. I'm still reeling from it and I know I must press on, but there are days that are more than a bit tough. Had a lot of great memories with her. I just wish I would get amnesia at times, it would hurt a lot less. I never will understand entirely how and why one person could be so cruel to another. Just my two cents. But chin up and on we go!

Does anyone know what else I can do to get through this? I feel I am losing this battle a bit more every day!

I really don't want to sound like an ass, but I've been in rough shape since my wife of 12 years left me for another man without any reason or warning. Took my boys and won't let me see or talk to them at all. Her dad told me that he would make sure I never get to see my children again. Her boyfriend taunts me saying he's got my whole family and I have nothing. I attempted suicide, but failed at that too. Ended up in the psych ward in the hospital for a couple of weeks and was released. I have all kinds of meds that are supposed to make it easier to cope and I see a counsellor regularly. I still feel like crap most of the time. I find myself in tears quite often with no warning when I am alone. I'm really good at putting on a face for everyone I see. Sometimes I just go get drunk so I don't have to think how bad my life turned out. I thought I had it made and had a good marriage, and then my world came crashing down hard. I find it extremely difficult to talk to anyone! I grew apart from a lot of my friends while I was married. Sorry, I just had to get it out! I really don't know what else to do. I have a profile on here and you would never guess I feel the way I do by reading it. Damn I feel completely alone in this world. For some unknown reason to me, the days have been getting worse as of late.

Heck, I have my range from 25 - 45. I don't know who I may click with. Strange things happen in life. I admire the zest of youth. Not to say I would date someone that young, but I can sure chat with them and get to know them. Never know what the futrue holds in store.

You are the only one who knows what is right for you. What other's think really doesn't matter. It is YOUR life. Wish you the best of luck. Protect thyne heart at all times though. Relationships tend to be rather short now a days it seems. When the heart and mind work together there are no limits. Take care! G

You have some fun out there girl. Just be careful. There are both nice guys and gals out there, but unfortunately, there is also a lot of freaks and weirdos and people whom care for no one but themselves. Got to weed them out before you put your heart on the line.Protect thyne heart and be safe. You'll find your someone someday. Don't be in a rush. When you are, you can make mistakes that come back and bite you. You seem like a sweet thing and I'd hate to see you have to go through any emotional pains that were unnecessary. Remember, good things come to those who wait! Just a small fraction of advise from an old fart. Take care of yourself

"I believe you overlooked what point he was making. Have you ever been married or in a long relationship? Did you just decide one day to start having feelings for that person, or did they just develop over time??? He is merely saying that it is an unconscious decision at times. The ones who fall into love!"

As a matter of fact my dear, I have rarely been in a relationship that lasted less than a year. And yes, I was married for twelve years and spent three with her before we tied the knot. So I do have a little experience with matters of the heart and how much damage can be done if it's dolled out easily Just saying you have to protect your own heart, no one else will. Love when it is not returned hurts like hell. Isn't it worthy of all the protection you can afford it? No one likes to be hurt. Just be careful out there.

Also, I never try to control anyone! That is a sure way to end up lonely. Don't know where that was said.

By no means am I even attempting to make fun of you. I don't do that kind of thing. I just saying it like it is. And I'm not a sir, I work for a living. LOL

dchat, did I see correctly. One has no control in whom they love? Holy crap, then who does? You always have control! Do you walk in a bar and see some gal who appeals to you and fall in love? If she spoke to you and you got along, are you ready to set the wedding date? Of course you have control. Love is both emotional and mental. If we had no control we'd all be in love with models and the Hollywood gang and be lonely forever. If you don't know this, I feel for ya bro. A lot of hard lessons to come!

Don't get me wrong. I understand that you are hurt. My spidey sense would tingle if anyone told me they loved me if that was the extent of our contact. Wouldn't one need to at least meet them in person for that to happen. Or is love considered to be something you throw around on a whim? Myself, love is a very serious emotion. It is only offered to those who I deem worthy after knowing them for months. Sure I may really like them and be attracted, but love is a gift for both to share. Not something that you give without strong consideration!

I have a question. How does anyone fall in love just by Email and talking on the phone? And in 2 months or so?

Never hurts to spiff it up. You do that to go out for an evening in person. Think of your profile kind of the same way. First impressions, right. Your profile is one of the first things everyone sees. Make the impression you want them to see. Doom and gloom gets you nowhere! Best of luck to you in your quest.

Ahh, it's not all that horrible being alone at times you know. I only recently came on to this online stuff. To say the least it can be interesting. I do read a quite a few of the forums without posting, but every once in a while I throw in my 2 cents! I met a few women who Email back and forth with in my area and truly enjoy our little conversations as we are getting to know each other. Just be yourself. Look at others profiles to get a gist of varying styles and put one together that fits who you are. Let the future bring what may. Be positive, it is far more appealing to everyone. Above all, have fun and don'[t take things too personally and you'll be fine.

Being I'm a Canuck, most of you probably haven't heard about this one. Molson's Pilsner, and I'm still on the bottle. One of Saskatchewan's most popular. Hard to find it east of here, they just look at you funny! Cheers all! Tarbender, I'll have another.

Thanks for all the welcomes folks, I'm feeling warmer already! Not building any snow people yet, but it looks like the white stuff is here to stay now. Oh well, that's part of living in Saskatchewan. Colder than *#@?&* in winter and hotter than hell in summer. Not many places that you do a 70 degree swing in temp from summer to winter(-40 to +32 Celsius). Seen it many times -45 degree with wind chill. No wonder we get a population increase in mid summer. Got to stay warm somehow. Oh, and just so you people know, a vast majority in this province don't speak french, that's more them there Eastern fellows. They are the ones that figured we needed two official languages and the metric crap. Hope to chat with many of you as time goes on. Great big "Hi" to all of you! Gord

Racing18- Those are hilarious, but I bet they don't work very well.

I cannot understand why anyone would do this. The last thing I want to talk about with a lady I am interested in is my ex. It's also the last thing I would want to hear. Extremely disrespectful! All you southerner's(you all are that to me, ha ha) have a great night. I'm off to see a good blues band on my own tonight. Love the music! Don't "need" company to do that. It would be nice to take a woman with me, but unfortunately I get to go solo this time. I'm pretty independent so it doesn't bother me much. It's the music I'm out for and maybe a few dances with a pretty lady if things go well. Best of luck to you all in your quest to find that special someone.

As for the Southerner's, I cannot say. Up here we don't get many. Too cold maybe? I find a lot of people don't have very good manners anymore and the younger they are the more it is apparent. There is nothing wrong in expecting someone to have basic manners in my books. Be nice if everyone thought that way though. Sometimes you just want to throw in the towel, but I never loose my faith that some still do. Just have to weed out the bad and keep looking. I wish you the best of luck in finding your special someone. They're out there, I know they are. I'm kind of the eternal optimist. Gord