This is not dictated by what latitude you are in in my opinion. I'm probably more North than most. Up here there are the good and bad also. Some guys only have one thing on their minds at all times and then there are us who are real. Would there be anything wrong with the light of my life or something along those lines. I must admit dating in your 40's is completely different than it was in my 20's. Maybe it's just me.

I got to agree with you. We are not children and pretty much know what we want, or at least a good idea of it. If I care about someone they have my complete attention, the rest of the world is just background noise. I always show respect to anyone I am with, even a first date. Just the way I was brought up, manners and decency you know. I've just fine tuned it with age. I still open the door for women and the like. Little old fashioned maybe, but it fits me very well and I will never change it.

Sounds like you were with a guy who wasn't showing you respect. I've always referred to my lady friends as my girl if there was something to our relationship. Never got any complaints. I'd have no problem with being called "my man", but to each their own. The title is not really necessary but some do like it, some don't I guess. Happy hunting! G

So far sounds all pretty straight forward. Nice to kind of meet all of you. Not used to this chatting online at this point, but I'm sure it will come into its own with time.

Thanks for the vote of confidence. Made a post last night and some took it the wrong way I guess. My apologies to anyone I may have offended. I consider every one's opinion to be important, including my own. I'm sure I'll get used to this in a short time, til then I just have to go through the learning curve I guess.

Looking through the forums, I see some can get quite heated. Is this normal or did I just pick the wrong forums? I like to chat and I tend to express my opinion quite openly. My intention is never to offend. Any advise from anyone? I am a real person and call it the way I see it. Is that a no no?

Thanks for the welcome gals!

I'm pretty new to these dating sites. I've been reading some of the forums just to get the gist of what you all do here. I live up here in Saskatchewan where winter is starting to show its face. Hope to get along with you all and maybe make some new friends. Happy searching to all! G I'm still working on my profile. Looking at others to see how this is all done so bear with me please.

Onegoofydame- That is sad to hear you gave up. I realize that there are a lot of bad apples out there, but if you dig a little deeper in the box, there are always some good ones. You just must have had a bad run. Chin up, protect your heart and keep searching. You never know what's around the corner. I have met some women who are cruel and self centered in my life. Sometimes the put on a pretty good face, but eventually the real them will show up. This is true of both men and women. It's too bad, but that is life! Good luck to you in your quest.

txmama- Toys can always be fun!

"get to know the people on here before you talk about the way they act and you might find out they act differently in RL than they do on here"
JT I only made a generalization of what I see in our world today. I did not in anyway say that it was anyone who posted here. Believe me, I don't always act my age either. Life is meant to have fun in my opinion, but there is a time and place for everything. Take it easy, not everything said is directed at you or anyone else.

Holy crap some of you are uptight! I see that some of you didn't even look at the advice I gave in my last post. Relax and enjoy life for what it offers. I was young once too in case some of you don't realize that. As for time on my hands, I may have a little, but that wouldn't be any one's business but mine, would it? Some of you spend far more time on this than I do, but who cares! To each their own, stop the immediate judging will you! Believe me I recognized the posts with humor. I also said "some" of you need to grow up, not all. Bob simply asked for advice. You could see that he was serious in his post, but a few of you chose to belittle him instead. Why not just give him your honest advice and leave it at that? As I see it from here Bob, you just need to relax a little. Good things come to those who wait and your day will come too. I see your frustration. I know that's not a complete truth but it does hold some weight. Some of the folk did offer you some good advice. Mull it over a little before you answer, don't get on the defensive so quick. You may do your personal Emails with a better attitude, but the way you come across in these posts is how people are seeing you in the here and now. Caris, you were not one of the ones who needs to grow up. I thought you would have realized that! I won't specifically say who does. I believe that would not be fair play. No one should be singled out for an attack, but some of you have done just that. Does it make you feel better about yourself. I'm a little on the new side to these sites, so grant a touch of decency. Like I put at the end of my post,"just my opinion" and whether you like it or not, I'm entitled to it just as all of you are!

You know, I read the first 15 pages or so of this thread and I just couldn't take anymore. How pathetic. I see that there are some of you who simply need to grow up. I looked at some of your ages and then understood why you act and write the way you do. Little wet behind the ears yet maybe?. Life is an experience and always will be. If you are not open to learning from both the good and the bad, you stagnate. There is someone out there for everyone, sometimes it just takes time to meet them. I've been in more than a few relationships in my life, most of them being a year or longer. Sometimes they work out, sometimes they don't. Sometimes you just grow apart. S**t happens. You can't come out with a statement like "what do women want" and expect a simple answer. It does not work like that. We are all individuals, men and women. Everyone has different tastes. Being true to yourself is the most important thing. If you just want to get laid, say so. What's the worst that can happen, they say no? Big deal, life goes on. continue your search and keep your spirits up. There is nothing worse, male or female, than one who lets it show they are jaded! Who ever told you that life would be easy. If this is what you think, it's time to wake up and smell the coffee. Life can be cruel, and some folks are worse than others. Keep the smile on your face and your disappointments in a private place. I have always found that true confidence and a natural sense of humor will carry you far. Everyone wants someone who cares about them. Manners count, and from what I have witnessed in this day and age is that most of the younger generation don't even know what they are. Read these posts and it shows. Lighten up everyone. You don't drop dead just because you don't find that special someone right away. Keep seeking and you shall find! Just my opinion. I think I've been around the block a few more times than most that have posted here. G