Did she know she was writing this to someone that was on here as
"pussysearch7" ??

"Other than this, he was kind, generous, thoughtful,..."

This reminds of an old one-liner "Other that that, Mr. Lincoln, how was
the play"?

Tell, me.. how do you feel about the priests that preyed on young boys?
Because, other than that... they were pretty priestly.

I'm sorry... in some cases, there are no OTHER THAN THATS. I would hope
that this person will receive his just dessert although I don't feel
that there's a hell bad enough for him.

I think there are poor decisions being made about getting into
relationships. It's like it's an all or nothing decision nowadays.
Especially for young people. Alucard, you were apparently 18 when this
relationship started. I don't think you can even know yourself at that
age, let alone know what another person is about. In your late teens,
early 20s there are many major decisions being made and a lot of change
that can endanger a relationship.
I think you do need to invest a lot into a relationship, but just
because you've had 3 dates and she was good in the sack doesn't mean it
has to be a relationship. There is no crime in being single, dating a
few people and seeing how things work out without throwing all of your
marbles into the ring. If you feel you HAVE to be in a relationship, you
are definitely not ready to be in a relationship.

Define meet someone new. I don't think a bachground check is a necessity
for a first date if you have a safe date by: Meeting the person at a
public place and then leaving the person at that place when it's over. I
have always offered to provise a scan of my driver's license to a future
date to make her feel more secure. I tend to think giving a Social
Security number is not a safe practice in this age of identity theft.
Maybe you have nothing to hide, but what might happen if she gets
"pissed" at you later on and decides to get revenge because you broke a
date or decided to see someone else.
At the point of initial dating, my financial information and personal
data is my business. It may be shared later on if the relationship
progresses. I think women could gain enough security by for the initial
few dates by doing some of the following.
1. Make sure you have a HOME phone number for him and call him on it.
Don't let him initiate all the calls and be wary if he just calls during
working hours, etc.
2. Establish his residence. This could be a phone book listing, a Google
search, or him providing other documentation such as mail addressed to
him.
3. Make sure someone knows who you are with and where you are going and
when you will return. If you deviate from this, phone that person and
let them know there is a change. Let your date know you are doing this.

I don't think a reasonable, responsible man would object to any of these
to make his date feel more secure.

As for finding something on the background check: If you're not going to
heed the information, why do the check?

This is for bug reports.. if you have a woman with bugs... DUMP HER!!!

Here's a little story about something that happened right after 9-11.

I had just finished orientation for JB Hunt Trucking in Atlanta and was
being sent by bus to their Arkansas location to pick up my tractor.
There was a line at security at the Bus Station in Atlanta and I waited
my turn. When they searched my stuff, they took a short screwdriver away
from me apparently so I could not attack anyone with it. I objected, but
what can you do. We finally boarded the bus and left. The bus then made
a 15 minute rest stop at a store in Douglasville, GA.. 20 miles outside
of Atlanta. The store had snacks, and drinks and stuff but also had a
showcase filled with knives and ammunition and the like!!!

Moral: I WANT MY SCREWDRIVER BACK!!

George Washington: So, is this all we need in the Constitution?

Thomas Jefferson: Wait.... what if some people hijack some jets and fly
them into the World Trade Center?

John Hancock: Screw it. I'm late for dinner. Let's wrap it up.

Some of us look better without a picture..... in the dark... and you're
drunk!

I think some need to realize that you are "selling" something here and
the more info you give, the better your results.

Gosh! How could any lady resist that??

Mary,
I clicked on your profile to see where you are coming from and got a
little laugh (not from you, you seem like an ok person) but the Google
ad that came up beside your picture was "Dating Wealthy Men". lol

Chis,
Very interesting. I have kind of always thought that there should be a
cap on lottery winnings. Let's say 10 million tax free. If you can't
make it on 10 million, I don't think the other 23 million is going to
make a difference except to prolong the inevitable.
I don't think I could ever be rich. I would love to have enough money to
be comfortable, but any beyond that could serve a better purpose
elsewhere. It seems you think along those same lines. Kudos, my friend!

DeeDee,
You may be right.. you may have blown his cover!! I am kind of thinking
his errors may be faked. I would hate to believe that anyone could make
that many errors and have any sort of responsible position. Did you look
at his profile?

If it was me, I would download iespell which allows you to check your
spelling in forms BEFORE you submit them.

Scenario: You are you, a person apparently looking for something. It
could be friends, a relationship, or your "soulmate". It has been a
roller coaster ride of ups and downs. Then.. you win 33 million dollars
in the lottery.
Think seriously about this and tell us how it might affect your search
and dating life.
(For example, would you post in your profile that you were rich? Would
you be concerned that people were dating you for your riches?)
I'm interested in seeing if there's a difference in how males and
females would handle the situation. I'm trying to find something thought
provoking to discuss on here!!

Unsure,
I'm not sure what a soulmate is, but I would think it would involve
giving up just about anything to be with the person. I can't fault you
for not leaving your children and I'm really impressed that you give
your ex the same credit.
I would veture that the soul is one of many things about us that is
constantly in a state of change, so your soulmate at any given time may
not be at another time. As we get older, it gets a little more
complicated. We weigh the good and the bad and many times make our
decision based on this. We aren't overwhelmed by love or lust but make
our decisions based on the other factors too. It's called maturity.
Perhaps at some point, your situation will change and you can pursue
your dreams but you are to be commended for making a very difficult, but
probably correct decision.

Well, it appears to be correct to me!!!

Doug

Unfortunately, you are going to get that type of comment online and
usually from someone that would be afraid to approach you in real life.
The anonymity of the internet create some brave souls. I would take it
as a compliment, and say "Thanks but no thanks." You can't control their
behavior so all you can do is take what good there is in the situation
and move on.
There are a lot of people that lack social and communication skills. One
of my pet peeves is getting a message like "how r u 2day"? Hey, I'm
worth ALL the letters. There is nothing that gives a person more
credibility than a well structured, capitalized, and punctuated
statement. I think the internet "slang" shows a bit of laziness and
maybe not really caring. A lol or an emoticon once in a while may be
okay, but it shouldn't be the meat of your conversation. It may be
appropriate in a text message on a phone, but not here. One of the most
important aspects of a relationship is communication, so are the
shortcuts really worth it?
(The last half was not really intended in response to your question, but
I went off on a tangent!)

The dating sites are a place to meet people. You still have to sort them
out. However, I believe there are many on the sites that have no
intention of ever physically meeting anyone. They may be seeking
attention, lonely, or shy among other things. They may just get off on
sexy talk and flirting. It's a convenient way to MEET people, but you
have to use good judgement.
I also believe that many online people find it hard to commit. I believe
they think there is an endless supply of new people and someone better
may sign on tomorrow.

Keith Whitley also recorded a version of it.

I hate when stuff gets trapped in my brain like that.

Blonds have more fun than what? It's an incomplete question.
The saying was made popular by Clairol in the 60s. We know what their
intent was.
It's a stereotypical statement to which there is no answer. It all
depends on the individual and what you consider fun to be. I do believe
that some females have changed their hair color and then acted the way
they believed fun blonds would. But in my estimation, it has nothing to
do with hair color. It has to do with personality, environment and a lot
of other variables.

It sounds to me that it's not both of you that are in love. Maybe you're
assuming that he feels the same way you do. Exactly when do they fall of
the face of the earth? I'd see if there's a pattern and try to change
the behavior that causes the change. If you're trying to come across as
a cool, swingin chick, then don't be surprised if the guys treat you
that way.
Maybe you're coming across as clingy or needy and the guys in some
lifestyles don't deal well with that. As for the disability, I don't
think it would be a big problem as long as you're upfront about it.
That's not the kind of surprises that guys like.
I have a bad ticker and an implanted cardiac defibrillator and it hasn't
been a big detriment to dating, although I'm not really looking for a
long term relationship because of it. I feel I'm not really able to
bring what I should to a relationship so I choose to just date and enjoy
some companionship without involving someone in my issues.
I wish you the best of luck, but you must realize that SOMETHING has to
change for the results to change.

Doug