if the brain lies what tells the truth?

I am just as unlikely to date a person that lives 5,000 miles away as I am a person That lives 200 miles away. If you don't live within 50 miles there is no difference to me.

The question you should be asking yourself is what is controlling the muscles, It is not the liver, stomach, intestine, or most organs that are considered reactionary. the eyes are also reactionary, the real question is what are they responding to?

Everything I need to know about sombody I learn from their eyes. Whether it is the twinkle that asks for a kiss or the furowed eyebrows that disagree with what you say, reguardless of the words that come out of somebody's mouth. The eyes tell the true story.

Typed words are a very sterile form of communication. Gauging emotions is nearly impossible, words and commitments are easy to break, and personalities are easy to fake. Which leads to the question; Are the people you talk to on the internet real, or is it a liars paradise?

There is no real answer to the question, because it is a combonation of real people trying to express who they are and how they really feel and people that use it as a way to preend to be somebody they are not. I just wonder where the majority lies.

I agree with the guy about, not wanting to jump in the sack right away. That is just a bad phrase to use. Change it to not looking for a casual relationship. To be honest I don't like the user name "prissey" And just keep away from teh degredation thing, just say "you want a man who respects you enough to take it slow." you kill two birds with one stone.

I like to have fun is code for I like to have sex. And FYI it is a totally useless phrase, everybody likes to have fun, it is built into the defination of the word.

1) That lonely thing has gotta go, if lonely becomes an ingrained part of your psyche you will remain alone. Because you will identify yourself with the lonelyness, which is a side affect of being alone.

2) Always exude confidence. Women are insecure by nature, they want a guy who is confident enough for both of you. If you are not confdent by nature, just pretend you are!

3) visualization- When you talk to a woman imagine the best case senatio in your mind. Just think about falure not being an option and her not wanting to be with you as HER problem not yours.

4)Hide you feelings more. Instead of telling women how you feel, show them. Don't be afraid to be more agressive about making a move. I am not saying get all tarzan on her or anything, but don't be afraid to go in for a kiss, or touch her shoulder, or grab her *** or whatever it is you do to try and score.

5) Use alchol to your advantage. Once again I am not saying get her **** faced drunk until she passes out, but use the alchol to loosen up and free some of your nerves and inhabitions.

He is being taken for granted, and possibly taken advantage of. Somtimes people don't know what they have untill it's gone. I am not saying to be verbally abusive, just less available to her every whim.

Women in their 40's have developed a greater appreciation of nice guys than women in their 20's.

If you can't be an *******, then try tempering the sweetness and not offering constant attention. Cut the phone conversations short, wait to return her texts, and sometimes don't respond at all. She will imagine things that aren't happening.

you can do that word association game with anything. for example

love is a ceiling fan:

love makes your head spin, ceiling fans spin.

in both love and battle people get hurt!

Unless pat benitar was totally into orgies, in which case in both love and battle there were bodies everywhere.

Not impressing a girl goes against a guy's natural instincts. if guy's weren't trying to impress women there would be no 40,000 luxory cars, big trucks, designer clothing, jewelery, or anything like that. He was either playing coy and supressing the drive to impress you, or he wasn't that into you and didn't feel teh need to impress you.

If the first was the case he was playing a game, and it worked. If the second was the case, you want the guy because he was not that into you, and a lot of women tend to want what they can't have.

You don't ahve to be intentionally deceptive or a complete liar and user to play games. A girl wants a guy that feels the same way about her that she feels about him all the time. You wanted a guy that wouldn't try too hard, so he caught onto that (either consciously or unconsciously through body and voice ques) and did not try to impress you if he liked you. The other possibility is that you like him more than he likes you.

Did he come on too strong or not strong enough, has he called you since. If so when did he call you?

I don't play games because I want to, I play games because I have to. I would prefer to be open and honest, but it simply doesn't work.

What was your last date like?

Because if you are honest about what you want women will use it against you, or see it as a sign you are moving too fast. Women in general don't know what they want out of any relationship.

I am not speaking for "all women" there are certainly exceptions to teh rule. But honesty is a flawed policy when it comes to relationships. I use games because they work, women that I meet respond to them. I would prefer to be honest and up front, but that never works.

What women say they want and what they actually respond to are two totally different things. When a guy doesn't play aloof women move on, thinking that anybody that wants them that much must be desperate or just looking for anybody. It comes from the insecurties ingrained in them from our society.

And I am looking for a 1/100 type thinker. It is tough to find a woman that is confident enough to actually be able to handle the truth and respond to it. I usually am honest and fail, sometimes I work the games and get somewhere, but when a woman responds to the games I know she is not right for me.

In a way, yes. the horney guy wants sex like all the other guys, but he is just not playing the game of pretending he doesn't to try to get more sex later on in the relationship.

The desperate needy guy is telling you how he feels up front, not holding anything back. Guys play the games because if they don't wait three days to call, wait a while to return text messages or phone calls, they are seen as needy, whether or not they are in fact needy is a different subject altogether.

Nothing is black and white, but there is no perfect balance. Most women want to want the guy more than they want the guy if that makes any sence?

IN your situation it makes more sence because of the casualness of teh relationship, and it is annoying when people flake on you, but he is just not that interested it he doesn't want to take the time to see you. It's just that simple.

This is random, but I have hit a wicked flake streak. Not just with dates, pretty much anybody that says they are going to do anything hasn't came through. From guy friends watching a game, to workout partners, to dates, to basically anything. It is rather strange. maybe there is something in the air?

It's not what women want, it's what they respond to. If you don't want games go for the needy guy that seems desperate or the horney guy that is looking to get laid on the first date.

It might not be intentional, but that is what he is doing. Or he is just moving on. Maybe he decided that his kids came first or something.

I don't know the guy, but even after you got annoyed and confused by him, knowing that he will likely not offer the companionship that you want, you are still willing to be friends with him. I have to ask, why?

Ugh, I don't. California girls are crazy like that, and I am a pretty strait shooter. It is a delicate line to walk, if you return texts right away you seem needy and desperate, if you don't you seem disinterested.

Going through hardship early in a relationship is a way to intensify the emotions in a relationship. After the strong anger there will not be any more ambivilance in the relationship

That's the initial emotion, which turns to the thought "why do I care so much, we only went out on one date." Which begs the question "maybe I like him"

most women that I know need some sort of turmoil or drama to develop strong emotions. The strong anger can lead to strong passion. Not saying it always does, or it works every time, but you would be suprised at the power of jealousy in women.