I have not read this in YEARS! Thank you for posting it. It really puts things in perspective.

I am also dealing with a trust issue right now with a friend that I have made on this site. He seems like a great guy; however, I have been burned ALOT in the past and unfortunately that is carrying over into this relationship. We are just friends but what if it turns into something more? I need to learn to trust and not judge him on past experience. Some great people on this site have given me some great advice: take it slow, actions speak louder than words, and listen to your instincts.

Thanks, Mystique...you are right. I will try to take it slow and not rush anything.

It is because I have trusted so easily in the past that I am not so trusting now, unfortunately. I wish I had that intuition, gut feeling, or whatever you want to call it...being able to gauge someone's positive or negative energy. I wouldn't be pulling my hair out trying to figure out if I should trust this guy or not. I will just have to wait until I meet him. He says beautiful things to me. Now I will just have to see if his actions reflect what he has said to me.

Thanks again for all of your advice. I will just have to be honest with this guy and tell him what is and what isn't going to be happening. If he still wants to meet and get to know each other, well then he will be one up on the trust factor.

Good luck to you all!

Very wise!

Good for you! As much as I have been played in the past, I am still astounded at the "I am the greatest man to walk the earth and you should kiss my feet" attitude.

An ultimatum??? OMG...get over yourself! That is too funny.

Thank you all for your advice. I do need to trust in myself and not get pulled in again by fancy words. You are right...actions speak louder than words.

Ok, how do you learn to trust someone without driving yourself insane and not driving away the person who might be "the one?" I am sooo tired of hearing what a great person I am and pretty...blah, blah, blah yet I get used time after time after time. Please don't get me wrong. Every girl, and guy, wants to hear that they are physically attractive and that they are a great person on the inside. But when you hear it so many times followed by squealing tires, it makes you wonder...am I really that person or were they just saying that to get what they want?

I have met a man on here and he seems sincere. But he has said the same exact things that I have heard in the past. He seems to be everything I could want for a partner but I don't trust what he says because of past experience. I don't think I can take another "player." How can I protect myself from getting hurt for the 100th time? I really like this guy but I don't trust him or the praises he has lavished on me because I have heard it too many times before. But what if he actually is sincere and I screw it up because I let past experiences interfer? Hell, I don't know. I apologize for the whining but I am honestly at a lost. I JUST DON'T WANT TO GET USED AGAIN!!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated - Thank you.

Does the search criteria actually work? Because every one of my Mutual Matches were at least 4" shorter than me, although I specified at least 2" taller than me, and most of them live about 1000 miles away. When I checked my search options just to make sure that I had set the correct specifications, all was in order but I still only received the "wrong" matches based on how I set up my search options.

Yes, you are young but age, to me, does not matter when you feel like you are ready for that someone special. And, yes, there are still decent girls left you just haven't found the one that fits you. It is good that you are so picky. Your chance for success in a relationship is that much greater. I can't tell you how many "frogs" I have dated but I am not about to settle for less than what I and my children deserve and neither should you! I know it is hard but do try to be patient.

"Where did you come up with ThickRod as your ID name???"