I see your point David , Iam available as a person to have a non sexual relationship , as a friend as an activity partner and some one like what we are doing now , bouncing our doubts and thoughts with , what wrong with that .
What wrong with a being a Buddy and not Hubby

From this what I gather is the only thing that is not on the table (intimate companionship) is the most important thing what mostly everybody is missing intheir lives . Rest seem simply like garnish for the picking . I feel sorry , I truly do , wish people don't see glass half empty even it is .