I don't understand people , they claim to look for qualities like honesty , straightforward , chivalry , spontaneity , being witty , yet with the ability to laugh to make em laugh etc etc, and inspite of checking boxes in all these qualities and making attempt to get people out of their shell by breaking the ice , I still come out empty , why is that?

I tried being my intellectual , simply funny , inspirational and made so many more positive attempts with my other attributes and I just have peekers who would amuse themselves with what I have to say and just go back to being their sorry self still wanting to be rescued . I just don't get it ?

Before , you judge me by saying I come out needy in my profile I must add in my own defence that being confident in the face of other insecurities ,in reality is not accept as charming . I've been myself and it just didn't help.
Nobody get threatened by the underdog . Hence it is what it is

What I'm I doing so right that is wrong
Rgds
Al

Ok for those of you who gonna get smart with me on my laps of wording in my initial msg , better be warned , I mean it , I will find you , come on you page , pick the nudge option and select the Kick the Bum button . You know who you are , so lay em down and walk away so nobody gets kicked .

Perhaps it is the fact that your profile says that you are married.

I see your point David , Iam available as a person to have a non sexual relationship , as a friend as an activity partner and some one like what we are doing now , bouncing our doubts and thoughts with , what wrong with that .
What wrong with a being a Buddy and not Hubby

From this what I gather is the only thing that is not on the table (intimate companionship) is the most important thing what mostly everybody is missing intheir lives . Rest seem simply like garnish for the picking . I feel sorry , I truly do , wish people don't see glass half empty even it is .

I agree with David. Not many women want to be involved with a married man. There is a level of respect involved

Yellow rose , may I ask you if you find the company of some of Married male friends meningful , some of them you may have grown up with or went to school with in a more innocent time . When do we define such type of relations as and involvement and breaks it down to details of correctness . Yes there is no agenda attached and yet you have their support , what wrong in that.

We just Indulge in some of our common interest , probably like a gym buddy or a country cross training partner . In this case activ-buddies. Or a sponsor or mentor in rehab or selfhelp , where you are not related yet are involved deeply in aspects of the others life only because you care about

We are all mature people , fully aware of the lucrative don't , and fully capable to respect and be respected .

If I respect and honor my vow explicit , what wrong in apprecting others people for who they are .

It about cherishing life , and not self glorification

But that is your opinion. It's not many others opinion.

Your are right In what you say , I respect that .

We all see the world we live in differently , and that the best part. there is always something still
That can get us by surprise in a good way.


David thanks for stating your opinion , this is not directed to what you said , it just me rashionalizing things

Coming back to davids point , declaring being married , makes me rather undesirable as a person in a strange way

So my personality as a living person , who I am , what Iam capable of what makes me a joy or a bane to indulge with and all of which that defines only me as a person , can and will be overlooked because I chose to be responsible in upholding a promise , this is also to say that my life status is a systemic isolation practiced by the society that we are members of .

So the conundrum is ,are we to hide fact to be accepted ,is this the norm now , the. I must be a oblivious idealist or is being transparent still a currency that hold value .

What do I do to connect to people what wanna make a difference

I don't mean to offend or direct my statement on or to anyone , it to the society as a whole
Don't take it personally , as I seek an answers

I don't take it personal. I don't get involved with a married man or even one ib a relationship. It is respect.

I get what your saying , but considering this being a hypnotical situation

what must I do to actually make that difference .

Please feel free to suggest what you truly feel by bringing out your big guns and going to town on this , Don't have to employ a constrained demenour , I don't get offended and I don't judge, I might only reason .

I want raw opinion , no holding back , if you condone such an approach , please say so . If you think it's harmless as I do please advice me my you will consider it .

May be Iam missing the point from where I stand . I need to know

You read what the ONE WOMAN who responded to this thread wrote. It's reality. You can argue, debate, disagree, or even invent your own reality. I doubt anybody here really gives a rat's azz. Good luck.

So what I am getting id you are right and I am wrong so I have to think as you do? Nope. You are married...pass.

My friends that are married or in a relationship with, I am friends with both

Even without sex, it's cheating

Oh hush and go make me a sammich.

Bite me

Thank you Yellowrose for your honesty , I respect that

My reasoning has nothing to do with establishing what right or wrong and and I make no such attempts to get your or others to agree with me , and if ever I have address my statement as you , I was trying to personify it as a society and not individual . And my endeavor are directed in finding raw and rational answers on questions I seek some clarity on for me and myself only .

This is no attempt on my part for being liked or winning any popularity votes and or propogate what I think.and as a fellow mingled "Waterloosunset" correctly pointed out , who gives a rats azz , and all in good humor .

My attempt was very simple , I wanted to know what's the reason for lack of traction when I engage with people in here in general and you guy and pointed a possible aspect what might attribute to it .

My finding are Married men are to be confined and their rights to acquaint with other of the opposit sex should be observed under strict supervision and regulated . Once your married your are technically exiled and live out you natural existance under the aforementioned system. Ok that just messing with you all ........ have a laugh

Thank you guys , I did not yet receive a satisfactory answers ,so my quest continues . Appreciate your efforts and your time

Back to square one , Rate My Profile

Most of the photos are silly and pointless. The essay is informative and your knowledge of English is impressive, but your grammar skills are lacking. Additionally, it lacks a certain cohesion. I believe in your case brevity might serve you better.

Lastly, the married thing is going to be a turn off to most women. They don't really care what YOU think. It's their thinking that matters, like it or not.