When power leads man toward arrogance, poetry reminds him of his limitations. When power narrows the area of man's concern, poetry reminds him of the richness and diversity of existence. When power corrupts, poetry cleanses.

~ John F. Kennedy

ok who is the other one?

this

you're not allowed to or are you just frightened to?

she said sensible, "SENSIBLE chatters!"

i don't presume to know other people's motives. i'm just offering a possible scenario.

my suggestion could be completely wrong, the op needs to find this out...as best she can. she is responsible for how she allows others to treat her, not me and certainly not the guy in question. he only does what she lets him.

well, i know this is the internet, but has anyone considered the possibility that he, like her, is interested in developing an actual relationship?

he may be sitting back thinking this could be real, but he wants to meet with her, spend some time with her, see if she is really the person he has been talking to for all this time.

i seem to be in the minority here, but i could never commit to anyone that i have never met. so maybe, just maybe, he is on the level and simply needs something a bit more tangible than emails, im's, phone calls or skype conversations.

oh this is easy, it's my....hold on a sec, i'll be back......

uh oh, what did you do?

thinking it's damn hot out still.

of course...

stopping in to say hi...

ok then.

you know what op?

the truth is that all people get passed up, good, bad, male, female, hot, ugly, it simply doesn't matter. it's more a matter of timing and connection.

if one doesn't have at least one or both of these, things will not work out.

the biggest difference, as far as i can tell, is that anyone that doesn't label themselves as a "good guy" also refrains from getting on a public forum and whining about it!

The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it.

lina ronstadt ~ blue bayou

linda ronstadt ~ desperado

sorry i just couldn't commit to reading this entire thread...

there are no rules to this stuff, no magical formula to follow, no sure fire way to ensure success...

if there were, there would be no need for sites such as these, no need for anything other than high school to find your 'perfect one'.

you either put yourself out there or you don't. it either works or it doesn't. anything else, only complicate things.

If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that's a full day. That's a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you're going to have something special.

~ Jim Valvano