The first rule is honesty...so why is it a lot of you are posting photos of yester-year on your profile. To me this is the first sign of dis-honesty and I move on. You say you are looking for someone honest and yet you yourself are not. There are those of us honest enough to post our current photos knowing that we have a better chance of a real relationship if we are open about everything from the start. Try it put the real you out there for the world to see. It may bring you the one your looking for.

I don't subscribe to any "Rules" of Dating. And complete honesty.. it's not expected on an internet dating profile, or even on a first date. Everyone is trying to make themselves look more attractive, and why shouldn't they?

You may find that after getting to know someone better that they're not right for you, but I don't think it's bad that people are not entirely honest in their profiles. Photoshopped pics, or pics from a year ago, or more I could deal with as long as they're seriously looking for somebody.

Hmm.. I thought the first rule !. was not to fart in front of them

And burp too please..

Thats the whole point! People are on here looking for a relationship of one kind or another. How would you like it if you fell in love with this womans photo and you hit it off in conversation and finely you both meet in person and it was a 90 year old woman you fell in love with.

.. I guess that would depend on if she's .. really really rich..

Then talk to them on cam before meeting and you won't have that problem. But if you're falling in love with someone's pic before even meeting them, then that's a other story.

I agree, don't know how you fall in love with someone over messages and emails. I need to be with someone in person to know if love is in the air.

I guss I should refraise that to say" Lust"... for those fo you that aren't looking for love.

Also you can tell a lot about a person when reading their messages once you learn to read and understand what they said. It takes effort.. once again something people NOT looking for love would understand.

People are funny.
Actually I fell in love with a voice, with the written word and many photos, skype, phone calls, gifts.
Skype is helpful too.
And yes face to face was even better.
Be patient....

Thank you for your support in this matter. I will be paitent and sooner or later she will come alonge. Gust trying to educate a few people that really are looking for love.

Simple:

accept that the internet is a lie - by default.
and the way to find the truth is to meet the person in ... person.

been there, and have had a few "revelations" myself.
Once met a lady....
Hooly smokes was she small!
I coulda' spit on her head - no joking!
And while we would text each other fine, and bounce between silly jokes and serious discussions, when we were together it made me feel awkward.

do not complain about what you see on the net.
meet the person, and find out the truth.
(and even then...!!)

Now this I agree with, and the one I'm with now she got my interest because of her posts here in the forums, and our messages to each other. But it wasn't until after we met face to face that we knew we had feelings for each other that was real.

Now, I wasn't disagreeing with you about pics being deceiving, and people should be honest with the pics they use that show them. I just meant that I personally don't think anything can be real until meeting in person. And camming will at least let you see what the person looks like.

I agree about the camming, met a woman and via emails, seemed we had a lot in common, so we skyped, but every time, she was laying in bed, saying that was her favorite thing to do, and it just brought back too many memories of my ex that couldn't get out of bed on the weekends and do stuff with me. So I lost interest very quickly.

I am sorry I have to disagree with you, I am one that is honest on my profile always have been. For the simple reason if a person starts out with lies on a profile what else are they going to lie about?

I agree everyone should put their best foot forward and yet if that is all there is how can that be real.


I personally like when people put several pictures on their profiles showing me glimpses of who they really are.

How disappointing it would be to some guy I might be interested in if all my pictures were of me looking drop dead gorgeous and come to find out I am pretty much a plain Jane without all the air brushing? I prefer to post my pictures of me doing normal everyday life.


I personally don't believe in rules of dating, if I did have a rule it would be..
Begin as you are going to continue.. In other words keep it real or I will loose interest pretty fast.

And yet I have no problem with people doing what ever they want to do on their own profiles..

Why is it that written profile or picture is a big issue to most of the people here? Yes, I understand personal details are helpful but I believe that everyone has their own reasons why they do what they do not because they are dishonest. It is all up to you, if you are really interested with someone then you take a step to get to know the real person and don't just base everything on her profile because that would be like judging the book by its cover. Dig in more and get personal, talk to her often, establish a connection and sooner you will know if she's real or fake. If you have questions or doubts about one's identity or even your feelings if it comes to that, confirm and reaffirm everything that you need to know. As to confirm the pic if its real, there is an available medium which is video cam, you will get to see each other cam to cam and if that is not enough coz some girls are photogenic or telegenic then see her personally and you will see the whole truth with no more doubts.

Cry me a river.

Some people see only what they want to see. I have up pictures that show me in less than flattering clothes setting in my easy chair and very clearly showing that I am greying and fluffy. But their are still some who will look only at the pictures that( I also say span a decade) that show some of my interests family and the very first thing they say is I love your long dark hair. Selective "hearing".

If you are not some vain dingbat, who constantly selfies, the chances are to find a few photos that don't include others or show your hobbies; not ALL of them are going to be current. I would much rather see a out of date photo that tells me someone's priorities, or accomplishnments, than obsess on what a person exactly looks like when I am going to meet them.

Selecting someone because you are in lust or love with a picture is just insanity.

The first rule of dating is not to act like an azzhole on the first date or subsequent dates. However, since some people are azzholes by nature they are operating at a severe handicap...