My life seems more of "Poetry in Motion" rather than Drama.

Here are some warning signs that your spouse could be cheating on you.

* Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.

* There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship. Your sex life is practically non-existent.

* You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about self.

* You spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.

* You can't get your spouse to communicate with you.

* Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.

* Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.

* Your mate is working longer hours at work.

* Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.

* You notice charges on credit card statement that don't make sense.

* Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.

* You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.

* Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.

* He/she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.

* You can't even get your mate to fight with you.

* You feel as if you are being avoided.

* Your partner abandons religious faith.

* Your spouse seems more secretive.

Alone-Dokken

Welcome to the site. Have fun. Enjoy and best wishes to you.

Am pretty new myself here. Newer than you are. So maybe i'd need some rating myself.

However, personally i feel that if you're comfortable with your profile, then that's all that's required. Just make sure that you're clear enough on your choices, so the other person knows what you want and what you don't.

Anyway, welcome to this site. Have fun and enjoy.

Hey, don't be upset. I just read your profile. Its looks pretty much ok to me. You're very clear with your choices. And thats good.

Lonestar is correct, when he said you're lucky not to get any sarcastic replys today. I've seen quite a few myself. And if you hang in the forums, you'll notice that yourself.

There's nothing to be upset here. Cheer up lady. Enjoy and have fun here.

And hey, welcome to this site.

The very fact that you ask this question, tells me you're confused and not sure about yourself. I mean you're not sure of being single or starting a relationship.

My advice is, take your time to decide. Do not be in any hurry. Time itself will tell you when its right for you to start a relationship.

No, you're not.

There is definitely no specific answer to this question.
Everyone is different.

Sometimes you can push yourself to keep holding on to someone even though you know that you don't love them. It is really unhealthy to do so and will just worsen the situation especially if the person is in love with you. But someone can only take so much. Usually you know when it is time to let go.

1. Lack of communication
2. Abusive (emotionally and/or physically)
3. Cheating
4. Financially irresponsible

Although all of the above should be signs of real problems.

The one "breaking point" that is subtle is "falling out of love or drifting apart".

Nothing worse than being in a marriage and STILL feeling alone!

It always helps to do whatever it is that needs doing with love. But love alone will achieve nothing.

Real love doesn't have a breaking point because it isn't looking out to have it's own needs met. Real love is looking to fill someone else's needs so there isn't a breaking point. It's all of who you are for all of someone else. Real love has a supernatural source so it's a wellspring for others and not a black hole to be filled. Real love does conquer all but that doesn't mean that there are not times when real love is tough and takes a stand for what is right too. In the process of giving and serving someone else's best interests there are times where you have to step back, re-evaluate and do what is right - even if that means that the relationship has to stall, be mended or even end.

Miko, if you only listen and not participate, you non-verbally tell your date that you're not interested in her.

Secondly, you need to initiate a topic of conversation. But just be careful not to be over-initiative. Let your partner, talk about the things she likes too.

While on a date, one needs to pay attention to the non-verbal communication signs as well.

For most of the folks, this skill is inborn. But for some, it needs to be developed.

Look for signs.......i mean read the "body language". Such signs tells you if a person is bored or interested, happy or off-mood, etc etc.

No i haven't so far.......but am well prepared for one. Thats for sure.

Miko....here's a piece of advice.....

1. How to start conversation with a woman?

It definitely is a lot easier to put all of those things aside at the beginning of the relationship. If you have any outgoing friends, see if they can help you get into situations where you have to speak to a girl.

It may be terrifying, but it can help.


2.Women find men who are pro-active extremely attractive

You might have been a nervous wreck. You might have even been shaking.

Just try a normal conversation. Talk about classes, current events... anything.

Debate if you want.

Just talk. In no time you'll get relaxed and know her better.


3.Women appreciate assertive man

Bottom line: Women find cheerful men very attractive that are the quality, which men should go for. It involves confidence, charm, the ability to set goals, have fun, and that requires knowing yourself and your environment.

If you think you're a dork make a joke out of it, let others know that you're aware of what's going on, attend star trek conventions, or whatever it is your passionate about.


Now am no expert in this field, but again this is my personal view on this topic.

Women read into everything. They don’t take things at face value... they’re always interpreting. Most of the things that guys are doing to “pursue” and “seduce” women are actually working against them.

Attraction isn’t a “conscious” process at all, and if you don’t understand how it works, you could spend your whole life doing the wrong things and getting bad results.

"I cannot rest from travel: I will drink
Life to the lees: all times I have enjoyed
Greatly, have suffered greatly, both with those
That loved me, and alone;.....

I am become a name;
For always roaming with a hungry heart
Much have I seen and known; cities of men
And manners, climates, councils, governments,

I am part of all that I have met;
Yet all experience is an arch wherethrough
Gleams that untravelled world, whose margin fades
For ever and for ever when I move.

How dull it is to pause, to make an end,
To rust unburnished, not to shine in use!

To follow knowledge like a sinking star,
Beyond the utmost bound of human thought.

Though much is taken, much abides; and though
We are not now that strength which in the old days
Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are,
One equal-temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield."

....................."Ulysses" Alfred Lord Tennyson

Hey Andy, i quit.

Like you said, its "too open for bad jokes, in bad taste."

Wow.

Man does not live on bread alone
But on every word that comes from the mouth of God.