I have no problem answering my house door in boy shorts and a t-shirt or tank top..hell if it's good enough to wear around the house..it's good enough to answer the door or check the mail in!

Just wanted to say hi to everyone,I am from Sanford Maine anyone here from New England?

I have a friend who has offered to set up a website for me (it would be good for posting info about the books and stuff, anyway) but she's just been swamped at work lately and hasn't had the time. I personally like the idea of having a website, but other than writing stuff for it, I wouldn't know how to do much.

Did you ever know someone who wanted to project the image of being totally self-reliant and responsible and able to cope with anything and everything that comes up in life?

Well, I've run into a few of them. These are the people who basically just can't grasp the idea that there isn't anybody in the world who can handle absolutely every situation totally alone. Well, maybe Boris Karloff, but he's dead, so we can't ask him. Did you know his real name was William Henry Pratt? Had he kept that name, he could have been Prattenstein.

But for most of us, there comes a time when we have to put the imagery aside, put the ego back in the corn flakes box (what it was doing there in the first place is a subject for another post), and just say "Dammit, I need some help here."

I am reliably informed, by some of the world's leading people who like pretending they know stuff, that this is Not A Bad Thing® and that it's OK to acknowledge our own personal limitations.

So, earlier today, I was poodling around on the internet, looking at various dating sites I had never heard of. Why was I doing this? And well you may ask. Call it curiosity, call it masochism, call it anything you want. I wanted to get an idea of what's "out there," I suppose, since the pickings on the "usual suspect" sites have been pretty bleak.

But I have always said that the kind of person I'm looking for does not use dating sites. And I said that facetiously, at the time, or maybe not; but there WERE sites I hadn't looked at, so how would I really know?

OK, now I HAVE looked at them, and now I know.

Now, here's the problem: I don't know if this means that the kind of person I'm looking for doesn't use dating sites, or if it means that the kind of person I'm looking for no longer exists.

More information is required.

And this thing is too big for me to handle alone.

With that in mind, and because I'm too lazy to do my own thinking, I'm now soliciting ideas on how I should attempt to meet someone without using dating sites.

I was thinking of hiring a professional setter-upper, but do they still exist in this modern age of airplanes and microwave ovens? I don't know. I've never met one, as far as I know, but then I never really needed to before.

Or perhaps some sort of think tank, a group of the world's most brilliant minds, a consortium, if you will, of the planet's finest hookup experts, taking on a project so enormous, so massive, that not even NASA could build a Space Shuttle that wouldn't blow up 63% of the time.

What does it all mean?

It means -- I think, anyway -- that I'm done with having the same person stomp on my proverbial heart over and over, time after time, for no reason.

It's time to get past all that, and try to discover if there's actually someone out there that can handle being with an obscure writer, a reclusive hermit, with the attention span of a fruit fly, a self-confessed Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerk who's hung up on spelling and grammar and if you mess up another apostrophe, I'm going to throw this box of corn flakes at you, grandma.

OK, I'm done now.

Sorry for the rant.

But that's what I do.

And I do it well.

my sister use to go get fake bakes all the time. i dont know why she didnt need to be any darker..

but for the money she put in for getting tans all the time.. she ended up buying one.(she had it for yrs)

There is definitely a difference.

To me, being single and only cooking for myself, gas is the way to go. I can fire up the grill and do up a couple of hot dogs in about 5 minutes. Then I turn the grill off.

Can't do that with charcoal.

I actually do prefer to use charcoal. It's just not cost effective for me to use it.

And where might the respect for the other person's veiwpoint be?

You argue,debate, and blur lines to create a sense of false superiority....which speaks volumes of where your self esteem really sits.

Argumentative is NOT debating...

Argumentative is intentionally being obstructive.... and opposing in every aspect, and usually declines into intentional demeaning behaviours....there is little respect with an argumentative type person...it is an ego feed... and an elevated sense of superiority.

Debating is where the respect is constant, and the ideas are opposing....

it is very different.

i luv a good argument

I know a lot of people use grow lights, some have raised it outside in yards if they have real tall fences. Around here, in some of the more rural areas, they raise it out in the woods and hope no one stumbles across it during hunting seasons, or if they decide to log the area, etc. I don't like it, so am no help to you Duffy, sorry.


And, Thug, I agree. A substance is a substance, alcohol or drugs.
I don't think kids should be using either, including cigarettes. But I appear to be in the minority in this thread. My daughter has an addictive personality and got really messed up for years by alcohol and played around with pot. She is still on cigarettes. It worries me that in her early 20s the doctors told her she had signs of early EMPHYSEMA on a chest x-ray --- AND SHE IS STILL SMOKING!!!!! and is 34 now. She has 2 little kids and I was hoping she would quit to save her lungs. Her dad drank himself to death at 45 years old, literally. Only so much a mom can do though.

It depends, are they intentionally seeking arguments? Do they have difficulties understaning things?

I know there really isn't a difference in arguements and debates...but in my warped mind...I classify an arguement as a type of fight and can be heated or disrespectful. a debate (to me) is a civil arguement of different sides and in the end....can walk away to agree to disagree or something of that nature.

I only say this to avoid any arguements about my posts in here. this way people can TRY to understand my warped mind