So this is where all the cool people hang out in the a.m.

Good Morning from St. Louis everyone. Hope everyone has a great day and what are we talking about today? Keep it simple for me I have only had two cups of coffee and just starting to actually be able to see lol.



Kandy

I hope I dont get booed out of here but I don't like the little blue pill. I am a very sexually charged woman and I want to be the reason for letting the good times roll not a pill. I know it has been a blessing for the men that really need it but wouldn't you agree that it is over used and some men are just to lazy to work it the way nature was meant to be. It all goes back to our way of living now in this instant gratification world of ours. I know I don't need no pill just a good man that is willing to work with me.

sweetcheeks aka: Kandy
p.s. And I would like to add that my orgasms are better more frequent and more intense than any other time in my life. Just might have to dust the cobwebs off from there lol.

Teresa this is so weird but I just went to the dr about the fibrolyalgais thing, right now they arent taking it to serious because they think I am still trying to recoup from the past 2 years. I am getting my strength back and getting back to the old me again. Well I should say the new me the old me will never be again. Today would have been my 4th wedding anniversay but I am taking it much better that I thought I would, this group is great because we can be so open about the way we really feel.

To all of you thank you for letting me in and thank you for giving me a place to talk about him and my feelings about the accident, and for not judging, just listening. You are all great people and I wish us all the best and hope we all find whatever it is that makes us happy again.

Sweetcheeks aka: Kandy :smile

Thank you all I really appreciate the comments. From them I am thinking I might be spending night alone for the next 11 years lol. She is more than worth it. I have grown kids also all on their own so I do have babysitters. What about eldlerly parents living with someone? Is that a deal breaker also? We are the sandwich generation, could be small kids could be elderly parents. I don't have my parents any more but would like thoughts on this issue also.
Have a great weekend everyone.

OK, I am 52 and have grown children but I also have a beautiful 7 year old daughter. Of course, she is my number one priority, I would like to know how the over 50 crowd feels about this? Is it a plus? Is it a deal breaker? Does this make me less marketable? I would appreciate feed back from both sexes as I have run into more and more men that are raising children alone, or have young children later in life. Thank You

Kandy

Nothing Material but......Loyalty, trust, respect, love, passion, compassion, an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on, arms to hug you, good conversation, wonderful days and wild nights. And the final thing never a dull moment there will be laughter and fun along with what life brings you the good, the bad, and the ugly. I don't run away I stay for the long haul.

Old Sage

Thank you darlin, Florissant is in St. Louis County. And my car blew up lol so until July I am in Florissant literally. Having dinner with a gentleman such as yourself would be wonderful.

I would be happy right now meeting a real man just for dinner and here I am talking about moving in lol. Talk about putting the cart in front of the horse. Seems we are so disposable on these sites that if you don't meet all the criteria you are kicked to the curb so right now a date would be a good start. My momma used to always say Cross that Bridge When you get to it and right now there is not a bridge in site.

Hi Dave
I am still a newbie so I am still learning the ropes around here. At first I felt that my posts got quickly overlooked but I know now that is not the case. I am sure there are some strong companionships that have formed over time. Someday we will be in with them, but I do they read our posts and they care and they certainly make us feel wellcome.

Teresa, I was at one of the hosp. my husband was in and the dr. looked at me and pulled me aside and got me set up at the clinic. I was dehydrated, low on all vitamins, had to give myself B12 shots, and was very depressed and run down. I have spent the the last few months trying to rest and get healthy. People tell me I look better but I still feel exhausted most of the time. I notice my verbage is different since the accident, everything I refer to is before the accident, after the accident, and after Rick died. They all say it gets better with time so I am praying that it does. On myspace I have made it where I can go there and listen to "our songs" look at "our Pictures" and cry when I have to. Again thank you all for letting me just write. Bless you all.

This is a great place and ty all for you kindness and thoughts and well wishes. I see that I am not nuts by wanting to wear my hubbys shirts at night. My one daughter does not understand why I am on here but it doesn't take anything away from how much I love and miss my Rick. It for me is just trying to be among the living again and maybe when the time is right finding someone to love again. I hope that person will also be a widow so they understand that the heart is big enough to have different types of love in it and maybe we could build a new life but both knowing there is a piece of our hearts that belong to the ones we have lost. When you have a loved one that was never able to come back home for 15 months after the accident and whose mind and body would never work again you suffer two deaths, the death on the day your world crashed and then the day they pass on to what I pray is a better place for him. I really appreciate this forum and thank you all for listening and understanding. Kandy

Treasa
I am having the same problem here, I just can't do it. I like you am so lonely and cry almost every day. Sometimes it is the first thing I do when I wake up and the last thing I do before going to sleep. Are you like me and feel like if you get rid of his things that is more of him slipping away? I feel like I have to hold on to all the little pieces of him I can. Good Luck to you hun and if anyone has any suggestions I could sure them also.
Kandy

I don't really care much about the age but would love to find someone that has the energy to do the things they say they like to do lol. I like all of todays music love to dance and can keep up with the trends. I just could never date anyone younger than my older kids and thats 34. I could date someone 70 if he had energy and was still up to doing things. Age is just a number.

I know how the woman feels when she says no one wants her because I have the same feeling. Is it that I am just not ready because my husband treated me like I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I miss him so bad but want to get on with life also. do men look at widows differntly (sorry can't spell) than they do divorced woman? Is it because I am 52 and have a 7 year old at home? We had only been married two and a half years when the accident happened and May 18th would have been our four year anniversary so we were still in the honeymoon stage. I know how hard it is for me, I cant imagine being with someone many years and losing them. Bless us all they say better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I try to remind myself of this every day. Thanks for letting me have a place to write these feelings.

I didn't read all of the posts but I do believe we send out some kind of a vibe that is very interesting. When I decided to start looking again for romance I noticed things that maybe were always there I just didn't pay attention to or was it a scent or a look I gave but when I started looking I noticed men looking back. I think we send a signal without any words if its,i am desperate, in pain, happy, life is good, etc. I think a person with stinking thinking sends out that vibe. If you are happy and confident that vibe is there also. We are how we think.

Well Atlantis if I was younger, thinner, and lived up that way I would do my best to get your attention. But I am 52, thick (sounds so much better than fat doesn't it) and live in Mo. I guess I will just sit and wait for my price to find me here.

I would go for the internship with a clear head and not involve these innocent people that could get hurt when you have to go. Maybe it's time to think with the head on your shoulders instead of the other one. That one usually causes problems at your age lol. Good Luck with the inernship

not what you need right now

oldsage

you are a very smart man

I loved being married also did it three times
but most of us are done having kids so why complicate things?

I need to take a road trip real bad:

If I felt it was a comitted realationship I most certainly would, the reasons,finances. At this stage of life I have to protect whats mine and lot of men feel the same way. I don't think a piece of paper proves anything at this stage of life. I can really relate to the losing yourself part also everytime I get with someone I lose some of me and am determined it's not going to happen again but it is hard to teach an old dog new tricks lol.