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Tue 10/20/09 05:04 AM


sad sad I need understanding on this I don't why my oldest is acting the way he is in this.I meet a awesome guy on here and the last two days were wonderful.He treated me with respect and honor and like a lady.He made dinner for us Friday night then took us to the fair and spent alot time with the boys.He showed love to me and the boys but my oldest pushed away and showed him self now my youngest son is hurt and so am I.I have been crying and hurt by this.This guy wanted to be a part of our lives and wanted to be apart of my sons.My oldest lashed out at him and told him not to come around any more.This really hurt the guy and he probably want come around any more.Why is my oldest pushing away every guy that comes into my life?It's like he dosen't want me to find happiness.Please help!!!!!


How long did you know this man when you introduced him to your children?
I had known him for several months, They don't meet my kids like in the first month or so i wait at least five before they meet them because i want to know if their for real.I can say this my kids are smart and they have learned to accept yes men will come and go in my life.They will be friends with a guy but they want let him in close to their heart till they know for sure.

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Tue 10/20/09 04:57 AM

If this guy blew you off then you are starting to see the handwriting on the wall. Caving when your options are tough is only going to mean you are putting off the problem. And making a child the authority in your home and his life. I feel really sorry for your kid. The suggestion of talking to a recruiter and getting a mentor for your child is a good idea but the person who really needs a mentor is you. Maybe you will get lucky and the recruiter can match you up with a strong Marine spouse to mentor you. I will pray for you. If you think life is hard now you don't get it in check You have not seen nothing yet.
To answer you thought here I'm not caving right now just taking sometime off to get myself back on track and come back better then ever.Also I didn't cave into my son when got home he found out who the boss was real quick and I put my foot down hard and I mean hard.he now knows who is running this house and my life.I made him realize he is the child and i'm the adult and if he couldn't handle it hit the road then.I have gained control back and it's my rules or the highway.

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Mon 10/19/09 08:52 PM

I had a bad day yesterday so im trying to get my mind off of it. Whats everyone gonna be for halloween?
waving Sweety I'm sorry you had a bad day yesterday and I wish you well and I know how you feel in the hurt department I can truly understand and tomorrow we can discuss this else where you know where i mean hehe.Hugs for you smile now for me ok.Oh by the way what I'm going to be is witch haha i wear a mask all year long it never changes lol.

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Mon 10/19/09 01:20 PM
:banana: :banana: :banana: Hmmm I know I'm not in my 50"s yet but I hope there is because mine has gone through the roof lol.They say it slows down but mine hasn't hehe.pitchfork pitchfork

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Mon 10/19/09 01:07 PM
brokenheart Single didn't work out.Dang can't find a man up for the challenge lol.laugh laugh laugh I thought men loved challenges haha.rofl rofl rofl

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Mon 10/19/09 12:29 PM


brokenheartUPDATE: Hey Guys thanks for all the advice and i have called this guy and he responded today and he is calling it over.It hurts but I have made my decision to be single and stop looking.I feel right now there are no guys out there that want to be with a woman like me that has kids.It's to much drama and stress for them and I'm sorry if it is but I can't change that in my life right now.so I'm single and just looking for friends and if some guy wants to take the challenge just be honest with your self and me.maybe will see I'm not sure right now.Thanks again for all the help and advice.You guys have been great and awesome.


Good luck w/ this hon. It's difficult. I've been raising my two kids solo for almost 5 years. If you want to share stories & support one another. Mail me offline. Take care.
Thanks so much I would love to email you if you like you can contact me on here and send a mail through.I tried to email you but it wouldn't let me through.Take Care Cgirl777

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Mon 10/19/09 12:09 PM
brokenheart Yes I have given up right now.I feel there isn't anyone who wants to date a woman with kids.They think it's to much drama and stress for them.I'm not here for my kids I'm here for me.So I'm single and not looking anymore.Just here for friends right now.

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Mon 10/19/09 11:57 AM
brokenheartUPDATE: Hey Guys thanks for all the advice and i have called this guy and he responded today and he is calling it over.It hurts but I have made my decision to be single and stop looking.I feel right now there are no guys out there that want to be with a woman like me that has kids.It's to much drama and stress for them and I'm sorry if it is but I can't change that in my life right now.so I'm single and just looking for friends and if some guy wants to take the challenge just be honest with your self and me.maybe will see I'm not sure right now.Thanks again for all the help and advice.You guys have been great and awesome.

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Sun 10/18/09 07:47 PM
:banana: I have both Facebook and Myspace check it out sometime.

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Sun 10/18/09 11:59 AM



Why is my oldest pushing away every guy that comes into my life?



How many guys has he been introduced to?

Perhaps, in his view it is too many?



:smile: Only four----This guy was the fourth and maybe the last.I'm to point of just staying single till he{my son} leaves home in two years to go into the Marines.I'm the type I don't like stress and drama and I;m just one that will keep peace.I will give up all for my son just to keep peace even though it's going to hurt for along time.I guess I will get into my work more to keep my mind off things.

Marines ?.
That is no good job .
Why not college and a decent life ?.
Marines get the orders from politicians and have no freedom of choice in their own lives !!!.
He has had this goal since fourth grade and has not changed it and i support all decisions except the one he is making now.He is going to a college academy and will graduate with a high school diploma and a associate degree. then he will finish in the military.

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Sun 10/18/09 11:53 AM

I think the obvious reason is that children do not like to see someone else take the place of a parent and also insecurity and fear of losing . So it both jealousy and insecurity .
:smile: Thanks ----For the insecurity I have so many times tried to reassure both my boys they will always have me and I would always be there for them.That love will never leave no matter what they are my heart and forever and always will be in life no how old they get.I have reassured so much I don't know how to get through to him.I have taught them this is my priorities in life and always will be no matter what life brings---God,Whom ever comes into my life,My kids,Family,ect.I just wish he could learn to love and trust again.I have tried so much to teach him that but there times he turns away from me.I have also told him he would not lose me either that's something i can not do nor will ever do in life.

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Sun 10/18/09 11:45 AM

Why is my oldest pushing away every guy that comes into my life?



How many guys has he been introduced to?

Perhaps, in his view it is too many?



:smile: Only four----This guy was the fourth and maybe the last.I'm to point of just staying single till he{my son} leaves home in two years to go into the Marines.I'm the type I don't like stress and drama and I;m just one that will keep peace.I will give up all for my son just to keep peace even though it's going to hurt for along time.I guess I will get into my work more to keep my mind off things.

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Sun 10/18/09 08:07 AM

how old is your oldest son?
:smile: He is fifth teen and hasn't had anyone in his life since there father left about 7 years ago.See I'm not looking a daddy I'm looking a companion for me and if they want to be apart of there i'm ok with it as long as they treat them with respect.This guy did it all and respected my boys and me.

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Sun 10/18/09 07:57 AM
sad sad I need understanding on this I don't why my oldest is acting the way he is in this.I meet a awesome guy on here and the last two days were wonderful.He treated me with respect and honor and like a lady.He made dinner for us Friday night then took us to the fair and spent alot time with the boys.He showed love to me and the boys but my oldest pushed away and showed him self now my youngest son is hurt and so am I.I have been crying and hurt by this.This guy wanted to be a part of our lives and wanted to be apart of my sons.My oldest lashed out at him and told him not to come around any more.This really hurt the guy and he probably want come around any more.Why is my oldest pushing away every guy that comes into my life?It's like he dosen't want me to find happiness.Please help!!!!!

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Fri 10/16/09 04:40 AM
drinker Good Morning To all I have the coffee ready ,anyone want to join me?Lol Have A Great Weekend to all on here.Stay Blessed.:banana: :banana:

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Wed 10/14/09 07:10 AM
:banana: Taken and he has stolen my heart and proposed and I said yes.drinker bigsmile

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Sun 10/11/09 04:41 PM

What are we to do in finding Love;

First seek the kingdom of GOD and his Righteousness and he will meet your needs.

Trust in the lord to direct your heart in finding the right person.

Above all things PRAY over it and seek wisdom in your search.

do not rush into a relationship, prepare yourself first.

Seek to please God in everything you do!

God is in Control, He will Bless You.

Be patience and slow to anger...

Love one another as God Loves You.

Be Faithful to the one you are with!

Forgive sins as God has forgiven your sins.

Wait on the Lord He will Answer You.

Walk by faith not by sight.

Grow in your relationship with Jesus.

Put God First in your Life...


waving Wow Love this it speaks truth and love.:thumbsup:

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Sun 10/11/09 09:11 AM

Hey all,

I know I have not been that active on the Forums recently but I am going through some things right now, Shoulder surgery, financial troubles, and most recently some false legal accusations. I just need prayer in all areas of my life right now. Thank you for time and prayers
smile2 You are in my prayers,Stay Blessed

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Sun 10/11/09 08:43 AM

Tell me, is there someone real out there? I keep getting mail from these guys who aren't who they say they are. They don't have a cam, now I know why, because they aren't who they say they are. They tell me they love me after 2 or 3 mails and I reply back saying that is impossible, but they insist, then all of a sudden they have to travel far away and next thing you know, they have had an accident or have been robbed and need money to go back home. What is the matter with people, it makes us very discouraged thinking there really isn't anyone out there that is real.


waving Welcome if you like I have a site I can give you that let's you know if they are a scammer or not.It's really helpful and I use it from time to time if I'm not sure.I have sent to a few other women that were not sure and they really loved this site because of the information it offered.You can email me on here and I will send it to you.To answer your question yes they are some that are real and I have made friends with quite a few on here and I truly love the friendship I have made with them.They are so awesome.Take care Stay Blessed and Have Fun.

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Fri 10/09/09 08:51 PM


waving To all my Mingle friends on here I'm sending you warm Hugs and smiles.Wishing you guys an awesome weekend and have fun.:banana:


awww, thnx! How'd you know I like hugs? :)
flowers smile2 As we say here in the south darling here is plenty more hugs---hug ya hug ya hug ya your sweet and an angel take care