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Thu 10/29/09 05:29 AM


waving My son would like to know if he did the right thing in letting this girl go.He felt she was to clingy and she seemed to like someone else but could never be honest in her answer.Every time he asked her about this she could not look him in the eyes and she would look off.Also she didn't seem as happy unless she was with the other guy.He only stayed in the relationship because he felt sorry for her.He needs a males perspective on this if he should stay or get out.



Sounds to me like your son has lost interest in being Prince Charming to his girlfriend. Maybe for good reason, teenage girls are not the securest people.

This one sounds a little intimidated by his demands about the loyalty of her feelings. Maybe she has had trouble talking to her parents or peers historically but a few words about communicateing rather than demanding and answer when you want the truth. He is smart to pick up on her body language but I would remind him not to jump to conclusions. Life is not NCIS. She might have just felt less pressure to be lovey dovey with the other guy around and actually does care about your son.

Probably in everybodies best interest to attempt and amicable seperation by just "drifting apart" and trying to remain friends. Not saying they are but it is likely that they have been intimate and she maybe clingey because she is worried about a bad reputation or pregnancy. It is in your son's best interest to be reminded that it might seem macho to kiss and tell it is not a cool social move.

This is a great teaching moment to talk about realestic expectations about High School relationships, personality types, and maybe the need to keep some women just friends and not FWB's be cause as practical as it might sound it rarely works out. Maybe asking if he sees some importance in not being so caught up in being a hero when just being a supportive friend will be easier to live with.

This may be a lonely time for your son. Girlfriend's, weather desireable or not, give a position in the social pecking order in high school and he may be in need of moral support. You want to make sure he doesn't do anything rash like joining the military or dropping out of school. Keeping and eye out for signs of depression is not a bad idea.

YMCA has a group for teens that give young people opportunities to have peer support with the input of quality mentors, activities to serve the community (very important on college applications), and fun activities that are a great relief for single parents and lonely teens. Membership is on sliding scale.
I just want to thank everyone for their moral support in this but I do want to comment here The only thing is he lost interest is she was to clingy and pressured him into doing things he didn't think was right .Girls here are very aggressive about sex and alot of other things.Guys are feeling they have to because the girls putting pressure on them.As far as being macho he isn't in any way at all He has been taught to respect and honor women.He did all he could to respect this girl but she wanted more and I think because he wouldn't give in she looked else where.I can say this I admire him for wanting to wait till he gets married.Also as far as him doing anything rash I don't think I have to worry about that he has worked hard to get where he is going in life.He just stands up for people that hurt and feel lonely and look down on them selves.He does not go to regular high school he goes to a college academy where he can succeed and become all he wants to be in life.He is going into the military because that has been his dream for along time and to serve his country.I think just because he comes from a single parent home does mean he is a child that maybe in trouble that's just society opinion on things.Not all kids are in trouble because they are being raised by single parents.I have seen kids from single parent homes to turn out to be the most high honored kids and really succeed and that is what he is trying to do and make a way for himself he just don't need a girl messing up his life right now.So in conclusion I want to thank you for all your advice and support.

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Wed 10/28/09 04:52 PM
this is her son(if i misspell anything its cause of nc's schools lol) but thanks for the replies its really helped and if i have any other problems i know where to go. i just wish my ex would get the picture. oh wheres the beer and women. oh dont forget the moonshine drinker lol haha

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Wed 10/28/09 03:26 PM

How old is your son?

There are plenty of girls. My advice is to let her go and find another girlfriend ASAP.
waving He is 16 and he just wanted a males perspective on what to do in this.He is just learning about how women think and act he has to live with me lol haha

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Wed 10/28/09 03:07 PM
waving My son would like to know if he did the right thing in letting this girl go.He felt she was to clingy and she seemed to like someone else but could never be honest in her answer.Every time he asked her about this she could not look him in the eyes and she would look off.Also she didn't seem as happy unless she was with the other guy.He only stayed in the relationship because he felt sorry for her.He needs a males perspective on this if he should stay or get out.

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Wed 10/28/09 01:48 PM
waving Happy Birthday and many more enjoy and relax.shades

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Wed 10/28/09 11:36 AM


Do woman still want romance, also what is everyone's idea of romance, as for myself I tend to stay with the standard giving out compliments, being a gentleman, intimate surroundings, most important in any relationship is passion.


I smack that *** and tell em I love em....now get my beer.laugh laugh
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Wed 10/28/09 05:16 AM
:banana: :banana: drinker Happy Birthday and many more enjoy.It's your day to relax.:smile:

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Wed 10/28/09 05:04 AM


waving Good Morning,getting ready for today.Going to clean some in the house.I'm in a cleaning mood Lol.


mornin..do you live near me..hahhah
waving Not sure I'm from North Carolina.But I do love to clean from time to time.It's a great stress reliever for me.You never know what you'll find when you do clean haha.

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Wed 10/28/09 04:29 AM
waving Good Morning,getting ready for today.Going to clean some in the house.I'm in a cleaning mood Lol.

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Tue 10/27/09 08:39 PM

Skinny girls aren't bimbos. Its the person itself, not weight. Shoot, I'm a big girl and I LLLOOVVEEE it!! My confidence is awesome. What they see is what they get. Just be yourself, and for dang sure somebody will find ya and wouldn't want to let ya go. Don't let your weight stop ya from the dating game! (This is for everybody/anybody...)
:thumbsup: I couldn't have said it any better my size is not what makes me it's the inside of my heart and the love I have to share with others.waving

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Tue 10/27/09 08:31 PM


:heart: Do you fear being unloved forever,or that there might be no one out there for you?:heart:
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Mon 10/26/09 07:58 PM
bigsmile bigsmile A Teddy and something that is purple and fun to play with.pitchfork

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Mon 10/26/09 11:16 AM

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flowerforyou :heart: smitten Awwww Mirror Mirror love you to you cute little monkey you.waving

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Mon 10/26/09 11:13 AM

Shoutin out to all the 46ers
We rock!drinker :banana: laugh
:banana: pitchfork Yes We Do and I'm 46 and loving it.

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Sun 10/25/09 07:26 PM
drool drool You look fine and hot to me I see nothing wrong.Your special in your own little way.flowers

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Sun 10/25/09 07:16 PM
pitchfork Naughty

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Wed 10/21/09 05:39 AM
waving Call him and write be there in his life because it will make a difference.My son's have not seen there father in 5 years going 6 and I know it hurts not having him in their lives and now they are 15 and 9 time is going by so fast and when it goes like that you can't get it back.Be there for him and support him just take it slow and talk with him in time he will understand.also he will be thankful you stepped back in his life.I know it will be hard but just take a deep breath and let him know you love him and yes grown ups do make mistakes and we learn from them.Just be straight and up front with him.I'm into education and I deal alot with kids in many different schools and I hear so much how kids want the other parent in there lives because it makes a difference to them.The kids tell me if they only had the chance to just hold them and just say I love you that would mean alot to them.Good Luck and My prayers are with you and I also have a son that is ADHD also.

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Tue 10/20/09 11:32 AM
:smile: Update,I'm feeling alot better and getting my life in order and I have the power back haha.Ding Ding round one I may have been knocked down but I'm coming back better then ever got the gloves on and ready to rock and roll and ready for any challenge that comes my way.Anyone ready for round two ding ding lol.You guys have fun this week and enjoy.Smiling now and the attitude is different.:banana: :banana: :banana: flowerforyou bigsmile Got the Mojo back lol haha.

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Tue 10/20/09 11:25 AM



brokenheart Yes I have given up right now.I feel there isn't anyone who wants to date a woman with kids.They think it's to much drama and stress for them.I'm not here for my kids I'm here for me.So I'm single and not looking anymore.Just here for friends right now.


I know how you feel. It's very hard when you have kids. flowerforyou
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flowers Awww Mirror Mirror your sweet and love the monkeybigsmile Thanks so much you made my day.Smiles and Hugs to you.waving

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Tue 10/20/09 05:35 AM




sad sad I need understanding on this I don't why my oldest is acting the way he is in this.I meet a awesome guy on here and the last two days were wonderful.He treated me with respect and honor and like a lady.He made dinner for us Friday night then took us to the fair and spent alot time with the boys.He showed love to me and the boys but my oldest pushed away and showed him self now my youngest son is hurt and so am I.I have been crying and hurt by this.This guy wanted to be a part of our lives and wanted to be apart of my sons.My oldest lashed out at him and told him not to come around any more.This really hurt the guy and he probably want come around any more.Why is my oldest pushing away every guy that comes into my life?It's like he dosen't want me to find happiness.Please help!!!!!


How long did you know this man when you introduced him to your children?
I had known him for several months, They don't meet my kids like in the first month or so i wait at least five before they meet them because i want to know if their for real.I can say this my kids are smart and they have learned to accept yes men will come and go in my life.They will be friends with a guy but they want let him in close to their heart till they know for sure.


That sounds reasonable to me. I'm a single parent. I know that it it's not easy. I do wish you the best.flowerforyou
Thanks Winx your sweet I'm just going to take some time off and enjoy life and my friends and then let life take it's course and who knows.If I find someone who is up for the challenge lol then we will roll with it so to speak.