My son would like to know if he did the right thing in letting this girl go.He felt she was to clingy and she seemed to like someone else but could never be honest in her answer.Every time he asked her about this she could not look him in the eyes and she would look off.Also she didn't seem as happy unless she was with the other guy.He only stayed in the relationship because he felt sorry for her.He needs a males perspective on this if he should stay or get out.

How old is your son?

There are plenty of girls. My advice is to let her go and find another girlfriend ASAP.

If the only reason he stayed in a relationship was because he felt sorry for her...he shouldn't have been in the relationship in the first place.

well im not a guy but i say RUN! listen to your little voice in your head- it won't lie to you- he has that funny feeling- get out!!

jmo

leave town..run while you still can..seriously..if it feels wrong in your gut....take a s#@t and get it out

Sounds like she's a player

if he feels he isn't happy with the relationship, then yes...break it off

He is 16 and he just wanted a males perspective on what to do in this.He is just learning about how women think and act he has to live with me lol haha

Staying with somebody out of sympathy is unhealthy for both people. It sounds like she needs another good friend (not with benefits) in her life. He made the right call.

..first of all you stay in a relationship because of love not pity( i have experience in this ) second you will never figure women out just like they will never figure us out..it's a given..there are going to be alot of choices in life the main thing is you do what you feel is the right thing in your heart and you hope for the best....and karma or fate or one of those guys will come along and screw it up...lol.. GL

Wow, sounds like a smart young man to seek advice on such a matter. I take it his father is unavailable. Does he have anyone he can turn to as far as an older male role model?If not maybe he could befriend someone. It would be good for him to talk to someone personally. In
any case I agree, he should let this one go.

Hello,

Sounds like your son is one of a gentle heart. That is good for him, but not appreciated by her. He should follow his heart and the joys in which brings him happiness equally. It reads well and that he should take the next step of his own path.

Heroes do exist, but they should also exist with the deserves of what makes two hearts happy. One is never enough in a relationship. Let her take the path she seeks, for it is of her own choice and free will.

She should remember the gentle heart in which a friendship can be an honorable thing. Your son is of "HONOR" and that is rare and should not be given without return.

Many Blessings,
SpiritWolf

At 16, he should be bangin every chick he can...then at age 30, he can settle down with just one.

that's what i tell my nephew

I tell mine the same thing. Also, I tell him to watch out for the hookers....make sure they don't overcharge him.

yeah you've gotta watch out for the over priced fees.they see a teen coming and they'll try to rob them

this is her son(if i misspell anything its cause of nc's schools lol) but thanks for the replies its really helped and if i have any other problems i know where to go. i just wish my ex would get the picture. oh wheres the beer and women. oh dont forget the moonshine lol haha

toss her..seems to me she has no interest in him anymore. been there before several times.

Yea that is genuis advice. Sixteen is too young to be dealing with STD's, unwanted pregnancy, still birth, abortion, and or child birth, and child support. Not to mention angry siblings and parents. Yea you can tell a 16 to use a condom that that has a very high vailure rate.

Sounds to me like your son has lost interest in being Prince Charming to his girlfriend. Maybe for good reason, teenage girls are not the securest people.

This one sounds a little intimidated by his demands about the loyalty of her feelings. Maybe she has had trouble talking to her parents or peers historically but a few words about communicateing rather than demanding and answer when you want the truth. He is smart to pick up on her body language but I would remind him not to jump to conclusions. Life is not NCIS. She might have just felt less pressure to be lovey dovey with the other guy around and actually does care about your son.

Probably in everybodies best interest to attempt and amicable seperation by just "drifting apart" and trying to remain friends. Not saying they are but it is likely that they have been intimate and she maybe clingey because she is worried about a bad reputation or pregnancy. It is in your son's best interest to be reminded that it might seem macho to kiss and tell it is not a cool social move.

This is a great teaching moment to talk about realestic expectations about High School relationships, personality types, and maybe the need to keep some women just friends and not FWB's be cause as practical as it might sound it rarely works out. Maybe asking if he sees some importance in not being so caught up in being a hero when just being a supportive friend will be easier to live with.

This may be a lonely time for your son. Girlfriend's, weather desireable or not, give a position in the social pecking order in high school and he may be in need of moral support. You want to make sure he doesn't do anything rash like joining the military or dropping out of school. Keeping and eye out for signs of depression is not a bad idea.

YMCA has a group for teens that give young people opportunities to have peer support with the input of quality mentors, activities to serve the community (very important on college applications), and fun activities that are a great relief for single parents and lonely teens. Membership is on sliding scale.