This was a worthy read, I loved this part
Theres a certain something to be said for human contact too. Who doesn't feel the need to hug someone that we havn't seen in years or who just came from a war zone? We can SAY all we like to someone and hear all we like, but human contact is a primary need.

I totally agree with what you said.

Having "choice" grants us the priveledge
to respond or not.

Regard a question as too personal is perfectly acceptable,
but it too hinges on how ones gets their point across...

Totally Hurt

This heart of mine is broken
unable to be mended,
as their pieces have
become too brittle
to be put together again.

This mind of mine is lost
unable to be found,
as it hides somewhere
in the closet of shame
exposed and naked.

These eyes of mine are blind
unable to see the truth
as the once truth
was found to be my lie
not honesty

These ears of mine are deaf
unable to hear a sound,
as others feel their silence
is truly best kept golden
when I was around.

This mouth of mine is mute
unable to utter a word,
as words thought were found
best left unsaid.

This nose of mine is pegged closed
trying to filter the atmosphere
as the air around me
is not longer pure.

These feet of mine are out of step
unable to keep up with the rhythm of life,
as they no longer feel life
vibrating within the timber floors.

These hands of mine stay cupped
trying to contain my pride
yet all they collect
are oceans of salty tears

This body of mine is dying
unable to be heated,
as it sleeps alone
in an unmade bed.

You left, leaving
no love behind for
me to live on.

Sadly now my
invisible
souls dies a slow
death.

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Wow, guess I struck a nerve.

The only reason I chose to answer at all, especially in the fashion I did, is because you threw down the gauntlet in your second post.

Frankly, I don't care what you ask and what anybody answers. I do agree with you on one point. If anybody takes this stuff seriously they really need to examine their life and priorities.
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Dont credit yourself where and when it is not due,
you did not strike any nerve here, as I see this
only as an exchange of opinions, not as a contest
to whom is the righter of the wrong or wronger
than the right...

A quote that can be used in all aspects of life

"No-one can make you feel inferior, unless you
have given them your permission to do so"


I could say that my second post "hit a nerve"
because you choose to react to it as you did,
but I wont!

That was not my intentions in the second post,
just your assumption, you saw the second post as being that,
so you reacted to it in that fashion, that is your problem
not mine.

WEll at least admit you did care for a while there,
because if you did not care what I ask nor
what anybody answered, then this discusion would
never have exsisted or gone as far as it has.

Have a nice day

They only become a personal question,
when another chooses to make it be one.

Really does it really really matter
that I am somewhat new to "this site"
to what I choose as topic threads.
(Unless one is fearful of answering a question
because is exposes the truth about them-self)

Most of us are miles apart, most are not
here under their correct name, nor do they
expose their home address, so why are some
so touchy about what is said here when it does
not play any direct part in their life nor
does it have a place in their everyday life
and their daily existence.

I think I have revealed much of myself
in a short time, to those who can read
between the lines I am sure they can
figure me out some.

There is no need for any to rape themself
here, to be meet others expectations and
standards or requirements.

You choosing not to respond to most of my threads
does not take any skin off my nose nor would your
future responses be missed, as they were not before,
so why would it be a concerned to me now.

This is a form of entertainment to most,
when one starts to become to serious and paranoid here,
then one needs to start worry about themself
not about what others do or say...

PEACE to you too...

No-one is touching this one, I am ling

Sites such as this one.
I feel are good examples
that looks do matter...

This is my opinion, this does not necessarily mean I am right
and most is by personal observation and experience...

1/... I feel and think those who exposes their pictures
are some what to very comfortable with their looks...

2/... Those who do not expose their pictures in full view
are most times uneasy about their looks...

3/... Again, those who do not expose could be very private
about who they are, not what they look like...

4/... Again, some do not see it as an necessity to give out
their picture, to prove who they are...

5/... Then, there is no way to prove that the picture that is exposed, is really them....

6/... Some add a picture of themself that is a few years outdated,
others attach pictures of friend, magazine and international models.

7/... I do believe in most cases, be either gender,
prefer to see a picture first, before interacting with them,
if attractive will show an interest, firstly on their looks.

8/... If one is genuinely just a social chatter with no agenda
in mind, I do not see the necessity to expose ones picture,
if the conversation shared does enough to keep each other interested.

9/... Why some say, "Do not contact me, unless you have a pic",
I do not understand that, because the other can be any picture
but themself, to just satisfy that ones "expectation".

10/... It should not be how ones look,
but how one carries on within the conversation
and how they interact in and with life,
while in each ones company.

If we were to be blinded every-time we met strangers
and stayed that way until both meet 4-times,
what non-visual image would we have of them phyically
and what impression would they leave upon us,
just by the exchange of words and tones of voice.

I wonder if one would still feel the same about them
after they gained their sight, when they find that the other
does not fit into their "personal image requirements"....

If one answers it would matter, then looks do matters!

If one answers it would not, then beauty was skin deep!

Does having good looks give one an advantage
over those who are ordinary looking....

Do good looking people expell their confidence
better than the basic looker....

I feel many of us here who sit by the net, are here far too long
and lose precious time from involving one-self in the real world,
I think the net becomes many ones artifical reality and life pacifier...

Who thinks and knows that they could be more constructive
with their time, instead of just bantering here...???

[\quote) i will cancel my plans for the weekend trip. i am in no way going with that kind of misunderstanding



Still hold a little faith and hope, for if he is really
concerned about you and the situation he will try
to make it right, because he found he cares that much
about you...

If he dones not contact you or brushes you off, you then know you did what was right for you and did it before you got your heart broken...

I knowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

I am just going with the flow now...

Thanks for putting in the effort
you were the best supporter...

thanks...

Cute...

I take that, that you need a few drinks
to get the punch line...

I take it, it too went over your head

I was eating a boiled egg,
g/son asks what am I eating
I tell him, a boiled egg...

His response was, "Yuck,
you are eating hatching goo"

I take that, as it went over your head...
well if you listen to crows, their calls
can very well sound like, MARK, MARK...

Just a thought.

If you are coming across too strong
as assuming you are already engaged
to marry some time soon...

The chap, may not be that into you
to make such a serious commitment.

If he is going to feel trapped
and unready, any pressure will
make him run the other way...

All I feel now is, if he qestioned you
on what you mentioned to him, he is either
looking at your motive, feel what you asked
was to early to discuss, as there is no given
commitment to the relationship.

Remember you both are still strangers in ways,
a few dates does not neassarily mean love
rather being lust...

AND.... for goodness sake make sure you both
take and use protection...

Maybe when there is an expectation to perform
both or one can get cold feet.

Not all like direction when they already feel
they are good performers.

Sometimes I think is best
to let it take its natural course first
and when each are comfortable in each ones space,
maybe then start offering up what pleasures one
and experiment with each ones likes and fantasies.

Sometimes the unexpected can be exciting
and maybe too a new learning curb learnt.

I had my daughters 3 children
in the car...
The 3yr old girl, says...
Mommy's name is Linda,
and I praised her for her knowledge.

I then instruct the 7yr boy
to call his other g/parents
by their first name, which
I later learn from the S/I/L
it would not be a good thing...

So my fun there was interrupted
and spoilt... lol

The other girl 6yrs, says intelligently
I heard a crow calling out my dads name,
MARK MARK MARK MARK...

Thanks for the personal invite,
I took my time to get back
to this side of the community.

As Don was the only one to make direct contact,
so I assumed others did not have an interest.

I was wrong...

It was more than just pleasant surprise
to return here to see another two volunteers
willing to chat with me, on and off while we are here.

HI back, thanks for the welcome and I look forward to chating with you, I am sure we will both make time to introduce ourselves proper,
till then take care and stay safe...