Does having good looks give one an advantage
over those who are ordinary looking....

Do good looking people expell their confidence
better than the basic looker....

Most of the people I have been attracted to are fairly avergae looking, in the generic media portrayed version of attractive....and yet it is their confidence, their intelligence, their ease at being themselves that has drawn me.

I suspect sometimes an 'attractive' looking person gets left on the shelf, more often than not...people can be intimidated by 'good looks'. Or think themselves less, and be concerned by rejection, based on how they look.

It's a weird world out there...A big smile, a confident body posture, a look that says, 'I got it going on', in a realistic way, is far more attractive to me.

This is gonna sound vain, arrogant and egotistical....

I believe that looks play a major part of social interactions.

Jess is correct that looks can be intimidating to some. While to many...looks can be a distinct advantage.

When I am in my work clothes, hair stuffed up under my hat and looking like any average guy....no one will look me in the eye or give me the time of day.

When I am dressed to kill and properly groomed...everyone is really polite, extra friendly, and I get hit on by everyone from college girls to very mature women.

Do looks matter? Ask a peac*ck.

I think some people with devastatingly good looks can be intimidating sometimes, until they open their mouths. And some people are so good looking in such a friendly way that it's easy to talk to them.
And some people don't look like magazine material at all but have some kind of indescribable good looks about them that make me weaker in the knees than some Ken cut out guy by a long shot.
And sometimes, dressing like a grown up will get you more respect and response than dressing like a dreg, but I still prefer dressing like a dreg and making them deal with me like a grownup anyway!!
So, sure, good looks or being polished may get you the interviews, but not necessarily the jobs in life.

Sites such as this one.
I feel are good examples
that looks do matter...

This is my opinion, this does not necessarily mean I am right
and most is by personal observation and experience...

1/... I feel and think those who exposes their pictures
are some what to very comfortable with their looks...

2/... Those who do not expose their pictures in full view
are most times uneasy about their looks...

3/... Again, those who do not expose could be very private
about who they are, not what they look like...

4/... Again, some do not see it as an necessity to give out
their picture, to prove who they are...

5/... Then, there is no way to prove that the picture that is exposed, is really them....

6/... Some add a picture of themself that is a few years outdated,
others attach pictures of friend, magazine and international models.

7/... I do believe in most cases, be either gender,
prefer to see a picture first, before interacting with them,
if attractive will show an interest, firstly on their looks.

8/... If one is genuinely just a social chatter with no agenda
in mind, I do not see the necessity to expose ones picture,
if the conversation shared does enough to keep each other interested.

9/... Why some say, "Do not contact me, unless you have a pic",
I do not understand that, because the other can be any picture
but themself, to just satisfy that ones "expectation".

10/... It should not be how ones look,
but how one carries on within the conversation
and how they interact in and with life,
while in each ones company.

If we were to be blinded every-time we met strangers
and stayed that way until both meet 4-times,
what non-visual image would we have of them phyically
and what impression would they leave upon us,
just by the exchange of words and tones of voice.

I wonder if one would still feel the same about them
after they gained their sight, when they find that the other
does not fit into their "personal image requirements"....

If one answers it would matter, then looks do matters!

If one answers it would not, then beauty was skin deep!

Probably not.

Just my opinion....

I automatically assume that something is screwed up when someone refuses to show what they actually look like.

I realize that this is not always accurate...but, more often than not....that is exactly the case.

Yes and Yes

Not that I'm all conceited and thionk I'm all that great looking, but those who are and know/think it are definitely more confident and expressive or whatever.

very true !

I don't think looks matter, every one is insecure to some degree. I try not to date a face but a person.

This is all semantics really...

ask yourself this....

Would you rather be with a beautiful person who has a beautiful soul...or an ugly person with a beautiful soul?

Go take a walk in the local Mall and tell me how many couples you see that have been together for years and tell me how attractive they are.

That's not necessarily the way it's going to work out, though. Plus, beautiful and ugly are subjective.

I find more often than not that good looking people INTIMIDATE other people or are called snobs for not talking to everything under the sun.

It's not always that simple. Each person, whether ugly or beautiful, has degrees of "beautifulness" in their soul. You would never find 2 people exactly alike, except total opposites in physical appearance. So you can't really make that comparison. If you are looking at soul, then nothing else should matter.

Just as I might find someone truly physically beautiful, and the next person might think they are butt ugly.

I dunno.....just put up a picture people....for goodness sakes. What's all the paranoia about?.....

So true, I just rambled on about it more.....haha.

I donno man...I can only judge what is physically beautiful as it pertains to me. Everyone has different tastes.

Let's face it...some people like impressionistic and modern art...I do not.

However, doing alot of nude art work and studying human anatomy for decades...I have my own perspective of what is physically attractive and what is not attractive. I know plenty of guys who have seriously ugly women...but, to those same guys..thier woman is gorgeous. I guess it is a "Different strokes for different folks" kind of thing.

My guy friends are at a loss for the really attractive women that I have dated...among men..I am one ugly S.O.B. (I agree)..yet, physically, women see something different.

I don't think so. I believe that confidence and a good smile and relaxing manner are most important. My only issue is that I have to get past "THE HAND!". lol I hate that hand!

I agree with your statement, though why would any one need to feel screwed if someones refuses on the first request.

More time than not it is curiosity that makes them need to see aothers picture, not their interest in said person.

If the conversation is genuine and there is a rapport developing, most soon volunteer to expose their image, because they now feel comfortable in that ones company...

In a chat room, a few males would be attracted to the tone of my voice, I say I am late 50s and I find them to be all my children's age... IF they saw my picture would they still woe to chat with me, I think not.

When I am asked if I want to swap pics, I say sure, my pic for a Porsche... or I send then a pic of my pet duck or dog... lol

This bring me to a moment when one wanted to see me on cam, I again said sure, exchanged connections, but I put the cover over the lens... he kept saying I cant see you and I said I am on and I am waving at you, cant you see me, I let this go for a few seconds, then said, " I think I forgot to tell you I only cam in the dark"....

Another time, I told one I only had 1 power outlet,
that I would have to unplug my PC to plug in the cam,
he replied "that's OK, I will wait"....

All my secrets coming out.... lol

In most cases yes, to both questions.