Well I just got back home yesterday from meeting a women from this website. And its not a love story. I was pretty hurt to be honest. I joined about 3 months ago. One of my good friends told me about the site. I thought I would check it out, was not looking for anything serious just wanted to chat with people and take things slow. So I had this women message me. We talked for about 3 weeks on the site. Then later e-mails and finally on the phone.

We both used yahoo or aim messenger. Shared Photos, being on web cam with each other. It was fun, and cool at same time.

Now there came to a point when she really wanted to meet me. I mean we live in different states. She told me she really liked me and wanted to meet to see how far we would go. I told her I wanted to wait a while, save up some money, we all have bills I can't just rush out on the spare of the moment. But she was not happy with waiting. She got very sad/upset. Cried online and on phone to me.

So I took time off work and went this past week to visit her. I took off work and she paid for my flight to and back. Pretty fair deal since she wanted to meet so soon.

So I fly out to here and stay at her place, the first two days were great. We have been on cam with each other so we both looked as we did in real life and it was love. But after the 2nd day things changed real quick. She got distant. Real quick. I sat in the bed room with her and we talked. She told me

QUOTE"" I misunderstood myself. I explained to you that initially I was looking for a relationship, but then when the reality of it hit me, I was overwhelmed by it and realized I was not ready.''QUOTE

So then she got online and paid for another set of plane tickets. And I got back 4 days earlier and it cost her more money.

After being home I talked with her today. I decided that it would be best if we didn't talk online/phone/or e-mail for a long time, until I can get my head clear of what happened.

I don't feel wrong for asking this of her. I am pretty hurt about the whole thing, because of all the time we talked, and being online with each other to have that feeling of trust or safe zone suddenly taken from me.

This is the first time I never meet anyone from online. Not a good start I guess.

sounds like she could had been a demanding person, sense she insisted that you meet her..

awww hun dont let one bad experience stop you.trsut me ive been there.you will find somebody more stable and less crazy

dont let this stop you from meeting other great people on here!@

To be honest I don't know what went wrong. But I should have not wore my heart on my sleeve. I hurt myself in the end.

I'm sorry you were hurt.. Dating is hard and online dating is even harder... At least she was honest with you, even though it hurt she told you how she was feeling so you were able to understand and will have closure... You are not wrong for wanting space to sort out things, this is what you need to do and there is nothing wrong with that...

don't give up!!! Good luck...

She got scared with her feelings..........and I guess with the distance thinig she probably felt it best to send you back before further hurt? Idk......just a thought

I am trying to keep a clear mind after what has happened. I understand in the future, IF, and that is a big if, I ever decide to meet anyone again. I want to wait. I don't like the feeling of being rushed for anything. I also understand that taking things slow and not having my heart on the line, when things seem to good to be true can hurt a person even more.

well said prncs she's right, at least you know what happened... I got left in the dark, he won't speak to me for absolutly no reason...

(((Jill))) I'm sorry sweetie.. That bites..

Your first clue to back off should have been when she started her "whining". Both parties should respect each others situation's 100% and not push anything...

Dont give up your faith, chalk this up as a learning lesson and move on. Be thankful you didnt pay for the tickets.

sorry this date did not work out for you.

dating someone for the first time is always a risk. but if you are not willing to take the risk in the future, you will always be alone....

learn from the experience and BETTER LUCK next time!!

happens a lot lol but one came back...http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/96874 check it out prncs

Good for you!!!!

wow sounds like every date i go on........

oh I don't know yet... check out the thread and tell me what you think

What he said

Are you going to email it to me???

Yeah like I said in the end I hurt myself. We been chatting for the past 2 months online. When she first talked about meeting me, it was spare of the moment. She talked about it so often. When I said I would agree to meet with her it would be down the road like Aug or Sept of this year, but she broke down on the phone and online about that idea. I hoped for the best. First 2 days were great, and I let my guard down. So in the end I only hurt myself.

How did you hurt yourself?

My heart. I should have not allowed myself to fall for a person so quickly. Love hurts. I understand people use/abuse the word Love. Most use it in generic ways. When I used Love, or My Love for her as in how she made me feel. We could talk about anything. So many same interests. I loved her smile, her mind, spirit, looks. I don't hardly put myself out on the line as I did. But after all the times we talked on the phone and it was a lot, I let my guard down for something I guess what not on the other end. She express all the same feels towards me, but I guess love was not what she was feeling inside, and that is what I felt inside.

That is what I mean by I hurt myself.