I think there needs to be some respect and a genuine conversation about the situation. If she (or he) is listed on a "true" dating site (Match.com, true.com, ehornoney, etc) and does nothing to stop the flood of e-mail connections, then, yeah, there's a problem there.

Likewise, on JSH, if she/he doesn't change the parameters from "seeking dating" to "seeking friends", well, that's an issue, too. A respect one.

I'd be hard-pressed to tell my newly significant other, "Hey, give up all those people you've known longer than me.". I'm not that insecure. And therein lies the issue. How secure are the two of you? How secure is she/he? How secure are you? If some common ground and good discussion cannot be reached or attained, well, there's deeper issues than merely being on a dating site.

JMNSHO (=

what a cutie patootie

im with someone and it doesnt bother him that am here for my freinds..TRUST is the key and we have that

I would put up not looking/in a relationship or something and say it clearly that I am with someone, Just looking for friends.
I guess that works :)

In a heartbeat. Luckily I don't have to though.


And don't get me wrong. I would be saying many heartfelt goodbyes prior to doing so.

I think I would, if he asked me to. But other then that just put looking for friendship and put in my profile that I am taken.

I have it in my profile and any of my friends know i'm hitched,i'm here looking for and making a lot of great friends,so my account stays open for as long as i'm able to get on here

I would give up my JSH account or any other one in a second if I met the right woman.....and if i did meet the right woman I would expect her to do the same....
Meeting the right one, means trust, commitment, and love....
if they mean that much to me then i'm not going to spend half my days on a computer typing things onto a screen and think I'm making friends....some of you have 10,000 posts or are working your way toward that number....i think some of you need to get off your butts, away from the screen, and try living for a while...then when your love comes along you'll actually want to spend quality time with your mate rather than an animated picture on a computer screen...

I agree with those who suggest changing your status to taken or whatever, maybe put you're looking for women for friendship or something. But yeah, I wouldn't give up something I enjoyed just because someone is insecure. Most people don't find dates on JSH anyway, lol

Absolutely!

Leaving JSH doesn't mean I have to give up my friends ... I have outside contact with them anyway...

There's no reason someone in a relationship needs to be in a such a flirtatious environment as JSH. I'd question my significant other' s intentions if they were on a website created simply for dating, there are plenty of other places on the web to exchange ideas and thoughts. I'd get rid of my profile for sure. If you find love and can't part ways with your dating sites, reevaluate your feelings.

Flirts? Where? LOL

I was actually talking to someone about theis last night. I been on this site for almost two years

I will never give up my friends for anyone and if they didn't understand that, then they would have to move on. I am who i am and i will not change for anyone.

I probably would, as the reason for why I signed up in the first place was to find someone special.

And you'd have to refine your definition of "true friend".

I could give it up without finding someone and probably will. I doubt i'll find someone.