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writing it down first for yourself then maybe give it too him. Once he can see it then maybe it will be easier for u to say it... I concur. It means a whole lot more if you take the time to write, rather than just pay lip servic. Then, you have to be willing to discuss it with him. Your written words are something that you have to "own" and often give you a deeper understanding of yourself. imao tonight he went to sarasota to spend the night with his parents who came down. i stayed home. i wrote him a 6 page letter telling him how i felt then made a list of pro/cons so that we know what we need to work on and what we appreciate about each other. we decided that we would do this for each other. its easier to write it than say it face to face, of course i said we cant go thru life communicating via mail haha. |
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no but its a start and u might have to write 6 more months of letters but with each letter it will become easier and easier to talk with him......Just wait and see...In another 6months u are goin to come back and let us know just how great it is going....
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Another thing that I have learned in my short life is that over analyzation causes paralysis. Sometimes we need to set the brain to the side so we can let our hearts soar. It is then that amazing things happen.
Still waiting with the water wings. |
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Another thing that I have learned in my short life is that over analyzation causes paralysis. Sometimes we need to set the brain to the side so we can let our hearts soar. It is then that amazing things happen. Still waiting with the water wings. so right on the money there too! 
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You had better jump on that train before it leaves the station...Failure to act can leave you standing in the station with only your baggage.
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i have a guy who adores me. he is kind, gentle, respectful, loving, nice looking, great background, etc.....dont get me wrong, yes, he has his quirks, but dont we all. i have picked him apart until there is nothing left. i have analyzed the hell out of every move he makes and every word he speaks. i am so afraid of letting the walls down that this poor guy hasnt had a chance in hell from day one. he is putting his heart out on the table, trying to open up and i continue to shut him down. i dont mean to...im SCARED! no one knows where i have been or been thru. im not saying at all that my problems and situations are any worse than anyone elses. each of us have our crosses to bear and what we feel is real to us. heartache is heartache no matter how ya slice it. im afraid that if i dont learn to let these walls down i will live a very lonely life. but i dont know how to do it. he has never been in a real relationship before and doesnt know what to do either....its like the blind leading the blind. people have read some of my threads on here about him and yes, i made him look like an ass, because i was trying to see him as an ass in order to make me feel better about closing him out, in reality he isnt that big of an ass...he has his moments though haha. but not all the threads were about him either. ok...im done babbling... 
Whats should you fear more, breaking down those barriers and getting hurt? Or wishing for the rest of your life you would have broken down those barriers? One of 2 things which can happen make the decision |
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Sun 03/16/08 05:20 AM
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(((((PartnerInCrime))))))
*packing bags and loading up the Big Wheel for FLA* Hun, I have been there and done that..My walls/defense mechanism were so rigid it was painful to watch as someone waited patiently for me to let them in. I began to tear down the walls with something small and waited for the reaction I feared, but never received. It takes time to work through this, one cannot be in a hurry..for that kicks up the fear and makes one retreat. One step forward, two steps back. There came a time I was exhausted from protecting myself and said the hell with it. I tore down each brick of that wall (damn nice wall it was too) and bascily said 'Here I am. Take me as I am.. or dont.' Take baby steps.
Remeber..each step you take to tear down these walls of yours.. YOU become a STRONGER WOMAN.  
It is freeing. 
It is empowering.
It is one of the BEST gifts you can continually bless yourself.. Ok diamonds are nice as well but ya get my point.
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i have a guy who adores me. he is kind, gentle, respectful, loving, nice looking, great background, etc..... and when he is not being those things he's being an ass dont get me wrong, yes, he has his quirks, but dont we all. i have picked him apart until there is nothing left. i have analyzed the hell out of every move he makes and every word he speaks. which is why you have come to the conclusion that he's an ass i am so afraid of letting the walls down that this poor guy hasnt had a chance in hell from day one. he is putting his heart out on the table, trying to open up and i continue to shut him down. i dont mean to...im SCARED! you're scared because you know he's an ass no one knows where i have been or been thru. im not saying at all that my problems and situations are any worse than anyone elses. each of us have our crosses to bear and what we feel is real to us. heartache is heartache no matter how ya slice it. which means he is not worth the hearthache because he's an ass im afraid that if i dont learn to let these walls down i will live a very lonely life. but i dont know how to do it. or live a life with someone you consider to be an ass he has never been in a real relationship before and doesnt know what to do either....its like the blind leading the blind. he never been in a real relationship because he's an ass people have read some of my threads on here about him and yes, i made him look like an ass, because i was trying to see him as an ass in order to make me feel better about closing him out, in reality he isnt that big of an ass...he has his moments though haha. but not all the threads were about him either. see you said it yourself...the guy is an ass ...so keep them walls up |
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i have a guy who adores me. he is kind, gentle, respectful, loving, nice looking, great background, etc..... and when he is not being those things he's being an ass dont get me wrong, yes, he has his quirks, but dont we all. i have picked him apart until there is nothing left. i have analyzed the hell out of every move he makes and every word he speaks. which is why you have come to the conclusion that he's an ass i am so afraid of letting the walls down that this poor guy hasnt had a chance in hell from day one. he is putting his heart out on the table, trying to open up and i continue to shut him down. i dont mean to...im SCARED! you're scared because you know he's an ass no one knows where i have been or been thru. im not saying at all that my problems and situations are any worse than anyone elses. each of us have our crosses to bear and what we feel is real to us. heartache is heartache no matter how ya slice it. which means he is not worth the hearthache because he's an ass im afraid that if i dont learn to let these walls down i will live a very lonely life. but i dont know how to do it. or live a life with someone you consider to be an ass he has never been in a real relationship before and doesnt know what to do either....its like the blind leading the blind. he never been in a real relationship because he's an ass people have read some of my threads on here about him and yes, i made him look like an ass, because i was trying to see him as an ass in order to make me feel better about closing him out, in reality he isnt that big of an ass...he has his moments though haha. but not all the threads were about him either. see you said it yourself...the guy is an ass ...so keep them walls up WOW! |
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(((((PartnerInCrime))))))
*packing bags and loading up the Big Wheel for FLA* Hun, I have been there and done that..My walls/defense mechanism were so rigid it was painful to watch as someone waited patiently for me to let them in. I began to tear down the walls with something small and waited for the reaction I feared, but never received. It takes time to work through this, one cannot be in a hurry..for that kicks up the fear and makes one retreat. One step forward, two steps back. There came a time I was exhausted from protecting myself and said the hell with it. I tore down each brick of that wall (damn nice wall it was too) and bascily said 'Here I am. Take me as I am.. or dont.' Take baby steps.
Remeber..each step you take to tear down these walls of yours.. YOU become a STRONGER WOMAN.
It is freeing.
It is empowering.
It is one of the BEST gifts you can continually bless yourself.. Ok diamonds are nice as well but ya get my point.
yes, its not just for him or about him to break down the wall but for me. i feel as if i am a prisoner inside the walls. i dont like it.... |
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Kitt,
My love you will make it through this and with his love you will prevail
And you are in my thoughts, as if Jeff XOXO
Merle |
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Kitt, My love you will make it through this and with his love you will prevail
And you are in my thoughts, as if Jeff XOXO
Merle i love you so much merle, you are one of my closest and dearest friends xoxoxoxo jeff is away again tonight, so i will probably be on to play. he is enjoying time with his parents, i am glad. somehow today, my heart feels a bit lighter...hope it stays that way
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funches,
Impersonal and blatently upfront... calling it out on what stands out... Feed him information, and he will feed it back to you... To make you think...
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Kitt, My love you will make it through this and with his love you will prevail
And you are in my thoughts, as if Jeff XOXO
Merle And kitt I love you as well. Jeff is some kind of special as are you and you two are going to, like I said earlier, prevail. i love you so much merle, you are one of my closest and dearest friends xoxoxoxo jeff is away again tonight, so i will probably be on to play. he is enjoying time with his parents, i am glad. somehow today, my heart feels a bit lighter...hope it stays that way
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funches, Impersonal and blatently upfront... calling it out on what stands out... Feed him information, and he will feed it back to you... To make you think...
i have no problem with what anyone has to say, if i dont want to hear their opinions then i shouldnt post the problem. everyone has that right to say how they feel. who am i to say who is right and who is wrong. if i had the answer i guess i wouldnt have posted the problem and yeah, he made me think
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Kitt, My love you will make it through this and with his love you will prevail
And you are in my thoughts, as if Jeff XOXO
Merle And kitt I love you as well. Jeff is some kind of special as are you and you two are going to, like I said earlier, prevail. i love you so much merle, you are one of my closest and dearest friends xoxoxoxo jeff is away again tonight, so i will probably be on to play. he is enjoying time with his parents, i am glad. somehow today, my heart feels a bit lighter...hope it stays that way
i hope so sweetie |
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i have a guy who adores me. he is kind, gentle, respectful, loving, nice looking, great background, etc..... and when he is not being those things he's being an ass dont get me wrong, yes, he has his quirks, but dont we all. i have picked him apart until there is nothing left. i have analyzed the hell out of every move he makes and every word he speaks. which is why you have come to the conclusion that he's an ass i am so afraid of letting the walls down that this poor guy hasnt had a chance in hell from day one. he is putting his heart out on the table, trying to open up and i continue to shut him down. i dont mean to...im SCARED! you're scared because you know he's an ass no one knows where i have been or been thru. im not saying at all that my problems and situations are any worse than anyone elses. each of us have our crosses to bear and what we feel is real to us. heartache is heartache no matter how ya slice it. which means he is not worth the hearthache because he's an ass im afraid that if i dont learn to let these walls down i will live a very lonely life. but i dont know how to do it. or live a life with someone you consider to be an ass he has never been in a real relationship before and doesnt know what to do either....its like the blind leading the blind. he never been in a real relationship because he's an ass people have read some of my threads on here about him and yes, i made him look like an ass, because i was trying to see him as an ass in order to make me feel better about closing him out, in reality he isnt that big of an ass...he has his moments though haha. but not all the threads were about him either. see you said it yourself...the guy is an ass ...so keep them walls up WOW! |
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Kitt take a deep breath and give him a chance. I know taking the wall done is difficult. Do let what if's, or I should haves ruin this moment. You deserve love and happiness. Just take it one step at a time, one day at a time. LIVE GIRL AND LET HAPPINESS IN.
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Kitt take a deep breath and give him a chance. I know taking the wall done is difficult. Do let what if's, or I should haves ruin this moment. You deserve love and happiness. Just take it one step at a time, one day at a time. LIVE GIRL AND LET HAPPINESS IN.
(((twitch))) you always make me feel better im going to try really hard. i dont want to lost something good here and i just might if i dont take the chance.
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Kitt take a deep breath and give him a chance. I know taking the wall done is difficult. Do let what if's, or I should haves ruin this moment. You deserve love and happiness. Just take it one step at a time, one day at a time. LIVE GIRL AND LET HAPPINESS IN.
(((twitch))) you always make me feel better im going to try really hard. i dont want to lost something good here and i just might if i dont take the chance.
Babe life is full of risks; don't let this pass you by. If he cares, he'll understand that you need to take it a day or a moment at a time. Have fun and live.
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