Slogo got a question what is worst being in a marriage that is not going
anywhere with kids or being single and not going anywhere with kids,
because I see that most that are cheating wether they have kids or not
they still going to do the same thing married or not but maybe staying
in the marrige might give the kids a chance to see what is really going
on. I think It's better that thay stay together then have people going
in and out of there lifes. See in all of this it all depends on the
marriage and how they communicate

Ohhh Shadow it's a losing battle to try to keep a marriage together just
for the sake of the kids I could not do it and I think my kids are
better off that I did not stay.

Yeah if it was just for the kids I can see that but like I sead it
depends on the marriage

true very true but I have yet to know of anyone that stayed for the that
it lasted

Who knows I was just throughing something out ther :) I know i woeld
stay if it was someone cheating on me but I would always be ther for the
kids is I had some LOL

Well I can't say all have that same outlook but they should for its the
kids that need all the attention. They did not ask to be brought into
this world and the least parents can do is be there for them through
thick and thin but that is a pipe dream for it don't happen very ofter
there are some that do. So can't say they don't. For when people get a
divorce what they forget is you did not divorce your kids. Also you
have the ones that us the kids as a pawn just to hurt the other parent
in the long run the only one getting hurt are the kids. Sad world. But
my kids were my world and I would go through it all over again for them.
:)

Damn it sounds like my side of this post was cloned off of Txs's life
story. Glad to know what I thought all along was proven correct through
experince because I've seen way too many people try to fight it and go
the other way and it always turn out bad for everyone involved (Spouses,
Kids & Family)...

Hunmnmm huhhhh see Sluggo you have been doing your homework and very
good at that. But just because my ex did what ever he did the past is
the past at least we are on talking terms now. A little late but we are.
Not all end up the way mine did. At least he was not fiscal abusive like
some have went through and I can give him credit for that at least. He
is around the kids now but they could have had a much closer
relantionship while growing up it was handed to him on a silver platter.
I never tried to keep the kids from him he was told that the divorce
papers schedule could be thrown out the door and all he had to do was
call and could pick up th kids any time he wanted too. Sad cause there
are fathers out there that would kill for those options. He just chose
his party over the time with his kids.

yep its cheating!... if its so bad then the person should do it the
right way and turn in her divorce papers! i have herd that lame excuse a
100 times how they arent happy and how bad it is at home. it sounds good
so they can do their evil deed! seen it played to many times!

I am single with kids and have a great life was married to a ***** and
we had kids I have to say being single with kids by far is better but if
I meet the RIGHT person surely taht will be better yet

Did Mike read the question wrong? Did anyone ask about him?

I don't see any difference at all. Cheating and lying is something I'm usually very vocal about, no matter the sex of the individual.

If you are married it is CHEATING despite the circumstances at home. If she is unhappy then leave

Who said there was a difference?

This is exactly WHY I divorced my husband. We were sleeping in separate bedrooms and fought constantly. I honestly could not justify teaching my children that THIS was 'marriage' ..

That's just wrong on so many levels

The Ex and I stayed married for the kids, for a while anyway. The day to day stress and strain became too much. Over all I think we are happier now. I know my kids are doing better. No cheating though.

I agree with you completely Sluggo, but there is no difference between men and women here. It should apply to both genders.

cheater= liar