oh I agree, stay positive and positive people will surround you. focus on what was positive and learn. Ya know, if we all thought twice about things, we would all be genuses, lol.

First off...welcome.

Time is a great medium for getting far enough away from something, to be able to look back and be objective...without the fear, and the pain.

If you are alluding to what I think you are... seek counselling for you... it will help you see, that the person who harmed you is a damaged person... no healthy person would hurt another...

That creates a space for the fear to dissolve...and in it's place, insight as to the who of the person, not the act they committed, helps to come to a place of acceptance..

Forgivness?

No such thing, accepting someone is a damaged soul, with a long road ahead of them, if they ever choose to address it.

Focus on you then, you did not ask for the harm, it happened, but THAT person did, not every person will..

You can and must forgive (release the anger, and bad feelings), but that person would never be a part of my life again.

I do have to maintain contact with 2 individuals whom I haven't yet forgiven and have both hurt me beyond words. They are both fathers of my children. That's why it's hard to forget the kids are my daily reminders. One I was married to and with 7 years and the divorce was very ugly and he tries to remain controlling, this yes was an abusive relationship. The other was a short relationship but he left me the week I found out. And didn't even call the entire time. He missed everything. Now out of the blue he's trying to contact me.

I'm going through something like this now, I think it's looking past what they did and knowing your looking at who they reall y are if you kinda know them. Forgive them? yes, it just taks a little time to adjust to what had happen. I my not have like there actions but I don't hate them and that it's self is what gets people. The meaning of hate!

You can forgive someone if you want to. The Lord forgives and so should we. But continuing a relationship after being hurt is a matter separate from forgiveness. You can forgive and walk away, too. If the hurting is going to continue, then you need to walk away. Don't hang around with someone you don't respect and someone who doesn't respect you if you're single. If you're married, of course, you want to work things out, but if you're single, someone who deliberately offends you is probably a bad scene. If they can learn to communicate with you and respect you, fine, but short of a religious conversion and a radical change in their personality and motives, don't expect a miraculous change. Pray about it. Seek God's will for your life and don't hang on to a destructive relationship. There are more fish in the sea. If you've been sleeping with someone, of course, you'll feel very attached whether the relationship is good for you or not. That's why it's best to save that till you're married. But sometimes, you have to break things off for your own good. Good luck to you.

you have to forgive in order to move on completely. but you also dont have to forget!!! first you have to forgive yourself. no matter what there is always some small portion of yourself that feels guilt or anger for allowing it or putting yourself is such a situation. then forgive them. not for them, but for YOU! if you hold on to that bitter and anger, they still control your heart and ability to move on. never let someone else have that power over you sweetie....xoxoxoxo