You know the old saying "can't live with them but you can't shoot them either"

That is exactly it Matt
He had at least one other girl on the go.
He's getting some right now.

But don't worry it won't last, and then he will try to get back into your good books, or at least your underpants.

Men like sex, Women like sex.
Just don't give away more than you are given.

so basically, i should learn 2 b a b@#$%, not trust any1, know it is all about sex and not have it. Maybe it is easier 2 stay single, lol

It is good to trust and it is very important in a relationship. You just have to trust yourself and your own felings first.

Hi & welcome to the forums. After reading your post and the responses, I'm seeing that you recieved some lame answers to a very valid question so I'll chime in with my own opinion.
I believe that what you've been experiencing is more along the lines of being a lack of the willingness on the guy's part to give back the energy it takes while pursuing an instant connection romantically.
In this fast paced, fast food world we live in today, we've grown used to either getting what we want instantly or pushing the "next" button & moving on to an easier target (so to speak).
In a generation of men who were practically raised by the morals,fantasies and attitudes that they consumed on television and in movies on a daily basis, we've falsly accepted that concepts such as "love at 1st site","the grass is always greener" and "I'm special" as truths that should apply to us so we act and react accordingly (unfortunetly).
I for one, do not think that you should change even one little thing about your expectations or your natural way of doing things in regard to how you do or do not express yourself. Instead, maybe you could just be a little more aware that men also often see things through "rose colored glasses" and alot of us may tend to reject the obvious in favor of the percieved.
I don't know you but from what I can tell, you're quick to smile and quite sensitive in nature, which are both wonderful and rare qualities. I suspect that you might also tend to sincerely look for the best in people. Again, both rare and wonderful.
As a fellow Taurus , I believe that we're grounded a little more than some who have their heads in the sky and maybe their hearts too, in so much as they expect an instant solution instead of making the commitment to do the work it takes to prove worthy of a generous and sincere nature such as we possess.In other words, they keep their eyes "wide shut".
Please don't believe for a second what the one poster told you about most men being able to only feel the emotion of anger, because it simply isn't true.
Wishing you the best & thank you for the open and sincere post.

If he stops all together, I say-- hes now focusing on someone else. OR MARRIED and got BUSTED!

Well - geez I missed Jess around here. Threads just seem to perk up I don't know WHY?!



But I will second AAqua here.



You are not a doormat. The guy is being either a) totally lame or b) a jerk or quite possibly c) all of the above! It has nothing to do with you. Forget him and find someone really worthy of your affection. And for Pete's sake don't forego sex! Stop the Insanity!!



"All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else."
-Mae West

Being an honest man and everything, I am so perfect to answer all enquiries...

You see?!

PERKY



"i like that"

You are very good at judging character, i could not have described myself better, Thank u for your reply

You're more than welcome

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if the guy was really interested in you he would call no matter what.... the answer then is obvious ...

Perhaps a pet!!

How about the REAL book that's entitled:

"He's Just Not That Into You?"

sorry babe

feeling a bit slow, a pet????? can u elaborate?

you seem like a really nice person. My grandmother told me once to never let them catch you. If you seem to into him than he will lose interest. Sometimes it is better to step back and not give so much of yourself. Are you a people pleaser maybe?