EXACTLY my point

fade my good thoughts are with ya, you are awesome in every way and sould have a really long line of wonderful people waiting for you. i hope you have all the happy times coming up!!! go! go! metal head!!

If you dont mind sitting the dance out, why even consider the aching feet? Ive become pretty cold toward the idea of relationships. But Im much more content NOT in one than I am about the thought of having to do all of the work to make one successful, falling in love and having it fall apart.

there's a part of me that wishes i was in that line, just so you know. (just got out of a 9 year, ain't jumpin in for a long time now.)

You are a darling! Thanks hon. Well the line's always been there, but I just don't 'do' relationships often

And same goes for you

i do to some extent self protect, but not to the extent that i should i think.....

i wear my heart on my sleeve.. its just in bullet proof glass....

You know I think the longer you live the more you realize what a gift LIFE is and you tend to live every day for what it has to offer.

No games. No BS. Just straight up LOVE LIFE .. and part of that IS relationships. I love BEING in love. What ever that costs along the way is G2G for me.

In Lee Ann Womack's song I Hope You Dance .. it says it ALL.

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you'll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a real and constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)

I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you'll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
Dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a real and constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
I hope you dance
(Where those years have gone)

(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)

Self protect??? yeah.. I used to be like that, MAJOR!! I had a lot of pain I was carrin around with me for a lot of years. I never talked about it with anyone, EVER!! well until recently...last year as a matter of fact....I had to let go of the past, to get on with the future.


It took a lot for me to give love another chance...lot of bumps in the road, continued to self protect...and then I came here to JSH. Feral started a thread...i was resistant, but she kept after me, so I played...as a 'favor' to her. Made lots of friend and met someone who thought, he knew what he wanted to only change his mind the next day. Yeah I was DONE then. I told Feral I wasn't playin anymore.. my heart couldn't take it. (self protecting)

Well, as a good friend always does, Feral begged and pleaded with me...I told her fine, but THEY had to email me, no other way(still self protecting)....and then BAM! Jimmy came along...we emailed for a couple days, and then went to the phone and talked for hours on end, daily! He shared his life with me, and I slowly shared my life with him.

The connection between Jimmy and I is AMAZING. (and we only have talked on the phone ) I can feel him in my soul, and I NEVER thought I would have that again, EVER, but I do..and I couldn't be happier! I love him and he loves me....and its amazing!


I don't need to self protect anymore, I have what I have been needing ALL of my life.

very much so...self protect probably too much to the point that i may not find that "one". not sure how to let the guard down.

Love you Ruthie

Great movie and very smart words were uttered.....I think alot of us self protect....its easier to be single than to actually try and quite possibly get hurt.

Love you too, Judy

One of the guys I went out with said I'm like no other girl he knows that guys have a place with me & they better know it.

I had to think about that, Do I really show that wall that much?

He did say that I'm the most drama free & fun to be around I just don't let them into my space.

I got upset with a guy a few weeks ago & he said OMG! Lisa has feelings!!!
Now did I really just treat him like a piece of meat?

I know whatcha mean Catch. I was told the thing about the wall too by a good friend/coworker.

But like he said .. Judy, don't take it down, cuz the guy that deserves a confident woman like you has to be able to take it down himself

Self-protecting is something that I have done for the last 5 years. My fiance died 5 years ago tomorrow. I know that there will never be anyone like him, but I think it is time to go on.

self protecting...that definitely sounds like me...after a bad marriage that ended very badly, i tend to do that often. i have been hurt badly and unfortunately now i keep people at arm's length to avoid being hurt again.
Becca

I have been busy raising my daughter & the same goes for most guys I meet.
Some times I feel like it's just my excuse not to get into a relationship,Maybe when I'm feeling lonely.
She's getting older now & soon will be my time, then I'll see who can get threw

But see that's the point. Who of us, having LOVED at some point was not hurt? It's very hard to have mountains without valleys, but it's a reason to want another mountain in the distance

This world is made up of opposites. You cant have joy w/o some kind of pain. You cant love without that someone making you angry or annoyed. Its just the world we live in.

I have met this guy and he makes me extremly happy. I was really down and sad on V-Day b/c this guy I was talking to for a month told me that he didnt think it was going to work. I wasnt really sad b/c I lost him, it was the what he did to tell me he found someone else. I felt that no one wanted me. Then I started talking to Kenny and he brought those feelings back.

Cyclical ... that's what love is.