I was supposed to have a date with this guy last night, but he told me his daughter was ill so he couldn't make it. COMPLETELY understandable. Then later tells me his daughter decided she was fine and went to his parents house and he went and hung out with his brothers. Still fine, I wouldn't wanna call last minute either. But then he says he wants to get together today. He'll call at noon and if everything works out, we'll go out around four. Sure, fine.

Well, noon rolls around and he sends me a text saying he got called into work and will call me when he gets a chance. Then like 10 minutes later, says he should be able to call in a little bit. It's been about 5 hours since then. Obviously we're not going anywhere, and that's fine, but he didn't send a message or anything saying he couldn't make it or that he'd call later or anything.

So, after all this, well, last night and today, I sent him a message saying that if something came up I understand, but that he should've at least sent a message or something. Anything, whatever. I then wished him luck and told him to have a nice night.

Do you think I acted rashly? Or would you have thought the same? (Sorry this was so long. Just wanted to be clear.)

He obviously has "better things" to do... either that, or he's having a lot of issues with his kids. The point is, he isn't being completely honest with you... why bother?

No, he sounds weird!! Did you meet him on here?

He doesn't sound very reliable to me...I had someone give me the same treatment once so I chalked it up to good luck that I hadn't actually gone out with him. If it were me I would move on to someone else

Another guy with all the excuses - move on

Maybe he really is busy.

Move on, hes not worth it. Obviously hes more interested in other things than you.


Go find a guy who is interested in you and doesnt come up with excuses. When you find him see if he has a brother for me

okay here is my thoughts on this subject but make sure I got the facts

he is calling you and asking you out or our you asking him out then stuff comes up ? So when you say you had plans did he make them with you or did you make them with him ....

see what happens the next few days if he doesn't contact u then move on....

I understand if his child was sick...but it sounds like to me that he is just coming up with excuse after excuse. If it were me, I wouldn't even mess with him anymore. There are to many single men out there to worry about one!
If he calls you, I don't think he will, I would just tell him that the next time he makes a date with his next victim he needs to get his story straight and make sure he really wants to date them.

i'll bite him for you

No, I didn't meet him on here.

And he's the one that's been making the dates. He's the one making all the forward motion. I've just been going with the flow.

Yeah, I just chalked it up to not being the right time. But that's two days in a row that I kept open for him, so, that's enough for me.

Thanks guys.

It sounds like he is probably too busy..Regardless of the whys and what ifs.

I actually checked your profile real quick to see if you were in my area ('cuz maybe we're talking about the same guy - but we're not).

People treat you the way you let them treat you. If he doesn't respect you enough to give you a straight answer - which should include some kind of apology - Move on.

i DONT wait around for people with no plan or plan changers........NEXT!!!

I wouldn't wait around its just not meant to be...if he offers another date...sure you can accept it but don't get down when he puts it off again. Don't wait on him though if someone else comes along definately give them a chance, leave, and move on ;)

Block him he's probably married. you deserve better treatment that that.

what you are dealing with here is more commonly-known as a "flake". it's almost like they have adult-onset ADHD or something... they can't maintain a second's worth of attention, and they can't seem to be able to keep their appointments in check.

I went through something similar to this (no daughter or tertiary family members involved, though) with a date I had while signed up on another dating site. The flake simply could not make up her mind on whether or not she wanted to go through with a second date that SHE wanted. She'd call up and schedule, only to NOT show up. Then she'd call up wanting to reschedule, only to flake out again. Then she'll send me a site mail about some drama bull-honkey in her life. Jeez... dumping her almost seemed like fun after a certain point.

Not only is being a flake rude, but it's disrespectful and indicative of their lack-of-character.

Don't accept that kind of behavior- if the other party pulls that kind of malarkey, pull the plug and go somewhere else.

duds got problems,, want to date ill do my best to show