So I signed up to this site and it's actually pretty cool. There are some really nice people on here, but I've been rather curious about some others. I mean do people actually READ what you write or do they just glance at everything really quick and decide that it doesn't matter what you're looking for or whatnot, that you fit some weird mold they have and so regardless if they're precisely the opposite of what you've just stated they can feel free to email you as much as they want. Doesn't matter if they get a response. I mean, seriously, do they just think......well, that doesn't apply to ME?! I'm just so wonderfully with all my (insert own whatever here) that they'll just overlook that we have absolutely nothing in common and drop everything for me! What is the deal?!?!

Sorry, for the vent, but it's been bugging me for a while now and I was hoping that other people have the same problem. I like to share my misery.

And no, this wasn't aimed at any one particular person. Couldn't be. There seem to be tons!

yuh i get that..ive gotten some email where they ask all sorts of questions that i already have the answers to on my profile ..so am like okayyy they didnt read

Maby they ain't got no learnin'?

IM SORRY, BUT I YOU

maybe they just dont know how to read...also welcome to jsh

Sorry I just read your profile, but I did not see any restrictions. There is nothing stating what you are or are not looking for, and maybe that is why you are getting the unwelcome responces. The only thing I did see was basically they have to like children.

welcome to JSH

what's that saying

you have to kiss alot of frogs to meet a prince
or is it
if you kiss alot of frogs you get warts

enjoy the posts

Kasey... You are not alone in these thoughts. I had a very interesting mail yeserday about my profile. In it, I said I was "very much involved" with another member, and the guy suggested that was easily misinterpreted as "okay, involved is still single... how involved... and maybe there is wiggle room". This man was honest and admitted he was driven by sexual motives in an instinctual way, and I admired his honesty. (Not to mention he was a laugh riot) He said to make it clear and in no uncertain terms. I appreciated that feedback and took it to heart.

Fact is, people will read it or they won't. They might send you a mail that says you are hot or ask if you wanna chat and if so "hit them up". If you don't reply, they might start a thread saying women are all B's and nobody replies to their mails.

People are weird. We all are, in our way. But the Internet brings out strange things in all of us.
Welcome.

Huh. Thank you, Kenneth. I haven't looked at my profile since I made it. And you're right. I didn't state any of that. Though I did think some of it was a given, but apparently I was wrong. I'll go rectify that immediately without coming across as mean, I hope.

yesterday i had a guy tell me to post a real picture of myself and stop hiding..

i had to laugh, cuz i actually READ his profile..but he hadn't even bothered to LOOK at mine, or he'd have seen all my REAL pics lmao

Welcome, Kasey.

I'm certainly not an expert, as evidenced by my original profile which was pretty vague. I have since expanded it a bit to give readers a greater glimpse into the person that I am, and what I'm looking for. The system perimeters don't always work, and some guys obviously don't read my profile or they'd get that we might not be a good match. But...the upside is that I'm meeting people I might not meet otherwise and that has expanding my world a bit more. If I'm not interested, I say so.

Define, decide, DATE!! Works for me...good luck!

Your welcome, and I don't think anyone here thought that you came accross as a meany. Sometimes with certain men you have to be direct, we don't take hints, or read minds. LOL...

But I love your lips

Had a female once e-mail me asking what I like to do, how old am I, and what I'm looking for. She didn't read the profile, cause all the good info is in there. How the hell are you supposed to respond to people like that? "Ummm, yeah... NEXT!"? Guys, though, are much worse about this than women are. Doesn't always reflect well on the rest of us...

i hear ya Jace...i had a guy email me askin me where i was from..

now, everyone click on a profile, and then go to email this user..now notice on that specific screen, you see their picture (or their avitar) and then you also see how old they are, and WHERE THEY'RE FROM! lmao

the guy never looked at my profile, just saw that i was female lol how shallow is that?

You know you love to read all my thousands of e-mails I send you each day. I just know you do, I'm that special.

lol and you would be? cause i think yours would at least be entertaining!

One of the consistent themes I've seen in the year+ that I've been here, is that some people either don't or can't read profiles.

The best ones, though, are when they DO read it, and then write to you explaining why your standards are wrong, and why you should date them anyway, regardless of the fact that they're the polar opposite of what you have stated you're looking for. There is a level of narcissism that transcends reality....

The problem is...some glance at your picture and have no intent on reading your profile

One of the consistent themes I've seen in the year+ that I've been here, is that some people either don't or can't read profiles.

The best ones, though, are when they DO read it, and then write to you explaining why your standards are wrong, and why you should date them anyway, regardless of the fact that they're the polar opposite of what you have stated you're looking for. There is a level of narcissism that transcends reality....



Precisely! Thank you! And they think this is attractive! I mean confidence is good, but that's going too far!