Topic: Don't wanna be a mom anymore.
TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:04 PM
everybody focuses in the mother's feelings which is correct, she is a person and she deserves gratitude and compassion (I'd b nobody w/o my mom), but as in the abortion topic people make the mistake of forgetting about the child's feelings.
everybody has problems but not to the point of saying i don't wanna b mom anymore. it's the same as saying i don't want my kid anymore.

Totage's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:09 PM

I am so tired of doing it all alone. Everything I do is for my son and I get nothing in return. No respect, no love, no help. His father lives hundreds of miles away and I wish I could send him there. But my son has a learning disability, and my ex husband is nearly illiterate and couldn't do anything to help my son. I suffer from depression and anxiety, and how can I raise my son as a productive and caring person when I can barely take care of myself. I wanna give up.


No offense, but that's a pretty selfish post. Instead of thinking of yourself, you should be thinking about your son and what's best for him.

I do understand how you feel, it's rough, but you gotta keep goin'. You gotta take care of him, you're all he has.

no photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:12 PM
(((Walker))) I respect your opinion but I believe you are way out of your element here.flowerforyou There are many women, including myself, that have had the same feelings at some point in time or another that Sharon was having when she started this thread. Until you have been a single parent there is just no way for you to comprehend her emotions here! I will not even start on the abortion thoughts because this is not the topic for it.

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:31 PM
i see ur point fresh. i'm not a mother, and i won't ever been, but i'm a son. i'm just taking the position of the one who has no guilt at all, yet is the one who suffer the most. then again a mother deserves the highest respect, but what about the baby?

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:33 PM

i see ur point fresh. i'm not a mother, and i won't ever been, but i'm a son. i'm just taking the position of the one who has no guilt at all, yet is the one who suffer the most. then again a mother deserves the highest respect, but what about the baby?
I am venting. My son is not seeing this. He is far from suffering. I make sure of that.

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:34 PM
and my son is far from a baby, he is 17 years old, and needs to respect his mother.

Totage's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:37 PM
For some reason I thought you said he was 7, but yeah at 17 he should respect and apperciate what you do for him, and what you've done.

mry's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:39 PM
Keep in mind they say they come back to you when they are 30.

Totage's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:40 PM

Keep in mind they say they come back to you when they are 30.


noway I'm never goin' back.

mry's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:42 PM
I now love everything my parents ever did for me. And I hope to God they know it!

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:43 PM
well the fact he is 17 changes the whole thing

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:45 PM

well the fact he is 17 changes the whole thing

I stated that on the first page.

no photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:47 PM

i see ur point fresh. i'm not a mother, and i won't ever been, but i'm a son. i'm just taking the position of the one who has no guilt at all, yet is the one who suffer the most. then again a mother deserves the highest respect, but what about the baby?

Just because a mother gets frustrated and needs to vent does not mean that the child suffers at all! My children are always my top priorty and I wouldn't trade them for the whole world! But I can not say that there are not days that I think about giving up. I never would and I thank God everyday for giving me good friends and family that I can vent to.

Totage's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:47 PM
Once he turns 18 you can have him move out on his own. Make him take care of himself.

mry's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:49 PM


i see ur point fresh. i'm not a mother, and i won't ever been, but i'm a son. i'm just taking the position of the one who has no guilt at all, yet is the one who suffer the most. then again a mother deserves the highest respect, but what about the baby?

Just because a mother gets frustrated and needs to vent does not mean that the child suffers at all! My children are always my top priorty and I wouldn't trade them for the whole world! But I can not say that there are not days that I think about giving up. I never would and I thank God everyday for giving me good friends and family that I can vent to.
I heard the Fresh!flowerforyou

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:50 PM

Once he turns 18 you can have him move out on his own. Make him take care of himself.
Well I want to make sure he gets through a vocational program first. See, I am far from a bad mother. I will give him the skills he needs to survive.

Totage's photo
Thu 01/24/08 06:57 PM
Edited by Totage on Thu 01/24/08 06:58 PM
That's what I'm saying, if he can't see what you are doing for him, maybe he has to learn the hard way about how much you do for him.

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Thu 01/24/08 07:21 PM
Edited by cutelildevilsmom on Thu 01/24/08 07:25 PM

i never saw a wild thing
feeling sorry for itself
a small bird can drop frozen from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself
D.H. Lawrence

some choose self-pity others keep going

i wonder how would that child feel if he knew how his mom feels about him. i'd feel rejected.

the kid is almost eighteen and she is venting.its good to get these feelings out.since when can't mothers, who by the way are HUMAN,vent,have off days.Life isnt some f@#$king tv show or we would all have a house,perfect kids,nice husband and a happy ending to all our problems that week.This woman has raised her son by herself for 17 yrs and she comes for some support and she gets the"bad mom" scenario.when I feel like throwing in the towel or just getting in the car and driving to florida I know its time for som ME moments.Mothers are not just defined by that role they are also lovers,co-workers and they like to feel like they are still part of the human race.I know as a single mom ,I can't go out like I used to and this can isolate you to a certain extent.Throw in panic disorder and depression and it just makes it worse.
Sharon you vent away and don't worry about these fools who have a stereotypical mom should be.
Fresh and feral and 2 much thanks for sharing your stories and support.

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 07:30 PM


i never saw a wild thing
feeling sorry for itself
a small bird can drop frozen from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself
D.H. Lawrence

some choose self-pity others keep going

i wonder how would that child feel if he knew how his mom feels about him. i'd feel rejected.

the kid is almost eighteen and she is venting.its good to get these feelings out.since when can't mothers, who by the way are HUMAN,vent,have off days.Life isnt some f@#$king tv show or we would all have a house,perfect kids,nice husband and a happy ending to all our problems that week.This woman has raised her son by herself for 17 yrs and she comes for some support and she gets the"bad mom" scenario.when I feel like throwing in the towel or just getting in the car and driving to florida I know its time for som ME moments.Mothers are not just defined by that role they are also lovers,co-workers and they like to feel like they are still part of the human race.I know as a single mom ,I can't go out like I used to and this can isolate you to a certain extent.Throw in panic disorder and depression and it just makes it worse.
Sharon you vent away and don't worry about these fools who have a stereotypical mom should be.
Fresh and feral and 2 much thanks for sharing your stories and support.

It's all good cute. You know as mothers, we can take it all. We don't bother with foolishness. lmaoflowerforyou

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 08:39 PM


The opinion I value the most. My daughter filled out this questionaire a couple years ago when she was about the same age my son is now. Does it still seem like I am selfish and uncaring?

Jan 29, 2006 8:06 PM
YOU fill in the blanks about ME even if u dont have any idea what they are and send it back to ME. But first post a blank one out to all your friends so they can return the favor to you. Be honest.


my name: Sharon

Who is the love of my life: Snuffy, Mikey and I and maybe mia if she stopped biting your toes.

Where did we meet: on a hospital bed. I was covered in gross juices and you were popping veins in your forehead.

Take a stab at my middle name: Marie

How long have you known me: 18 years and 5 months

When is the last time that we saw each other: 4 hours ago

Do I smoke: You sneak them when I'm not home.

Do I drink: yes

When is my birthday: July 2nd

What was your first impression of upon meeting me: wwwwaaahhhhhhhhhhh

Do I have any siblings: 3

Am I funny: my friends think so

What's my favorite type of music: rock

What is the best feature about me: very unselfish

Am I shy or outgoing: depends on the amount of drinks

Am I a rebel or do I follow the rules: rebel

Would you consider me a friend/good friend: yes

Would you call me preppy, average, sporty, punk, hippie, glam, nerdy, snobby, or something else (what): punk

What is a memory we have once had: hikin the grand canyon

Have you ever hugged me: yes

Do you miss me...do you think i miss you: yes and yes

What is my favorite food: not guacamole, I know that.

Have you ever had a crush on me: ahhhhh!!!

If there was one good nickname for me, what would it be: Share Bear

What's your favorite memory of me: I Liked the first one on the hospital bed.

Who do I like right now: ??

What is my worst habit: dishes get icky

If you and I were stranded on a desert island, what one thing would I bring? your pillow

Are we friends: yes