Most people have some serious emotional issues whether they know it or not, and for men it's usually more difficult to undo all the damage, since, we as a society tend to consider men only such when we don't truly acknowledge our own feelings.

So if you find a decent guy, spend your first date in therapy, jk it's all about patience

Because women always say they want a good guy, but they always end up with the jerk. Thnik they can change them. Then men like me, gentlemen, intelligent, caring, faithful, are left to sit alone.

sweety i got plenty of secrets but you do have the right to your own thoughts so imma let that one slide honey

we are all dogs

and like all dogs its a matter of training

Ha Ha I think I was engaged to the king of that circle!

One of my favorite songs is by Jamie O’neal (country) and it’s called “Tryin’ to Find Atlantis” The best quote from that song; “Tryin to find a good man is like tryin to find Atlantis” Check out that song, I am sure you will like it.

But I know with all my heart that there is at least one out there so I will just keep searching until I do find him…. Good luck fishing everyone!

You know I have trouble finding a good girl. Note: I just joined an online dating site. The girls I have dated are all crazy. The last one I was with, we were together a little over a year, ended up hitting me with a beer bottle on the back of the head. Sneaky little girl! She was also one of those very emotional drunks, you know the ones that get really torn down and start to cry over nothing, make big scenes, and think that they can solve what ever problems they are having by getting drunk. Ok, I don't know where I was going with that rant but I think it is all about timing. You must first have your life squared away before you can bring someone else into it.

owen i would never hit you with a bottle your too good looking

You hit ME with a bottle, Nell!!!

There are still good guys out there

Hope you find one

MMMIIIKKKKEEEEYYYY only cos you dared me too

i think you have been barking up the wrong tree!!
(but you're cute)

hey Nell

you wanna train me

let me get my treats

I would agree that you must have your life together before you let someone else in as well as setting your standards higher....your standards are what tell the world what you feel your self worth is....I am a great woman and deserve a great man and if I lower my standards I lower my self worth and would end up settling for less which would lead to depression, insecurity, resentment, blah blah blah, enough with the shrink stuff......seriously though honey, deffinetly raise the bar on who you are choosing to be around,(dogs like to hang out with dogs) not just with and you'll attract the tigers, not the dogs......and do your best not to come off as conceited...you can be secure in knowing what you want and not go lower than that but there is a fine line between confidence and conceit.....Good luck to you honey!!!

I am glad there are some women out there that would not do that. Thanks for the gesture!

Nightime is right on the money. If you have a consistent problem with guys, it isn't them. It's you. Stop whining about how to find great guys, and learn how to find them.

I looked at your profile. All your pictures are the same, and they all feature you in lingerie. On top of it, you have a profile with two lines of text that tell men nothing about you.

Exactly what type of men were you expecting to pick up here? I read several dozen profiles a day, and they all say the same boring thing. "I'm funny and like to have a good time blah blah blah looking for a nice trusting guy blah blah blah I don't have anything interesting in this profile at all"

Every girl on a dating site gets tons of emails a day. But great guys don't email everybody. Only great girls. If you want to get a great guy, you need to learn how to attract one.

If you really have no clue how to do that, go out and buy a few books. Don't just ask your girl-friends either. I'm willing to bet that most of them are in the same situation you are. If you want good advice, go to people who know what they are talking about.

-ArdentPause

P.S. Yes, I am being particularly hard on you. I just hate seeing the same mistakes made again and again by women everywhere. It's a real shame. You have a lot to offer. Show it off.

your welcome

Excellent input man! I have read plenty of mens profiles that are the same way, "I like the outdoors, camping blah blah, want someone to cuddle with, yadda yadda.....but some depth into it, and let your personality come out and don't be afraid to be direct, assertive and painfully honest if need be.....
ArdentPause...you haven't read mine yet have you? not the typical profile....no half naked pics either....lol

No Nell I asked u to HIT on me!!!!

Very good advice!! You need to focus on what you want..not what you DON'T want...it's true and it works...if you believe you're worth it.