Knowing yourself and what you need in love & relationship is so important!
Many only focus on love and sex and/or the "click".
But actually there are way deeper things that are far more important or as important.
I learn about these things for myself with vids from dating/relationship coaches, astrology, Tarot and using AI in combination with the latter 2 to get more info and insight.

For instance by telling AI what signs the most important planets of my chart are in and asking which sign would be a great love match for me.
Then I get the default matches for Taurus but none of these work for me. I sort of knew why, but not exactly. So I then ask AI and it gives me an incredibly accurate explanation.
I keep asking more and more and then get more and more insight in self.

One thing that I also came across via an AI app from a well-known dating coach is that emotional safety is very important.
That stuck with me. I kept thinking about it.
And the more I did, the more I realised just how danged important it actually is for me.
Something I had never really thought about, then was made aware of it and that now has become one of the most important things that I'm looking for!

Then there's what's often said to be important in love:
Chemistry, connection, commitment.
And yup, those are indeed important. You need all those in a relationship.
But the thing is that you can have the first 2 with loads of people yet most of them won't make a great partner for you. So in that sense it's quite meaningless.
Even adding commitment to the mix isn't enough.
What is crucial is compatibility.

And there's no real standard for what would be compatible and what not. For some it'd be incompatible if one is a morning person and the other an evening person or night owl. For others this isn't a real problem, they can still make it work.
So what's compatible can be quite subjective.

Another thing is to feel peace inside when you're with your person. That's not the same as feeling bored!
But feeling peaceful means you can relax, you can be yourself, you feel accepted as you are, you don't get judged and so on.
It actually means your nervous system gets soothed and calms down, something that doesn't happen in all love relationships and often we don't even notice it when it's not calm.
Often we're not used to feeling peaceful, we may think that there always has to be some sort of 'buzz' so when it does feel peaceful we can mistake it for boredom and not being the right connection.

The better you know yourself, the better you know what you've always lacked in relationship -not always by the other's doing, we have to be accountable for our own flaws & shortcomings too.
And it can help you figure out what you need most of all.

Like I learned that emotional safety is really a thing for me, and I haven't had much of it in my life. But also astrologically it comes up as a strong need due to a certain planetary position.
There are so many ways to learn and grow, it's just a matter of choosing to do so!
I always enjoy it tremendously :)