Topic: why is love not equal?
austin miller's photo
Mon 02/23/26 04:37 PM
Love in many relationships is not always equal. Often, a man loves the woman so deeply that he carries not only his own responsibilities, but also a large part of hers. He provides, protects, worries, and problem-solves not because he is forced to, but because he loves.
When a woman is facing challenges, the man often makes those challenges his own. If 80% of a woman’s problems become the man’s concern, and he already carries 100% of his own responsibilities, then emotionally and mentally he is carrying far more.
This doesn’t mean love is wrong it shows that love is sometimes expressed through sacrifice. And that is why love in a relationship can feel unequal, not because one person doesn’t care, but because one person carries more.
Love is not always equal in relationships. Many men carry their own burdens plus most of their partner’s struggles. When a man turns his woman’s problems into his responsibility, love becomes sacrifice and sacrifice is rarely equal.

OldCoot's photo
Tue 02/24/26 01:57 AM
Call the Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhmbulance!
Love as sacrifice?
Most preposterous thing I might ever have heard.
Clearly your idea of love differs enormously from mine.

Love is a gift, freely given.
If you give a gift do you expect one in return?
IMHO, if you love someone life becomes prioritized around that person, their existence gives yours meaning.
The things you do in service to that love are NOT "burdens", they are JOYS!
Wonderful, beautiful, joys that make your life richer, fuller, & more meaningful because you GIVE them.

If it feels like sacrifice, if it feel like a burden, then that is not love.
I don't know exactly what it is (possession, maybe?), but it sure isn't like any love I've ever experienced.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 02/24/26 03:03 AM

Call the Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhmbulance!
Love as sacrifice?
Most preposterous thing I might ever have heard.
Clearly your idea of love differs enormously from mine.

Love is a gift, freely given.
If you give a gift do you expect one in return?
IMHO, if you love someone life becomes prioritized around that person, their existence gives yours meaning.
The things you do in service to that love are NOT "burdens", they are JOYS!
Wonderful, beautiful, joys that make your life richer, fuller, & more meaningful because you GIVE them.

If it feels like sacrifice, if it feel like a burden, then that is not love.
I don't know exactly what it is (possession, maybe?), but it sure isn't like any love I've ever experienced.

Hooray for the man who gets what masculinity is all about!

OldCoot's photo
Tue 02/24/26 11:17 AM
Edited by OldCoot on Tue 02/24/26 11:19 AM

Hooray for the man who gets what masculinity is all about!

Don't get tooooo carried away.
I do sometimes kinda expect a little "sumpin sumpin" from the woman I love, from time to time.
(3 times a day if she's up for it bigsmile )
and hope to hell what I give back in those moments is greater than what I received.