What memories are you focusing on? I have no clue if this will work or not, but it may be worth a try. When you start thinking or dreaming about the nasty end of things, dig around in your memory and find a happier memory of her to focus on instead. The only other thing that pops into my mind is let go of the blame. Wishing you success...........

I kinda know what yer going thru. My mom is still alive but she is no longer with us, she is in the final stages of Alzheimer's.
She doesn't know who I am anymore and it's likely she never will again. She may have been a BIG square but I'm lucky in that I got to see more of this country before I was a teen than most ppl ever will in a lifetime.
Those are the memories I will always carry with me.
Just keep her memory in your heart and know that she will always be there looking over you when she passes. Loved ones NEVER leave us when they die, they've just moved on to a different plane of existence. We might be able to see or hear them, but they are still there with us.

((((Dawn)))) i know how you feel, its been 1 1/2 years since the biggest role model in my life passed. I still am not over it. This for the first 6 months were hard, but then they gradually got better. I still get emotional and teary eyed when i talk about him, but i dont mind it so much anymore. it just tells me that i havent forgotten him and that i still love him dearly.

I'm so very sorry for your loss...

Dawn, You have my deepest respect for you and the hard time you are going thru. I lost my mother at the age of 12. I am now in my fourties and think about her almost every day. As a Christian I have my faith to hold onto. But what helps me the most is my earliest memory of her knitting and me standing beside her chair, she put her knitting down pulled me into her lap and rocking me and singing to me. I hold onto that memory with both hands because it is the most precious thing to me. No amount of money would be enough for me to sell it. Look inside and find your own memory of your mother and it will bring you some peace. It did me.

One day at a time. It does get better, not easier but better. I know I lost my mom two years ago.

Been there and I went to get some help with it. I still miss her and she passed back in "98" I went to many support groups with others that lost a loved one. Helped me, but I had to let her go and know she is at peace. If you need to talk don't hesitate to e-mail me

My momma was diagnosed with cancer 4 days before she died.... this April will be two years. My father died two years before she did. Suddenly I felt sooo alone, although I have brothers, it just seemed so lonely. Know this....I never believe time heals anything. You have to find somewhere inside you, a reason to go on without your loved one. With my momma it was throwing myself into something I felt passionate about. Something new. Something that would help people because I couldn't help her in the end. With my dad, it was something a read in an article over a year after he died. "Don't cry because it's over....be happy that you were part of it". That awakened me. Not sure why but I took that sentence to heart and was finally able to accept life without him. (he and I were very close)

hugs to you....

Letting go is not the answer... hanging on to the goo is. Remember all the wonderful things you shared and hang onto that and you will make it!
Has been 6 years since I lost my brother and it still hurts everyday!

It's just over 10 years since my mom died & I don't think I'll ever stop missing her. She was not just my mom, but really my best friend. (I know it sounds trite, but it's true). All I can tell you is that it does get easier. Also, she will always be with you as long as you can close your eyes & see her. I built a pool in my yard after my mom died (she loved to swim) & when I'm out there alone, I feel her with me. While it's not the same as having her alive, I've learned to accept it. I guess the most important thing is to focus on how things were when she was alive....the good times, etc. It will get better.

MISSING MY MOM

I KNOW HOW UR FEELING ITS BEEN 15 YRS NOW MY PARENTS PASSED 6 WKS APART, I WENT A COUPLE SUMMERS AGO AN LET BALOONS GO IN AIR AN TOLD THEM I LOVE THEM AN I WOULD SEE THEM SOMEDAY. I LOST MY WORLD WHEN I LOST MY DAD BUT I WAS WITH HIM WHEN HE WENT AN FOR THAT I WILL ALWAYS BE GRATEFUL. MAYBE THATS WHAT U CAN DO, BALOONS I MEAN, YOU CAN ALSO YELL TELL THEM OFF LET IT OUT DEFINETLY MAKE U FEEL BETTER.

Hi Dawn, I know how you are feeling..I lost my husband last March and then my Mom in Oct. Almost more than I could take. And the holidays were the worst....But they're over now. I still hurt but have set some goals for myself and trying to get on with life...Hand in there, it will eventually get a little better.

I don't know, or couldn't even fathom, how you are feeling, but I know how big of a part my mother plays in my life, and I'd like you to know that you'll be in my prayers, and that I'm hoping you will be able to hang in there.

Thankyou everyone for the kind words....the holidays were horrible..I have been trying to keep really busy...It helps me block things out somewhat. I choose not to be medicated for depression or anxiety...so I think I just slip into my own little world for awhile to I feel better.

GRIEVE AND CRY,REMEMBER AND SMILE...

i have lost my entire family.Heaven is all around you as are your loved ones.

Sorry to hear that Cambo

I stated earlier it gets better with time,but at times I don't know how because sometimes I just want to go be with her. I went and helped my aunt clean her storage room the other day and found a letter my mom wrote 35 yrs ago. The letter was to my biological dad telling him about me. Telling him what a pretty baby I was and that he was going to miss so much by not wanting to know me. I cried just like the day she passed away nearly 3 yrs ago. So does it really get better I ask? Only more time and God will tell.

You never let go. You never get over it. You never forget. I lost both my parents. My dad died in '93 (I was 24) and my mom died in '95. It was bad when my dad died, but I had my mom to lean on then, thank goodness, but when she was gone, I had noone to help me cope...noone. I have family, but they werent helpful at all, as they were grieving too, which you think wouldve helped, but it didnt. I miss my mom practically everyday, but I CAN tell you, the pain lessens a little as time goes on; it never goes away, but it lessens and you'll always miss her. The best advice I can think of, is try to go to bereavement counseling or counseling in general; talk to someone, cause talking about it does help, either in group counseling or one on one, whichever makes you more comfortable. And let your emotions out; cry whenever you need to cause that helps too. You can even join an online group. Theres a site called Daily Strength. Wonderful ppl are on there. They even have private chat. Hope this helps A LITTLE. Hang in there. Youre by no means alone.

Oh no none of us are alone in missing loved ones. The day after I posted my last message my older sister came by to bring me some stuff my son left at her house. I felt so bad, my son who's 7 came in and told her. "Aunt Denise you are so pretty you look just like grandma did." After she left she called me and was crying. She asked me why everyone picked that day to tell her how much she looked like our mom? As it turned out my son was like the 4th person who told her she looked like momma. That day alone.