I try.. but sometimes.. the site doesn't move as fast as I do lol.. OR.. ma finger does a twitchy dance LOL

When in touch with a potential partner you have to be in your feminine.
A man cannot feel anything romantic nor fall in love when you're in your masculine.
That's another problem these days: many women being too much in their masculine, oftentimes so much so that they don't even know and argue till they're blue in the face that they're not.
You need polarity for romantic feelings to come up and there's no polarity when the woman is in her masculine.

There are a lot of other things women tend to do that put men off. Especially now that we also have a lot of men in too much feminine energy.
These men talk too much, can whinge, are needy etc.
A quality man listens to the woman talk. The woman should talk more than the man. And she should talk about her feelings as that raises her oestrogen which in turn raises the man's testosterone. Men can smell oestrogen. Which is also why men often cannot fall in love with an older woman because she a) is too much in her masculine energy and B) doesn't have oestrogen anymore.
He can then be friends with her but he cannot fall in love with her.

Another thing women often not do is ask a man to do things for her. Not necessary big things. Just things that take a few minutes, and then show that you're grateful he did that.
That raises his testosterone. Men need to do, give, serve (not on a 3D level). He should give to his woman. That makes him feel better.
Thing is, most women don't ask anything of their man because she can do it herself, sometimes even better. Big mistake!
And often women give or do too much for their man. Even go as far as to solve his problems for him.

You know, there are a ton of things like that and most people don't even know!
We were never taught any of this as in the past you married, stayed married. End of story.
But the knowledge is out there. That's how I learnt, but most people cannot be @r$ed to educate themselves.

Jake Woodard, excellent coach although he presents himself as motivational speaker, even offers webinars and/or courses for men so they can learn to become quality men & partners as opposed to lame @$$ed Beta men.
He's really good, doesn't beat around the bush either. Stuff like, "If you do XYZ she doesn't want to F you anymore because...."

Stupid thing is, a lot of women do do the work to grow & develop, also concerning being a good partner, feminine etc.
And men... they fiddle with the remote? Then come on here to complain about women, hihi.

I used to go out with a girl that was a good twitchy dancer. But she moved too fast for me.

they call that Twerking today

She was a pretty good twerk too.

I miss that.

I tend to view myself as an "Alpha" male but being today's "Alpha" isn't what a lot of men THINK it is.

To me, you have to think of yourself as a "can do anything" man, but throttle the hell out of the aggressiveness and the "strong, silent" parts in exchange for feeling your way into exactly what behavior a potential mate wants from a man in HER ideal relationship.

Crystal is right about full-time "Beta"-mode not being very attractive but a toolbox with plenty of "Alpha" & "Beta" behaviors you can draw on at will is a necessity if a guy wants to win & HOLD a woman's affections.

there women who are really looking for love and not money the only problem with some men are looking for beauty instead of characters .

I want both, beauty AND personality - preferably a wacky personality that acts outside the box.

cauce both of u are unicorers. amazing girls

Zipf's law people!!!! look it up...

Hi OldCoot, I totally missed your reply.
I think most don't know anymore how to be feminine in case of women and with men what it means to be masculine.
And quite logical as things have changed so much over the last decades, and are still changing. Things have been the same for hundreds of years and we have to find a new way. This was not possible before due to strict demands and regulations from society, church and whatnot.
So we're inventing something new that likely has never existed but is very necessary for people to be happy & fulfilled.

As for men... they do NOT need both Alpha & Beta! Never Beta! Beta men are the whinging demanding needy men, not the healthy masculine men.
Being healthy masculine means you embrace your woman, you hold her, create space for her, by taking care of things like dealing with problems with neighbours & paying the bills & calling the plumber & fixing the fence and so on. You provide and protect that way which frees up the woman from having to live in the head. It allows her to get into her heartspace and body so she can soften. This softening is not becoming Susy Homemaker, but her nervous system (finally) being able to relax.
When a woman has to take care of all these chores and defend her property and/or herself, basically fend for herself in all areas of life, her nervous system goes in overdrive. Very unhealthy as you get stress hormones 24/7.
While for men it actually makes them feel good to do such things as it raises their testosterone!
It also raises a woman's testosterone which stresses us out.

When a woman can relax with a man cause he takes care of all that stuff and she can relax she can begin to bring in joy, playfulness, warmth and so on. All these feminine energy things, and... men crave that from a woman!
But when you have to fend for yourself as a woman, like most single women these days, and live in your head, it's impossible to be playful and express joy etc.

Back to men... by what he does (if he's a healthy masculine man) is provide emotional safety. Beta men don't do that.
Only when a woman feels emotionally safe with a man can she (and her nervous system) relax, can she soften and shift into playfulness, warmth, love, joy.
We women need to know, feel, sense that we can rely on our man, that we can trust him, that he supports us, respects us, that he's there for us, that he won't leave us at the drop of a hat etc.
Having that is emotional safety.
What we then can become (warm, joyful, playful, loving, happy & fulfilled, admiring our man etc.) in turn nourishes the man and gives his testosterone and sense of masculinity a boost.

It really is a 2-way street. If both are balanced and do what they should do it's a perpetual circle of love.

Ms Crystal..... I have to agree with you on this one, some just don't understand the situation.

Nicw

Thank you, Sir!
And you're right. Not everyone will understand it or isn't interested enough to try to understand.
But it is a real big problem. And it affects all single people.
Thank goodness there are more and more male coaches these days that educate and speak about this, offer courses for men on this too. Jake Woodard sometimes even offers a free course on it.
That will create a ripple effect but it's going to be slow. I mean, it's not like a couple of million of men will sign up for those courses. Then it could go faster.
In the meantime we all have to fumble with the current situation.

Normally speaking the masculine follows the progress of the feminine quite fast. Unfortunately this time it is taking very long. Longer than usual. And I think the result will be that many will end up spending the last decade(s) of their life as a single, even though deep down they would've loved to have a partner.

You're welcome....I enjoy my peace more than anything these days.

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