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Topic: Is it ok to date her friend?
EveningKiss's photo
Wed 01/02/08 09:18 PM
I would gladly date my friends boyfriend if they broke up and I wouldnt care if she dated one of my exes. We've talked about it several times.

Donnar's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:09 AM
ok. been there recently. It was over between us, but, we were still good friends. I encouraged them to go out. They both dropped ME like a hot rock!! I was hurt and angry! We could have all stayed friends. Now I lost both of my best friends! I guess they feel guilty.
Go for it if agreed by all. Please don't drop friend 1 if you and friend 2 fall in love.

FloridaKendra's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:14 AM
My friend's ex came around on me about two weeks after he and her had a (very) painful breakup. I thought it was pretty sleazy of him considering she was still pretty upset with things.. But maybe two weeks was too soon... ::shrug:: It also depends on HOW the other two broke up.

OrangeCat's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:19 AM
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kmtiburona's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:40 AM
In all honesty, it really shouldn't matter except, for example you had a gf for a while, and you exchanged i love you's and the break up was bad! But in reality, unless you had dated someone like me, your typical women will get all jealous at the fact that you and her didn't work out and that means no one else, close to her, should be happy with you!

I know, I know, women. Even if everyone says they are ok with it, chances are your ex will eventually start some drama and someone's relationship will be ruined. Whether it be their friendship, your's and your ex's or your's and the new girls.

I would say, unless it were me, it's probably gonna start a lot of drama, even though it shouldn't for a 6 month relationship!

Desi1's photo
Thu 01/03/08 04:23 AM

hey thats a great idea allsmiles a good buddy of mine actually liked the first good to begin with lol. i wonder if he is still interested in her...
Well i feel that its not a good thing to do, what if it was you how would you feel if it didnt workout with the girl that you like then your childhood best friend that you been knowing your whole life steps in an starts dating her, you say you all still hang together an have the same friends if you have any kind of respect for the young lady or yourself you woulnt do that to another person people say thing but dont have to mean it, maybe she says its ok because she still have feeling for you an just want to see you happy, or what if they are just playing you then you come out to be the fool, and their laughing at you cause they know that onlygrimmy guy want to go from friend to friend, i tell my daughter to be careful an watch guys like you who wants to date best friends, because what i think is that the ladys are playing you like a short flute just sizing you up and wen your with 1 they tell how it was an what it was an how long or short it is how long you last then both of them are going to throw you away so you are going to be the 1 hurt, so you better stop an leave them gals alone casuse i dont think their stupid they may just look like that, plus you can get another man but if their true friend they are not going to let you break them up, its to much past between them so you need to leave it alone be4 you get hurt!!!!!!DESI

BlueskyJ's photo
Thu 01/03/08 07:33 AM
If a girl broke up with me & started to go out with one of my friends, I wouldn't bring girls around that friend anymore cause they wouldn't be my friend.....so yeah its wrong....end of story!!!

Desi1's photo
Thu 01/03/08 08:06 AM

If a girl broke up with me & started to go out with one of my friends, I wouldn't bring girls around that friend anymore cause they wouldn't be my friend.....so yeah its wrong....end of story!!!
your damn right blue sky!!!!!!

s1owhand's photo
Thu 01/03/08 08:22 AM
Edited by s1owhand on Thu 01/03/08 08:23 AM
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I have had a few girlfriends and a handful of serious ones over the years. All - every one of my relationships ended friendly and we have continued to be friends EXCEPT for one situation like this. OK we dated more seriously and I spent a lot of time at her place before we broke up. She swore it would be OK if I dated her her close friend who expressed interest in me a few weeks post break-up. I thought it was going to be alright. It was so NOT alright. There were second thoughts - the friend decided not to date me because it would totally screw up her friend. Sincerely bad feelings of betrayal on the part of the initial girlfriend. What a MESS that was.

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So, if you are going to try then do your best to be sure that both friends are really in agreement that it is really OK but be prepared that there is a good chance that even if they claim it is fine with them that this opinion may change suddenly and how shall I say this...in a way that may preclude any future contact with either of them. I know of instances where it has worked. One of my best friends wound up marrying his girlfriend's sister! But...it is an accident waiting to happen.

Good luck with that! Oh boy.

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no photo
Thu 01/03/08 11:31 AM
No way. And besides, most of the time when people say they're okay with something, they usually aren't.

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Thu 01/03/08 02:18 PM

I have to friends who ive known for about 6 months now. One I dated very briefly and found out we werent exactly compatable. I am starting to hang out with the other a lot now and I am really starting to like her. She says the same thing about me, but the 2 girls have been best friends since they were kids. Should I go for it?


No way. Just forget about that one.

N8Short's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:31 PM

well yeah she says its cool but you can tell by the look in her eyes its not. But i really like the other girl...

Lots of girls out there man... It will probably end anyways... I wouldn't risk their friendship... That's a high school drama production you might not find the role worth the billing...

Deana64's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:33 PM
its not like you were in a longterm relationship with the one friend you don't share kids you barely have a history together

I don't see a problem unless they make it a problem


but good luck anyway

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Thu 01/03/08 02:45 PM
i personally would not be comfortable with my friend dating my ex .i think its disrespectful.

Deana64's photo
Sun 01/06/08 10:34 AM
I don't know but two months of dating does not an Ex make

but its just my opinion

its not even long enough to totally know that person in a two month span
and they only went out a couple of times I don't see any disrespect in it at all.


unsure's photo
Sun 01/06/08 10:42 AM
I don't think you should!! My friends and I have this arrangement going...if one of us go out with a guy, he is totally off limits to all of the other girls!! Why would you put the other girl through any kind of pain? True it didn't work out between you guys...BUT she sure in the heck don't want to see her best friend going out with you!! Trust me, this is not a good thing. Your best bet is to find someone that is not her friend.
Out of all the single females out there..why her? I can't believe her friend would do that to her actually. Maybe my friends and I have an arrangement that other women just don't make, but I do think its a good one. If one of us dated a guy...no-one else in our bunch will even touch him no matter how cute and sexy he is. I think there is a line you just don't cross and I think that is a big line right there!!

corporatemike_85's photo
Sun 01/06/08 07:59 PM
yeh i appreciate all of u guys input, but i mean what if i am really into her friend? would i wanna risk out on something great just because i was too scared to lose a friend? oh and i would like to point out that floridakendra your cute lol. but seriously idk... either way i guess i got a lot of thinkin to do.

Peachiepoohie's photo
Sun 01/06/08 08:00 PM
NO...ABSOLUTELY NOT...NOT COOL

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Mon 01/07/08 10:06 PM

yeh i appreciate all of u guys input, but i mean what if i am really into her friend? would i wanna risk out on something great just because i was too scared to lose a friend? oh and i would like to point out that floridakendra your cute lol. but seriously idk... either way i guess i got a lot of thinkin to do.


But what if it didn't work out? Then you've lost the girl, her friend, and they've lost each other. Too risky...

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Mon 01/07/08 10:14 PM

I have to friends who ive known for about 6 months now. One I dated very briefly and found out we werent exactly compatable. I am starting to hang out with the other a lot now and I am really starting to like her. She says the same thing about me, but the 2 girls have been best friends since they were kids. Should I go for it?

Nope, I just don't think it is a good idea. I wouldn't personally do it.

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