Do you still there’s still hope for you to be in a good relationship when you’ve experienced so many bad ones?

To me, the 'bad' relationships teach me how to choose a 'good' relationship.

A person who learns from their mistakes grows wiser from their experiences so they do not make the same mistakes over and over.

Making the same poor choices again and again is the definition of stupidity.

It is also important to realize each relationship is unique and has its own set of challenges specific to the conditions of each personality.

Wisdom can help you 'read' their personality to a certain degree but since everyone is unique, you must be flexible.

My current relationship is stronger than my previous ones but there are still aspects which are unpredictable. How I react to the 'unpredictable' now is different than before.
My gained wisdom allows me to experience a stronger relationship.
I've learned to pay attention to the actions and read the situation and make better choices dealing with the tribulations of personality conflicts.
It results in a greater shared trust which facilitates honesty and alignment.

It take time to get a proper bonding an getting into a relationship, many times after a time things maybe not as desire or aspect's.. so then comes the fall down..
But basically it's between Us, how we are.. so yes, their are relationship even thou if both are imbalance but still working out perfectly.

It's within our own hands..

Every relationship I’ve had, i learned from previous, then i trust again, then gets cheated on the next time. I’m beginning to think there’s something wrong with me but I guess we wont really meet the right one if it’s perfect from the start. Bad relationship makes you stronger and makes you realize your worth.

Make wiser choices by examining all the facts and try not to ignore the reality before you. Choose to commit only after you have examined the whole. You must see what 'is' there and not what you 'believe' or 'expect' to be there.

It takes two, to have a bad relationship.
The decision is yours, as to how you allow
yourself to be treated.

It’s not as bad as it seems until you realized everything you thought was real were lies

Stop hoping. You'd feel a lot less disappointed if a relationship ends up bad.

Of course.
That is what hope is.
Belief in the improbable.

Illusion
-a thing that is or is likely to be wrongly perceived or interpreted by the senses.
-a deceptive appearance or impression.
-a false idea or belief.

Delusion
-a false belief or judgment about external reality, held despite incontrovertible evidence to the contrary.
-the action of deluding or the state of being deluded.

Reality
-the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.
-the state or quality of having existence or substance.

We are all taught false promises during our lives.
Most of it is innocent, often perpetuated as a fact because one takes 'faith' it is accurate without checking its validity.

Many people have multiple 'faces' without realizing it. Some are deceptive on purpose, to manipulate someone or gain a desire.

People are built on their own impression of reality according to how they associate the reality they experience with the expectations they desire. Some people get so caught up in their own impression of reality they lose the ability to see the reality as it actually is.

One must step back from expectation and look at the world as if it is the first time. Only then is it possible to 'see' the actual reality of anything.

Illusion is a lie.
Delusion is the lie we tell ourselves and
Reality is what is actually there.

Reality doesn't care. It is reality whether everybody sees it or nobody sees it. "Acceptable" and "Unacceptable" have no bearing on reality.

To find the one person you desire, you must first remove your expectations that are based on your own delusions. Dismissing, making excuses for and forgiving bad behavior during the dating process gives bad results.
You must 'see' the person as they actually are, naturally. This is complicated by that person's ability to be deceptive to gain their own desires.
It can be difficult to separate the 'acting' personality from the 'actual' personality. Especially when some people are so practiced at their persona they stop realizing its an 'act'.

Dating is a way of testing each other.
Not only a test of compatibility...its more that that.
Its a test period to see if that person is 'actually' they person you think they are.

If you try to base your relationship decision on a series of official, formal dates you will not know that person much at all.
You have to experience each other informally, unscripted and spontaneously and pay attention to the details of how they respond to the unexpected, expected and moral obscurities.

The most important step when dating is not who you date but who you actually desire.

Are you attracted to that person because you are actually attracted to that person as they are or as see them?
Are you basing your desire on what you 'want' or what you 'need' in your life? So you even know what you need?

A lot of people are deluded about love.
Try to realize an illusion and a delusion is a lie.
We are told/taught 'this' is what love is. 'This' is what to look for. 'This' means they love you.
All that instruction is nothing more than their impression of love, to them or worse, someone else's impression of love they accepted.
The only love you really need to focus on is your love. Remove your delusion of love and stop falling for the illusion of love you see in others.

Love is not confusing or elusive. Its an internal feeling based on your own emotional states. Look not for those who meet someone else's criteria for love and only seek those who meet YOUR criteria for love.

If you find the right one, they won't want to cheat on you. You also won't want to cheat on them.
Its insanity to hurt the ones you love.

I did hope. It’s never a good choice especially if you already saw all the red flags yet you still continue hoping

Wise choice of words. I feel enlightened whenever i see your comment. I learned so much.

My gf and I listen to playlists in WinAmp on the weekends. Usually easy listening or gentle blues.

I have some song for you to listen to when deciding if that date is the right one for you.

Ask yourself if they are capeabler of singing these while holding you and gazing into your eyes?
If they might, you might want to see if you can return the feeling.

The first song is one by the pianist for Supertramp, Roger Hodgson.

The album is Eye of The Storm and you should be able to find it at amazon or any place which sells music.



Only Because Of You
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IE5SwypNrDM
Search for the free mp3

Another is Meatloaf from the Bat Out Of Hell Album



For Cryin Out Loud
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KyHDNQkBSA

and finally...
From Nazareth's Greatest Hits Album



Sunshine
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0IlSoM-lDo

When you find someone who can feel these things only for you, your quest will be over.

"The choices you make, and the consequences that follow, show who you really are."

Samurai Jack

Hope, people who provide strength to live! The hope of the mind colors the moments of life, hope is the only hope to color the rainbow in seven colors in the heart. People without hope are like dead people.... So hope you make a hope world in your mind and decorated with the hope world in your colourful hope... Don’t think your every hope make true..But don’t make you Hope less...Your hope make your perfect with your time..

I am still here , ain't I ..... therefore hope always exists.....and I am a believer !!!!!

Listening

I’ll start listening to it…