I seldom tell myself I am sexy River . Even as a young woman I never really doubted it . Would rather spend my time surfing than looking in a mirror lol .

If you had to compare mike’s dreamy voice with a celebrity , who would it be would be great if we had voice activation in the forums !!!

Don't forget, Blondey cam is on!

only so I can see if my fur baby is behaving while I am on duty . He is quite entertaining !!!

That would be interesting, lol

There's nothing wrong with telling yourself your sexy. Doing so doesn't necessarily mean that you doubt it so it's necessary to stand in front of a mirror chanting mantas. Although, it can help for those who don't believe it.

No doubt it's more like, dang I don't look so bad today.......other mornings it's like...who hit me with the ugly stick, I need to go back to bed. :)

absolutely nothing wrong with affirmations .. just not something I do . Our minds and how we analyse /interpret social interactions is very much a unique experience . Affirmations can certainly be beneficial .

you are beautiful. It is funny . When I think back to my first sexual encounters I did the wake up before him to brush my teeth , smooth down my hair and put lip balm on lol . It is only with time I realised that it was more to do with societal ideals than male expectations . It was a learning curve . On days I don’t feel like looking in the mirror I rely on my favourite oversized beanie . Great for bad hair days .

I've been giving this more thought, Blondey, especially your question.. "What would account for such a warped self perception of sex appeal ??"

Firstly, who defines what a warped self perception is and what that looks like? Perhaps this very aspect is why some, both men and women, have such difficulty embracing their inner beauty and sexuality, their greatest, which in turn exuberates their sex appeal. When we are operating on a higher vibration and embracing all that we are, our divine light and love, the energy we put off is very attractive and can often feel very sexual, thus, increasing our sex appeal.

I feel it goes beyond poor self image, although self image does play a part in it as well. It's more about breaking through the status quo of what is considered an acceptable range of how we express ourselves.

According to society and the so called experts, if you aren't in the perimeters of what is considered normal, you are either seen as someone who has low self esteem/poor self image, or someone who is conceited, desperate, or possibly narcissitic. So they hold back. On a professional spectrum, they call it depression or manic type behaviors and want to prescribe medications to put you back into the normal range of what is considered okay.

There's also the point of sexual harassment, which is huge in the United States. Another reason to hold back the essence of our inner core, for both men and women.

We are so much more than sexual beings, however, we are sexual beings. I believe the extent that we are able to embrace that, along with all that we are, determines the extent of our sex appeal. Which, by the way, we all have. Every human being created was created with sex appeal... Now, to anyone who's not already doing it, go embrace it!

You, Blondey, I see as a person who is unscathed by the expectations of the status quo and what is deemed as acceptable. You appear to embrace all that you are, and in doing so present an air of self confidence that is very attractive and gives you sex appeal that is off the charts, lol. I admire that.

Great topic, lots of food for thought!

I have Given Up on the Women on this Dating Site.

Now I just Clown Around on the Forum Community Area.
I Like Humor and to make Jokes and to just Chat.

I took your advice River, no plans to do that again any time soon. lol

So, Dodo, do you tell yourself that you are sexy , I only ask because I'm sure Blondey wants to know.

LMAO 🤣

Nice to hear gnome is behaving!


I know, my bad..... LMAO

My sex appeal is inversely proportional to the extra pounds I'm gaining around my belly and directly proportional to the hair I'm losing on my head so.....
My Sex appeal

I'm very sexy, in a tree stump kinda way.

Bonnie, on the other hand, has eyes that melt. Her voice is the sweetest sound to wake up to.

I've never been too concerned with how
sexy I may, or may not be.

1) Is malarky. Women also overestimate their sex appeal. Is precisely why woman can go to the club with no money, and expect drinks to be bought for them in their youth. As women get older, women's standards for men go up, while their looks fade - which I find ironic.

2) A warped self perception would be plain old narcissism. I can say from a male perspective, this is not a disadvantage, as women appreciate confident men....it's the fine line that a guy must flirt with

3) There are no daily affirmations for this guy. No need to tell myself something the world already knows

.......Oh Lord it's hard to be humble........

My sex appeal is directly connected to the bulge of my...













Wallet.












That's why I put my wallet in my front pocket

fake all

Considering someone sexually attractive (sex appeal) is very subjective but based on what I see in the world around me it comes more naturally to women than men.
I think it's the same online. On here I see very few men exuding an aura of feeling good about themselves, being confident & gentle, etc. etc.
In real life when you go out to a pub, you see men change and become seemingly more confident, depending on the amount of booze they've consumed. But then their behaviour leans towards harassment, and isn't attractive nor sexually appealing.

As for myself, I have no problem whatsoever with sex appeal, feeling & being sexy. But it's something that you can partly switch on and off. Sex appeal is oozing sexual energy and there's a time and place for that.
I have nonetheless been in situation where I didn't necessarily want the attention but still got it because I was exuding confidence. Funny thing how that works in people, when you don't want it or aren't looking for it you get it in droves.

But men with sex-appeal... a rather rare commodity. I saw one the other day. He wasn't looking for attention, but bloody hell! I couldn't take my eyes off of him. He was confident, casually but very well dressed, and holy cow was he attractive! Sure as heck hit my 10 on the Sex-Appeal-Meter!

THinking about it, you see it more in the somewhat younger blokes. The ones in their mid-20s to mid-30s.