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Well, maybe it is a German thing, that every applicant gets an answer. Or maybe I am a bit old fashioned. But for me, the curtesy of answering shows, that the recruitment officer has some manners.
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Just some food for thought, hope it wasn't posted already. There might be exceptions, but for me "no answer" can be very rude. Especially, if you apply for a new job or a wee promotion. Could people not have some manners and just send a few lines back? Otherwise, you are caught in a circle of unfulfilled hopes. Just my humble opinion. Emails cost nothing, and I agree all job applicants should be notified of the outcome of their application, since most applications are submitted by email these days it says a lot about the company when they fail to reply. |
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From the job perspective:
When I was manager of my shop responsible for hiring and firing I had a stack of resumes and applications on file. When I had to fill a position I reviewed the entire stack and called only the top 3 candidates. Frankly, I just didn't have time to explore every applicant or respond to each person. I also had other responsibilities. Within the stack, there were high qualified and not qualified. There were obvious bad applicants and poorly filled out applications. Of the ones who actually appeared for the in-person interviews some were potential hires and some were waste of time. This screening process optimized my time and gave me the best results. This translates to dating as well. Some people are just not worth dedicating time and effort. Ya gotta be realistic or you waste a lot of time and effort on someone not worthy. They either 'fit' you or they don't. |
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Up until recently I was one of those who didn’t reply to messages (here) but have responded to some lately. I think if people take the time to message you and I mean write something of substance and not just ‘hi’, it’s only courteous to write back and thank them even if it’s just to say no thank you. I have now changed my mind and it’s because the guys in question don’t take rejection well (no matter how politely I respond). They think they can make me change my mind about them when all it does is verify that I made the right choice in rejecting them. More often than not they are disrespectful of my preferences and culminates them getting blocked. Very few thank me for my response and wish me well. I’m not here to justify myself or argue with guys so I’ve once again decided to no longer reply to any messages I receive. Sometimes, it seems, being polite is not worth the hassle. Exactly the same for me. I get more hostility and even hate after politely responding. Sometimes even not answering gets hate, but less often it appears. |
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Sat 09/25/21 04:33 PM
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A reply to a job application might have been possible in the past but these days they easily get 100 or more applications. Undoable to reply to them all, certainly if it was to be in a personal manner.
In most cases the letters didn't even get read, just the resume, as it's too time consuming. Oftentimes there is no other reason than there being so damned many applicants and they just had to choose. The only silly thing is to take it personally as that says you don't understand what's involved. As for a dating site... I never reply except when it's truly a good message and someone really read my profile. But if they did, they wouldn't message me to begin with... Why I don't reply anymore... I used to, wanting to be polite. But most men don't seem to understand "not interested". When you tell them that, they think, "YES! I FINALLY GOT ONE HOOKED!!!", ignore what you said and start yapping as if you told them, "I like you!" It's annoying as hell, time consuming. So I just delete and don't reply anymore. . . . |
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If you’re interviewed for a position, you should get a reply. To not reply
would be rude. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s necessary. |
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Edited by
mikaxel80
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Sun 09/26/21 12:15 AM
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Up until recently I was one of those who didn’t reply to messages (here) but have responded to some lately. I think if people take the time to message you and I mean write something of substance and not just ‘hi’, it’s only courteous to write back and thank them even if it’s just to say no thank you. I have now changed my mind and it’s because the guys in question don’t take rejection well (no matter how politely I respond). They think they can make me change my mind about them when all it does is verify that I made the right choice in rejecting them. More often than not they are disrespectful of my preferences and culminates them getting blocked. Very few thank me for my response and wish me well. I’m not here to justify myself or argue with guys so I’ve once again decided to no longer reply to any messages I receive. Sometimes, it seems, being polite is not worth the hassle. Replying to job applicants is a different story. When people sent me their CVs on spec I always took the time to respond. Even if there were no current positions available I always replied. That’s just good manners or maybe I’m just old school 
Madam (or is it Mademoiselle), I completely agreed with you when you wrote that it is courteous to respond. For example, if I am faced with that kind of situation i think its common courtesy to reply back to some emails, meaning i reply to them according to their positivity on their initial mail. ....You said old school, Madam? I say it being polite. |
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Just some food for thought, hope it wasn't posted already.
There might be exceptions, but for me "no answer" can be very rude. Especially, if you apply for a new job or a wee promotion. Could people not have some manners and just send a few lines back? Otherwise, you are caught in a circle of unfulfilled hopes. Just my humble opinion. I Take it as just how much your opinion and thoughts mean to them closed up and cut off shows there feelings toward what they really think of yr thoughts and opinions |
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