Well , sometimes things do happen by accident,so instead of keeping such to yourself when it be happens let your partner know

enjoy yourself you only live once good luck in whatever you do

This was a hypothetical question

Not all my Topics are related to Me personally.


It's a suggested idea !

I've never intentionally had an "Affair" but when I was at my 1st duty station I found out a woman I was sleeping with was married.
I dropped her as soon as I found out (from a friend) but I didn't tell her husband (so not to hurt him).

This is just an example of when a person doesn't really know
That the person they are involved with is already in a
Committed relationship!

Yes

definitely if two people are ready for thst understanding and relationship the definitely they can have affair and enjoy life together

everybody sayd no, therefore adultery does not exist

never

We are mostly singles and mostly in a certain age group, and only a handful of different people answering. So we're not representative for the whole of the population.

These are the numbers, I was curious :)
...national surveys indicate that 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married men have had extramarital affairs. The incidence is about 20 percent higher when emotional and sexual relationships without intercourse are included.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/22/well/marriage-cheating-infidelity.html

and of course people lie also on anonymous surveys (I work on them, and I know for sure), especially women who don't admit it even to themselves... that's why the percentage is lower (or who did the men cheat with?)

I'm sure if we could really go deep in details many of the 'no's expressed would become 'yes, but...'
I don't judge, there are so many reasons why people could cheat, including a more relaxed view towards monogamy and sex in general. Only the persons involved really know what happened, why was maybe dissatisfied with his love life but preferred not to end a relationship.
I've known people who had affairs lasting longer than their marriages, that was their real love, but still could not or for their own reasons preferred to continue that way. In some cases with everybody knowing, spouse, children, relatives... In one case after 40 years of 'affair' one asked the other to get married and the other replied no thanks and finally they broke (I find it funny)
From statistics in some countries (including yours, wherever you live) the average is about between 30 and 70 sex partners in a lifetime...
don't tell me they are all before getting married, I won't believe it...

The number is lower because we cheat less.
Who men do it with... single women of course, deeuh...
Happens a lot that a woman gets hooked on a guy and he's married. Not willing to leave the missus, more than willing to continue with the affair, stringing the woman along.

Sad to see you so bitter and angry.

Have you ever thought of the time in between relationships? Because I think that's when people tend to play the field most.

I don't believe the average you come up with btw.
Are you sure that research wasn't among members of a swingers club? Or sex workers?

And how can you say it includes my country when you don't even know where I live? I guess this topic hit a nerve...

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I can vouch for that!

I met 2 guys who didn’t tell me they were married. The first guy told me his name was J and after he Skyped me the account said his name was S. I queried this with him and that’s when he admitted he was married and used the name J as he didn’t want to leave his wife!! The second guy told me after the 3rd date. Both guys led me to believe they were single.

My dear, the numbers are lower not only for cheating, they are on all statistics regarding sex! Women have less partners then men as average, even counting only heterosexual encounters... probably men have a strong tendency to lie one way (saying 20 lovers makes a man more successfull than 10) and women the other way (10 partners you are a better girl than 20)

Anyway, I am sorry for Toodie, but I think the post, although interesting, does not make much sense, and I'll tell you why...
We all are perfectly honest when we say we would not do it. It's really what we think! We are serious when in front of the reverend and hundreds of friends and relatives say "I promise... " and all that blahblah... we are so happy! Nobody thinks well just for few years and then we divorce... but that is a dream, it's not real life!
most of the people who cheat are the same who said they would never do it, just in a different situation.

If a man is having an affair and is married,
He needs to stop the affair! Actually you never should
have Started it!

Get a divorce, you commented adultery.

Marriage is not for everyone! Stay single!

Imo

I totally agree!
Unfortunately I've -and still- come across a shocking amount of non-single men on dating sites, looking for a lover/sex/date/affair.

The numbers are so high that as a woman you'd start considering switching sides. How can you trust a man anymore? I doubt any of the wives have the slightest inkling of their hubbies activities...

To be the Devil's Advocate...

I *may* have carried on an affair during
a previous relationship.