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Happy Geezer hit it in the head. You can have crushes on someone, but this is the rub...too far away!!!
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That's obvious.. doofus. 
Shhh, he just wants to be friends... 
Hence.. doofus. 
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Hence.. doofus.  doofus. |
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That's obvious.. doofus.
Shhh, he just wants to be friends...
Hence.. doofus.
You are the best Stu. River and you should find love... Just sayin'. You are both beautiful Minglers 
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That's obvious.. doofus.
Shhh, he just wants to be friends...
Hence.. doofus.
You are the best Stu. River and you should find love... Just sayin'. You are both beautiful Minglers
Just to find each other is a blessing. I couldn't ask for a better friend regardless of social status |
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That's obvious.. doofus.
Shhh, he just wants to be friends...
As if... You'd want me around for anything beyond friendship? Pffffft... Didya hit your head?
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That's obvious.. doofus.
Shhh, he just wants to be friends...
As if... You'd want me around for anything beyond friendship? Pffffft... Didya hit your head?
Gotta give it a chance first.. duuuudefus.. |
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Edited by
Rock
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Sun 02/21/21 03:11 AM
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The elypses are mine. I own them...
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Internet use can indeed be a problem. But one would assume with the right person they'd have decent, normal internet use as well. My internet use goes down when in a relationship as you then have other things to do. Dating sites are certainly off limits, and I wouldn't be keen on porn either. Talking to a lot of women, or women at all actually, also a deal-breaker. Porn is one of the biggest issues. I have a wonderful porn-free life now, unfortunately a man comes with porn, no pun intended. And to be honest, it's unacceptable to me. I hear you. It must be hard for men when they are very visual and porn is just a click away when they are lonely or frustrated. The internet is a fantastic tool, for good or bad. Well, I'd assume when a man is in relationship he's happy, not frustrated and lonely. In a way one could ask men what's more important: A great relationship with a wonderful, attractive woman and a healthy sex life with her OR their porn. I suspect the amount that'd choose porn will be quite high. Which leaves the question: why look for a relationship? |
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Internet use can indeed be a problem. But one would assume with the right person they'd have decent, normal internet use as well. My internet use goes down when in a relationship as you then have other things to do. Dating sites are certainly off limits, and I wouldn't be keen on porn either. Talking to a lot of women, or women at all actually, also a deal-breaker. Porn is one of the biggest issues. I have a wonderful porn-free life now, unfortunately a man comes with porn, no pun intended. And to be honest, it's unacceptable to me. I hear you. It must be hard for men when they are very visual and porn is just a click away when they are lonely or frustrated. The internet is a fantastic tool, for good or bad. Well, I'd assume when a man is in relationship he's happy, not frustrated and lonely. In a way one could ask men what's more important: A great relationship with a wonderful, attractive woman and a healthy sex life with her OR their porn. I suspect the amount that'd choose porn will be quite high. Which leaves the question: why look for a relationship? He probably wants both? If he can get away with it... |
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^^^ who would need porn with you by their side? 
 I totally adore you, Stu!  
My thoughts exactly! 
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^^^ who would need porn with you by their side?
I totally adore you, Stu!
My thoughts exactly!
Naww stop you two. Making my heart overflow.. 
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Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship. Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use? Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing? What is healthy? I have seen many arguments on Facebook about this, but I would like to know what the Mingle jury thinks? 
If you're living together, married, or in a committed relationship, trust and respect for each others boundaries is already, or ought to be, established. So internet use wouldn't be a problem. Personally, it would only become a problem for me if he suddenly changed his behavior and started openly/publicly flirting with other women, or watching porn, things he didn't do when we first formed a relationship. How would you know he is doing these things River? I'm an Empath! If he started doing something secretly, I would sense the shift in his energy. I would let him know I'm sensing something has shifted and ask him if there's something going on with him, if he's okay. I would believe what he tells me, and have faith that if he doesn't want to talk about it at that time, he will when he's ready. |
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Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship. Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use? Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing? What is healthy? I have seen many arguments on Facebook about this, but I would like to know what the Mingle jury thinks?
If you're living together, married, or in a committed relationship, trust and respect for each others boundaries is already, or ought to be, established. So internet use wouldn't be a problem. Personally, it would only become a problem for me if he suddenly changed his behavior and started openly/publicly flirting with other women, or watching porn, things he didn't do when we first formed a relationship. How would you know he is doing these things River? I'm an Empath! If he started doing something secretly, I would sense the shift in his energy. I would let him know I'm sensing something has shifted and ask him if there's something going on with him, if he's okay. I would believe what he tells me, and have faith that if he doesn't want to talk about it at that time, he will when he's ready. Same, I am an empath too. But we can be manipulated and attract narcissists unfortunately. Ever heard of gaslighting? Not everyone is as honest as we are. Hell, I am so loyal. My ex was messaging other women despite us creating boundaries that we would not do so. I kept the faith, he did not. Trust needs to be proven. Have each other's passwords... |
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Edited by
Unknow
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Sun 02/21/21 05:48 AM
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Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship. Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use? Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing? What is healthy? I have seen many arguments on Facebook about this, but I would like to know what the Mingle jury thinks?
If you're living together, married, or in a committed relationship, trust and respect for each others boundaries is already, or ought to be, established. So internet use wouldn't be a problem. Personally, it would only become a problem for me if he suddenly changed his behavior and started openly/publicly flirting with other women, or watching porn, things he didn't do when we first formed a relationship. How would you know he is doing these things River? I'm an Empath! If he started doing something secretly, I would sense the shift in his energy. I would let him know I'm sensing something has shifted and ask him if there's something going on with him, if he's okay. I would believe what he tells me, and have faith that if he doesn't want to talk about it at that time, he will when he's ready. Same, I am an empath too. But we can be manipulated and attract narcissists unfortunately. Ever heard of gaslighting? Not everyone is as honest as we are. Hell, I am so loyal. My ex was messaging other women despite us creating boundaries that we would not do so. I kept the faith, he did not. Trust needs to be proven. Have each other's passwords... I'm sorry that happened to you Ladywind 
I guess I'm not worried about it, nor do I think about it or consider things when I enter into a relationship. I try to live in the here and now, and not focus on what if's or set things up so I can know if or when he's not being honest with me. If I have to have tangible proof that I can trust him, then I don't truly trust him in my heart. I give my trust freely, it's only if he betrays or abuses my trust that I need him to earn it back... which doesn't happen easily, and sometime not at all depending on the betrayal. |
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Edited by
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Sun 02/21/21 05:48 AM
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People are going to do what they're going to do. It doesn't matter if you have their passwords or get shared facebook accounts. It won't stop them if that's what they're set on.
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People are going to do what they're going to do. It doesn't matter if you have their passwords or get shared facebook accounts. It won't stop them of that's what they're set on. And that is a fact
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People are going to do what they're going to do. It doesn't matter if you have their passwords or get shared facebook accounts. It won't stop them if that's what they're set on. This |
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Hi
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Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship. Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use? Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing? What is healthy? If I can't trust her, there is no relationship. If she can't trust me, there is no relationship. I'm with her because I choose to be with her. She's with me because she chooses to be with me. In marriage its a lil different. In marriage there is an obligation to follow the vows of marriage. The dedication, commitment and respect for each other as proclaimed by decree. Other relationships do not have that proclaimation of solidarity between the pair. The knot has not been tied. It is a personal choice. The dedication, commitment and respect is each's personal decision which is always open for change. I don't 'own' her. She doesn't 'own' me. Each of us has the freedom to end the relationship at any time. |
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