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Any relationship started with trust issues will struggle ., setting boundaries happens on many levels so it is reasonable if a couple chooses to do that with the internet .
Personally ... I would not keep him or myself tethered ., unless he had an interest in that  I would hope he feels comfortable and secure enough that if he wants to watch porn or be on a dating site that there would be some form of mutual sharing . Secrets can be destructive ., open communication is more important .
Setting internet boundaries at home may give some people a false sense of trust .,.. What happens outside of the home environment 24/7 may not be as enforceable . I believe it is healthier to trust each other . |
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Any relationship started with trust issues will struggle ., setting boundaries happens on many levels so it is reasonable if a couple chooses to do that with the internet . Personally ... I would not keep him or myself tethered ., unless he had an interest in that I would hope he feels comfortable and secure enough that if he wants to watch porn or be on a dating site that there would be some form of mutual sharing . Secrets can be destructive ., open communication is more important .
Setting internet boundaries at home may give some people a false sense of trust .,.. What happens outside of the home environment 24/7 may not be as enforceable . I believe it is healthier to trust each other . So would you support them making the videos to post online for others to watch??? 
OT: If you can't trust them to be on the internet then you really don't have a relationship. If they want to be online and on dating sites or looking for hookups or whatever, why do you want to have a relationship with them anyway? |
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Any relationship started with trust issues will struggle ., setting boundaries happens on many levels so it is reasonable if a couple chooses to do that with the internet . Personally ... I would not keep him or myself tethered ., unless he had an interest in that I would hope he feels comfortable and secure enough that if he wants to watch porn or be on a dating site that there would be some form of mutual sharing . Secrets can be destructive ., open communication is more important .
Setting internet boundaries at home may give some people a false sense of trust .,.. What happens outside of the home environment 24/7 may not be as enforceable . I believe it is healthier to trust each other . So would you support them making the videos to post online for others to watch???
OT: If you can't trust them to be on the internet then you really don't have a relationship. If they want to be online and on dating sites or looking for hookups or whatever, why do you want to have a relationship with them anyway?  lol
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You cannot blindly trust the other person to do the right thing because that could end in disaster. The most healthy thing to do is try to solve it with communication. Talk about it. Without knowing how the other person feels about it there never will be a solution only speculation. I agree. I think it is imperative to talk about it. |
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I prefer to keep it 'friends only', with the door open to possibilities, until AFTER the first in person meet. AFTER or WHEN you are in a relationship Rock... . If in a relationship, the possibilities should be flourishing. Possibilities? Do you see a relationship, by itself, to be the 'be all/end all? Or, can a relationship have the possibility to grow, in a healthy, happy manner? Like a flower, if properly nourished and tended to, a relationship should blossom. With neglect, even an orchid will wither. However, I'll stick to my guns, that internet is 'friends only' territory. Absolutely in no way do I think the relationship is the be all/end all. Having friends contributes to our well-being and gives us people to vent to and run things by, among other things like just enjoying different company. |
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Any relationship started with trust issues will struggle ., setting boundaries happens on many levels so it is reasonable if a couple chooses to do that with the internet . Personally ... I would not keep him or myself tethered ., unless he had an interest in that I would hope he feels comfortable and secure enough that if he wants to watch porn or be on a dating site that there would be some form of mutual sharing . Secrets can be destructive ., open communication is more important .
Setting internet boundaries at home may give some people a false sense of trust .,.. What happens outside of the home environment 24/7 may not be as enforceable . I believe it is healthier to trust each other . So trust and share? |
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Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship. Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use? Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing? What is healthy? I have seen many arguments on Facebook about this, but I would like to know what the Mingle jury thinks? 
If you're living together, married, or in a committed relationship, trust and respect for each others boundaries is already, or ought to be, established. So internet use wouldn't be a problem. Personally, it would only become a problem for me if he suddenly changed his behavior and started openly/publicly flirting with other women, or watching porn, things he didn't do when we first formed a relationship. |
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^^^ who would need porn with you by their side?
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Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship. Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use? Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing? What is healthy? I have seen many arguments on Facebook about this, but I would like to know what the Mingle jury thinks?
If you're living together, married, or in a committed relationship, trust and respect for each others boundaries is already, or ought to be, established. So internet use wouldn't be a problem. Personally, it would only become a problem for me if he suddenly changed his behavior and started openly/publicly flirting with other women, or watching porn, things he didn't do when we first formed a relationship. How would you know he is doing these things River? |
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^^^ who would need porn with you by their side?
Exactly. But one women or one man is not enough for some people. |
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^^^ who would need porn with you by their side?
Exactly. But one women or one man is not enough for some people. Reckon it depends on the people.. I've been there, done that, and lost.. |
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^^^ who would need porn with you by their side?
Exactly. But one women or one man is not enough for some people. Reckon it depends on the people.. I've been there, done that, and lost.. Same. Be careful who you trust and give your love to. |
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Edited by
Stu
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Sun 02/21/21 02:07 AM
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That may be a warning more to others towards me than me to them.
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Ohhhh...
Internet use AFTER a relationship has already formed. I absolutely insist on it. If she and I can't, don't, or won't trust each other, or, are unworthy of each other's trust... Well then... It might be time to reassess the situation. |
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Ohhhh... Internet use AFTER a relationship has already formed. I absolutely insist on it. If she and I can't, don't, or won't trust each other, or, are unworthy of each other's trust... Well then... It might be time to reassess the situation. Ffs. I have been trying to get you on board all day you doofus lol. |
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she called you a doofus..
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She likes me.
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That's obvious.. doofus.
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That's obvious.. doofus.
Shhh, he just wants to be friends... 
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