any advice on how to get over being the rebound girl?

That's a good one.
If you are the rebound girl, the rules change.
I would slow him waaaay down.
Until he gets over the last one.

It hurts being the rebound I know... it will take a little time but you gotta realise that you aren't anyone's second best. you are something unique, something special and somebody's everything.

look to yourself and see you are so much more, that you deserve someone better if you choose, because you are so much better than you've been led to believe.

learn the difference between need and want. you dont need second best because you aren't second best. you want the best because you deserve that.

if you need something then you can live without it... you want something, then you fight for it.

go fight girl, you are worth that and more.

I was stupid & he wants to wait for the last one to leave her husband. I just can't seem to get over this guy

wow! you are incredibly positive!

so should you be, you've more reason to be positive than not. you are hooked on this guy... I get it.
Answer your Soul one question, is he showing you the level of love and commitment you show him?

never mind keep him way back... so you have to wait till he realises he cant have what he wants and then comes to you?

like I said you are so much better... deserve so much better.

Dont be the girl who puts her Soul into someone that only gives half heartedly in return. you deserve someone that gives every bit as much as you are giving now.

Dont give yourself away, want and need girl... if someone you love wants you... they fight for you, not someone else.

have a chat to the other woman ... that may give you the reality check you need

You attract that when you don't feel worthy so if you want to stop it you have to work on self-love and self-esteem.
If you don't love yourself and don't feel you're worthy of love you will get men who will feel the same about you or themselves. Unavailable men and men who won't commit.

"I was stupid & he wants to wait for the last one to leave her husband. I just can't seem to get over this guy "

If he wants to wait for the last one to leave her husband, he's not thinking of you.
If he's not thinking of you, and you already know each other quite well, give up on him now, and don't waste your time.
Waiting and hoping is only good for a little while, then it is just wasted time.
If you are not the apple of his eye, and someone else is, give up.

I did waste most my life waiting and hoping for the girl I'm in love with, and now I'm here; don't waste your life.
It's hard to move on, but do it, and find a better man.

I know she isn't going to leave her husband. I wish I would've seen this coming but lesson learned I guess. All of the responses really do help. Thanks everyone!

A realistic perspective on behavior and expectations.
You aren't "the rebound girl."
He's simply using you.
He's using you because you are choosing to make it convenient for him to do so.


You aren't a victim.
If you can't get over something, get away from it.


That is immaterial. Doesn't matter at all.


I wonder what lesson was actually learned.
I always wonder what lessons could have been learned but were missed entirely.

Never settle for being an option.

Stop it!

Get over him! Meet someone else. Love yourself. Do you really want a low-life like this man? Let him use someone else.