I mean after 21 years ..of loyal loving marriage ..I got down for just 3 months and boom...she drops a divorce on me...

how do you toss 21 years of marriage and 24 of a relationship down the drain?

I know a woman with a good heart.

She keeps it in a jar, in her pantry.

You don't, which leads to the next question: why did you fail to see your partner wasn't happy anymore?
These things do NOT happen overnight, it's a buildup of unhappiness and dissatisfaction over a longer period of time, often as long as 5-7 years.
So again, why did you fail to see this and pick up on the signs?

This. ^^^

Well said SparklingCrystal.

It very well could be what Crystal said....

It could also be thee drastic change of lifestyle when someone trips and falls. some people thrive on "UP".... and can't handle the "down" times.

Like Crystal said...I doubt this was "sudden"..
She was probably unhappy for a while...maybe even gave signs, or tried to talk to you about that...you didn't want to...maybe claimed you didn't want to "argue" or whatever guys claim when a woman is unhappy and dares to express that...


What do you mean specifically by "got down"?
Health issue?
No job?

Had this happened before, and maybe she saw a pattern and was tired of it?

I dunno, man...I wasn't there...just basing that on my own experiences.

Obviously somebody was not satisfied in the marriage! It takes 2 to fix it but only 1 to end it. You need to look at the why if you are going to get into another relationship in the future. Maybe now your ex will share with you her feelings of what was missing.

OP has decided he didn't want to hear from us anymore!

I was gonna tell him, that if he kept communication foremost, this might have been prevented.... but judging from his "running off" even from just us, He's not got any salt to face the music.... let alone "The Blues".