By a certain point in life,
many of us have put up defenses.
Effectively, "building a wall" around ourselves,
to guard our hearts and emotions.

Eventually, the walls become fortresses.
I'm pretty sure, most of us don't want to keep
everyone out forever. We just want to be sure,
that we're letting the right person in..

(i'll get to a point, eventually.... Or not : )


Now, somewhere along the way, some develop
questions, quizzes, traps, mazes, or the like,
to guard our fortress..

I'm guilty of this.
My last little trap, when a woman gets
close to the gate of my heart, is,
I always offer up an out for her.
Door to enter my heart? Or the exit?

Rarely, has anyone called my bluff.
So, my fortress stays intact.



*the point i promised earlier*

So...
The topic is,

Your wall. Your fortress.

Wise words from the Gnomester..

I sign this

Must train my cats to maul unwanted intruders

Sage-like

I'll give some thought to that one

Train cats?

A cat fortress sounds good. It reminds of a recent story in the the news where one house cat fended off three coyote, and it was caught on the outdoor house cam.

I don't know about a wall.... I freak out and run.

I put up a Wall and set traps all around it. If the man gets through all that he's a plus and can continue to get close to me.

I get the reasoning behind people having walls,
but to me, it’s just emotional baggage. Ain’t
nobody got time for that.

Common sense and using your gut instincts
AND listening to them, rarely fail you.

Sadly,these days common sense is no longer very common.

All In All it's Just Another Brick In The Wall.

The Wall, Pink Floyd, 1979

hiii

RockGnome: "My last little trap . . ."

This is my trap:



I used to bait it with a pair of high-heel dress shoes.

The wall will block yourself inside the restricted area. Bc you’re not willing to reach others. That’s what I’m thinking about now.

I don't have a wall around my heart, I have it wrapped in heavy metal

Still I keep throwing up these walls
Most of them I've built with stones..........
Be my valentine
Nils Lofgren
Written by Bruce Springsteen

No walls here. What is the point of walls? Take me as I am, as I take you as you are.
At 50 we all have baggage. But to be healthy, we deal with it honestly. Be vulnerable, broken hearted or wherever you are at. Just be real.
Being friends first and establishing healthy communication, despite the past makes sense to me.
I guess it depends on your personality and how much you can open up.

The responses have been pretty much
what was expected for a topic of this nature.

Though, given all of our posting histories,
Well...

Walls are, in one form or another,
the accumulation of some heavy
baggage. Or, uncertainty.

My wall actually disappeared at an
early age (uncertainty).
F'k hurt. I'm just too inquisitive to
hide behind a barrier.

The out? Yeah, I do that.
But, I do it to literally everyone I
communicate with, on any personal
level. Not so much for me. But, to
give them a way out, if they're not
entirely sure that i'm the one they
need to be yammering with.

I worked to get rid of walls. Like other women said: it keeps you stuck, it is a projection of past pain. So by having walls you are still giving your power away to the past and what happened then.
We automatically presume we're safe behind our walls, but it also means you cannot feel properly anymore. It also block that you see.
You can be much stronger if you have your inner strength well developed, and open up. Then your intuition can work and can tell you what's right and what's wrong.

Exactly! I realized long ago that my walls didn't just keep others out, it kept me in a prison as well. Some of the walls I built were difficult to recognize, but when I do recognize them I usually take a sludge hammer to them, haha.

I've been reflecting on this, wondering if I do still have a protective wall around my heart, especially since men don't appear to be interested. I asked myself, "am I still unapproachable due to some wall I'm unaware of"? I don't think so. I believe I'm just not in such a hurry to enter into a relationship, though I'm open to it if and when it shows up.

Looking back to how I was in my workplace a year ago compared to how I am today, at the same job site... it became apparent to me that the unapproachable wall is no longer there. Last year I was very guarded with my co-workers, as well as the customers... kind of stand offish. I'm not that way anymore. I'm laughing with them, interacting, and having conversations. That to me is a clear sign that I've successfully tore down that wall and today, I am approachable.

Why not? They hate strangers already