GOOD GOING!!!! You still have to jump through all thier hoops but the attorney will help you through all that. Even if you are not zoned out, act like it! It helps. Sorry if you don't want to lie that's fine but I just played dumb after thier stupid 5 min Dr evaluation.......best of luck and keep us updated.

yeah....i'm gonna be putting on the performance of my life.....dad was telling me the same thing Karen on what to do...

good for you.my cousin said she heard voices and got it.

Tell the judge that your imaginary friend thinks he has serious problems

tell him you don't listen to the voices in your head but sometimes they have some good ideas or if it wasn't for flashbacks I'd have no memory at all.

that's actually true........if it weren't for the flasbacks........

I am so upset! I have been taking care of my grandaughter for the past four months. My daughter gets mad this evening and starts to nit pick about little things. I am tired of it.

Her biggest problem is that I am on my pc a lot. I've told her this is my link to the world and it is the only outlet that I choose to have at this time. I am retired now and this is supposed to be my resting phase.

I am thinking about letting her fend for herself. I do most of the cooking and keep the house straight. An eleven month old baby is a lot of work, bathing, feeding, running in behind her. I am the one that gets up at night with the baby, so her mother can be fresh for work! I love this child so much! So the nit picking puts me in a predicament of really wanting to leave.

I am here 24/7 for her and Cecilia, if need be. If I leave she'll have to pay a day care, she is not seeing the big picture. I am reeling with sadness here! I just don't see how she's going to be able to do it. I live in Little Rock and it's a six hour trip. I am so angry, if I move back to Little rock, it won't be easy on either one of us. Once I get started on on a new job, the door will be shut, I'll take Ceci for a day or two, but nothing like this. This is the third time we've had this type of confrontation. I do make mistakes, but eveybody does.

May be I should just allow fate to take it's course. Thanks I needed to get this off my chest. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry you are having to deal with this Cleo. Went through the same with my daughter and grandkids. My daughter lived with me until my granddaughter was about 2 y/o or a little older, only my daughter didn't work, I did and I still got up at night when she cried because my daughter was tired. She spent her weekends out with her friends, literally left on Friday night and got home on Sunday night until Maddy was over a year and a half old or so. We had major issues, but it is a long story. Something to do with daughters and mothers, somehow they just can't say thank you for helping and appreciate it, they have to complain about what you do and find fault instead of seeing the big picture in what you are saving her money-wise in daycare costs, etc. And, your granddaughter is being raised by her grandmother, not strangers at a daycare, too.

I would try to ignore your daughter as much as you can, I guess the question would be how much do you want to be around your granddaughter? If you want to spend the time with her, then I guess, like me, you will likely put up with a lot of it for the sake of being close to her. I would let your daughter cool off and then talk to her about your feelings when she does this to you, I don't know how she is to talk to and how much headway you will make talking to her, but it is worth a try.

Maybe some of it is jealousy that you are home with the baby while she is at work and deep down inside she would really rather be home with her baby. Who knows, it just seems like it is written somewhere in stone that daughters will give their mothers a hard time, no matter what.

I think it is great that you are able to stay with her and babysit your granddaughter, how wonderful to be with her and help raise her, but you are right, it is a lot of work, but so cool to be there for some of the "firsts."

Take care and hope things get better.

Hope everyone is having a good week. I am battling a sinus infection and my head wants to explode - grrrrrr.
Gotta get to bed. Take care and have a good day tomorrow.

Marie thank you for the kind advice, I feel better this morning. My daughter got up last night with the baby. I think she may be rethinking some things. She still placed the baby in my bed(and I readily accepted) until she went back to sleep.

I do know I will move back to my home in a month or two.

cleo Im glad to hear that your daughter got up with the baby. and Sorry that you had to go through that problem. Just glad you had a vent. Hard to keep it all in. I know what you mean about this being our window to the world.......

Marie, please take care of yourself. I do hope you get to feeling better soon. You give great advise and we care about you.!

Thank you Creationsfire!

Hey its been awhile! A think maybe 2 weeks since i last posted here. Maybe its good? I dunno.

ANyway i'm back because my best friend from work went out bowling with other people from work and didn't even think of inviting me. And to top it off, nobody even mentioned it when asked them what they did over the weekend (which I do every Monday morning and they were like "nothing really")

My normal side says "your friend thought you wouldn't come cause you never go out anyway so she didn't ask"

And my black side says "They didn't want you there, and are hiding it from you, you lost all your friends again, way to go mr. popular!"

And its both voices clashing eachother and I can't turn them off or ignore them and it feelsl like my brain is going to explode from all the pressure.

I let my daughter live with me when her first husband kicked her out and i got **** for a thank you and she was a pig.she only calls me when she needs something.The only sad part is i don't get to see my grandkids.I think your daughter was just feeling displaced is all..don't worry about it.

Maybe they felt you didn't have the money and didn't want to make you feel bad.Are you fun on an outing or do you unload all your problems..Nobody wants to hang with a downer no offense.

I'll trade you one period complete with cramps and a seven yr old kook that comes with his own stuff.

i'll take all of that over this tooth in a heartbeat..........sorry your daughter is giving you a hard time Cleo....i was lucky that my mom helped me with my daughter and i did everything i could to help her out, in fact as soon as my boyfriend and i move in together (we talked about it today) we're taking her out of the nursing and away from the worthless piece of s**t she's married to and moving her in with us. i don't know how many of y'all remember me talking about how my stepfather says he's in love with me and all that crap....but it's getting worse and my bf and i both agree that i shouldn't tell her until we find a place for the three of us.

I think I'm fun? I dunno your prolly right about me being a downer. I look back and see why everyone avoids me like the damn plague. i can't belive i've lived this long without realizing it, am i that ****ed up? Everything in this damned world avoids me now, so maybe they notice i'm gone. or maybe they will ****ing cry and say "oh he was great" and lie thru their rotted out teeth while thinking "why are we even here?"

i have people that avoid me like the plague too...........but it's usually when i'm not on my meds because i'm dangerous....

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