what makes for a good conversation between two people?

be it by letter or phone?

Used to be when two people were far apart they would take the time to correspond with one another. I still have some of the letters my grandfather wrote my grandmother when he is in WWII.

What about by phone? what makes a good conversation so that when you hang up
you feel satisfied and content and smile and know you will want to talk with this person again?


what are components that seem to now be missing in this online text messaging world?

Love and humour/laughter,xx

Tough one!
I think if the mind or brain works at a similar tempo, or of a similar intelligence, and has similar values. and no hidden agendas, Conversation flows.
Or it does with me anyhoo. :) I'll talk the hind leg of a donkey:)

Talking face to face is so much nicer.
Talking to someone who does not turn the conversation into sex is a turn on.

Having said that, I generally ignore my phone ringing if I am busy...which is 95% of time.

When I type, I usually come right to the point.
By phone, very difficult to comprehend the mood.
Face to face is best. You get eye contact, facial expressions, body language. Much more intimate.

I think humans will always use the latest technology.
When I was born, they started building homes with phone lines attached!
And a phone was soon considered a necessity.
The beauty of hand-written letters was soon forgotten.
(Did you see the 'Ellen' show when they presented some young'uns with
a rotary phone just to see if they knew what is was? Too funny ;-)

Then, a TV in every home! (Music came first so did the radio/stereo.)

I was there programming mainframes when the first computers (PC)
were made into every day products...like 50 years ago was a blink.

And I cannot be separated from my computer..so while I have never
texted on a phone, I do plenty online.

I don't find any difference between a phone call and an email but
the email is much more convenient.

So I guess it comes down to time now.
Whatever is fastest.

Almost full circle, eh? From the simple letter
to the even simpler texting ;-)

Today it is very easy to keep in regular contact with family and friends, it's the common interests that makes for good rapport in my opinion, whether by letter, email or phone call. The video calls can make our communications even more interesting when we are far apart from one another, it's certainly a golden age for communications.

One thing I noticed that's missing, especially with texting is closure to the conversation. When you're face to face or writing a letter, you usually end the conversation with goodbye or see you later.

With texting and messaging, more people just stop in the middle of a conversation and pick it back up a day or two, or sometimes weeks later. For me, that's annoying because I generally wait for the conversation to continue. Especially when they ask me a question about something and don't respond to my answer until several hours later or the next day or two. Seldom do I ever get a "see you later" or "gotta go, have a good night" when carrying on a conversation through texting.

In that sense, I believe texting and messaging has made conversation more disconnected and easier to disengage from conversation. There's generally less said too, texts tend to be short blurbs compared to writing a letter or talking on the phone.

Times have changed everyone is online sending each other messages or texting. I remember talking on the phone for hours or meeting up some place just to hang out and see what everyone was up to. It's hard to communicate with someone if you don't hear from them over the phone or face to face.

i think text and such is great for quick passing of info

but i still much prefer long rambling flowing conversation.

for that you need to invest whether by phone,video or face to face

Depends on the people, the nature of their relationship, and their mood.


Beats me.
Last time I sat on the phone chatting I was a teenager.
Being an adult and not having to be home before dark I can use the phone to set up face to face meetings.


Delaying shallow gratification, experience, thought, cogency, deliberation.
Lots of things.