I have young guys in their 20's and 30's writing to me that are ready to start a family and they are interested in me. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm too old to have babies. How does everyone feel about that?

Your Not too old. There are women your age still having them Unless they hit Mental Pause already... There is also the Option to Adopt... But it is weird if you already have Grown Children in their 30's and their children are having Children, Making Your New Child ( adopted or natural) the same Age as your Grandchildren.....

I guess you didn't read my profile. I don't have children and I don't want children.

I was speaking in general... For the Most part...

I m fine with that... i also dont want children

I was wondering about women who are a little older and having children in your late 40's and 50's. Is it it safe? Is it possible? Men can chime in too.

Either they have to stop taking drugs or you hv to start taking it.

Kartik, I don't know what taking drugs has to with anything but ok.

Hello, catinidaho!

Those ages are considered "high risk". However, like many labels, it"s often overu$ed.

I do know several women that have had a child without complications in their mid forties. And I know a lady who had her third child at 60. A real anomaly, which was initially diagnosed as a tumor. Cutest tumor I ever saw! He is a grown man now and she was wiser at that age, so he fared very well academically and socially growing up.

With that said, I think over 50 is a bit late, but am confident the human body knows more than I and already has it figured out.

And of course, the disclaimer, everyone is different, mind, body and soul.

BTW I think you are very beautiful!

"Mental Pause"?

Men?? Oh. Pause.

Yeah. I am just waiting for the women to respond to that one.

Shouldn't it be called "women-o-pause..."

you no old, you look very beautiful

I think it would be difficult for a woman in her 40's to have a baby.

Well...
I can't, and won't, speak for everyone.

But, I've never judged a woman for her ability,
or lack thereof, to have babies.

Thanks Rock. I just wonder about how women and men feel about this topic.

Like Rock, I can't and won't speak for others. If they choose to start a family later in life that's their choice. It's been said for many years that there's a higher risk of complications when having a baby in your 40's and 50's, but with the advancements in medical technology, I believe for those who want to have babies in those age brackets, there's more of a chance nowadays to do so without difficulties.

For me personally... I'm not interested in having babies at my age, not because of any possible health risk. It's because I already raised children, I'm not interested in raising another one.

It is a higher risk for both mother and child.
A few months back a woman I know was pregnant, she's pushing 40. I remember her saying 'who says older women can't have a healthy pregnancy?!" when showing a baby-bump photo. And yes, her pregnancy was great, but the delivery not so much. It was trying, took forever, and ended in a C-section. Both mother & baby needed antibiotics for quite some time as there was an infection, she was exhausted and needed a long time to recover.
She missed what she'd wanted, breastfeed, first moments with child, being a happy new mom. It wasn't until the baby was about 1,5-2 months old that she felt better and could begin to enjoy it.

Now maybe that would've happened too had she been 30, no one knows.

I also don't know if there's a difference between a first-time mom at older age or one that already had kids? I do suspect it'd make a difference.

Personally... no freaking way ever again! My body couldn't handle it, but even if it could, I don't want another baby. Back to square one, no personal freedom, diaper city. Been there, done that, it was great. I now enjoy my life and personal freedom with adult kids.

Which part?
People not reading your profile?
People in their 20's, 30's wanting to start a family?
You not wanting children?
Older women with younger partners having kids?
Just having kids later in life?
Based on the title, women having babies/children in general?

Don't really know where to start...


I don't know exactly what they're writing.
I know that some people write anything they think the other person wants to hear.
I know some guys will write stuff like "I'll go down on you for hours and I won't ask for anything in return!" Or "I love giving massages and/or foot rubs and/or cuddling and/or making out more than sex!"

I have no idea if they're just trying a ploy.
I mean if a common complaint online is "men just want sex! They just want to use you and ghost you!" then one way to "counter" that and look like one of the "good" ones is to come across as looking for "more" than that. "I want something serious and long term! I ultimately want to have a family!"

I don't know if they're just emailing you "Hi. ur hawt. wanna get knocked up? Pics?"



That's easily found out calling your doctor or doing internet/library research.