My ex broke up with me a few months back. She stated she wanted to stay friends and i told her i didn't. Instead of accepting my request she asked me to give it time. I ended up deleting her off of my social media anyways and a month later i got injured (sports) and she called me to make sure i was ok. In the process she added me back on social media and i accepted.

4 months later we reconnected and texted each other. We talked about a lot of things but she ended up talking about all the guys and girls that have hit on her. She also opened up to me about how depressed she felt and told me she felt guilty about how our relationship ended. A week after she came to my campus to visit me. When she saw that i was genuinely feeling good she started spamming pictures of herself and her friends on social media.

Recently i found out that she told someone she didn't miss me but just felt guilty because she promised she would be my friend. So when i reconnected with her why did she say she really wanted to contact me too but didn't have the guts? why try to make me jealous and open up to me about herself? Why get mad at me when u saw me happy?

Sounds like she really doesn't want you to be happy. She sounds jealous.

Weird story, can't really make heads or tails of it.
You give mixed signals yourself, saying you don't want to be friends yet accepting her back on your social media, and even seeing her again??
Why is it spamming if she's posting photos on social media? That's what social media is used for. If you come across it I take it it's cos you befriended her again on the platform, so it's your own responsibility.
Don't ask us questions why someone does something. Ask yourself why you let her into your life again and why you still are in touch if it bothers you this much?
That's what's weird. Be clear, to her as well. If the contact upsets you, break it.
Problem solved.

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We are quite different...Communication is a big deal for me and i choose to make it straightforward, direct, and unambiguous...when i say "NO", my actions are consistent with "NO"...it takes two to tango so I don't send any mixed signals...when i close the door, I weld the doggone thing!!...that means i don't accept calls or text messages, no invitations to be social media anything, etc...i consider some of your text as a crack in the door which she seems to have flung wide open...

Best to you...You no like the food?...don't sit at the table...don't even go to the restaurant...got my drift?

good story

Hello Ieele ... perhaps she thinks because she was the one who ended the relationship that you still love her .. and will be her safety net .. for the times her love life sucks .

The question is .. why did you reconnect later on when you had made it clear you did not want to be friends ??? Did your injury change the way you felt about her ??? Even though she reached out to you . You were not obligated to respond ... so why did you ??? Perhaps you are sending mixed signals too .

Did you reconnect as just a friend ?
Did a part of you hope to renew a relationship with her ??
If she is feeling depressed about your relationship ending and the way it happened ... that may explain some of her behaviour .. perhaps with time she has regrets ???

Personally , I would not listen too much to gossip .. there is usually some agenda .

Ask your ex for explanations .. comparing her response to that of other women is not likely to be helpful . Best of luck

The truth is no one sends mixed signals.

Your own personal feelings and your expectations of what you want from the relationship cause you to confuse it

He told her last week that the relationship was over...that he did not want to see her again...

fast forward one week, he texts her now every day.."honey, i made a mistake...you are the one for me...don't know what i was thinking"...

CLASSIC mixed signals...and a reality that actually happens...

ieele - I agree with Cat - she sounds jealous. I also think she has no real idea what she wants, possibly immature or bipolar. Hupuppy is wrong. People DO send mixed signals. It's my belief that she wanted to date other men, wanted to let go and thought to herself (I'll keep him in case others fall through) She probably panicked a little when you were injured. Now that you are well, she's back to being selfish and jealous. I doubt this has much to do with YOU at all. like i said, she is immature and selfish, and she IS sending mixed messages. I went through this many years ago with my ex and finally changed my phone number. We didn't have social media then, we wrote letters. Whenever I got one from him, I wrote RETURN TO SENDER and did not open it. Why read his mixed messages. When he knocked on the door, i did not answer. I let his best guy friend know I was NOT taking my ex back and hoped he would pass that on. It might take awhile, but I can assure you your ex is going to be like this emotionally possibly Forever. Take steps to stay away from her. You are not responsible if she chooses to cry or whine. Get away from her and move on. Best of luck to you.

You're getting hosed.

I think this is the most correct answer.

Combine it with the fact that most people don't actually use their own carefully chosen and crafted words to express themselves (most people remember what others have said, and use that), and you have the primary formula for human communications failures.

The main common human behavior that really makes clear that her behavior has actually been VERY consistent throughout, is that most people have as their CORE goal, to feel as though they are "doing whatever they do, right." Not so much "right" in a great-philosophical way, so much as "right" in a way that fits the story of life that they assume they are living out.

She wants to think well of herself. So do you. She said she wanted to stay friends after the breakup, because that made her feel "nice," you wanted not to, because that made you feel "decisive," or perhaps "strong."

When she got in touch again after you were injured, she was continuing her role as "being a nice friend." When you allowed her to reconnect, you seem to have seen more in it, and perhaps thought about reconnecting more romantically, and that's why when she went straight to chatting about how she was being "hit on" a lot, you took it to be something like taunting.

In the meantime, EVERYTHING she was doing fit perfectly with treating you like a BUDDY. Sharing her involvements with other people, sharing her emotional journey AWAY from you after the breakup, as well as saying things that A FRIEND would take as polite and comforting (such as that she felt bad about how the breakup went, and that she "missed you.") That wasn't a come-on to get back together, as you seem to have surmised, it was identical to the way that many people politely say things like "great meal," when they didn't like anything you cooked.

All in all, this is a classic example of why SOME people support a "no contact" time period after a serious breakup. It's not always because everyone is angry, and might fight, it's to avoid exactly this kind of confusion about intentions and actions.