Such a strange thing, I'm always the odd one out. I also seem to be in an in-between group -from bra-size to height to education levels.
Or... I'm in a so called 'niche group', also concerning levels of intelligence and being multi-faceted. Being a Lightworker puts me in a niche group too.
Even astrologically I am highly unusual, hihi.

This is a huge problem on dating sites. First of, which fecking dating site do I fit in? I can't find anything much on a 'normal' dating site. The higher education ones aren't for me -I'm not into business people or university levels-, taller people dating site... I am tall but not that tall really. And so on.

Few years back I became a paid member of my country's largest dating site. Learnt within a few weeks the assortment on there wasn't compatible with me. Silly me decided to give that same site another whirl last November.
But hey, things could've changed in the last 6 years, and they had a good offer for membership, hihi.

But... I shouldn't have bothered, waste of money. Men on there are:
- too short
- WAY to short, I mean, 1.60m?????
- too tall
- way too tall, don't wanna break my neck when we kiss
- too fat
- OMG must've been stuck with his head?
- Good lord, maybe take a bath?
- too young
- too old
- children at home / shared custody
- education levels WAY too low
- simply not attractive
- too far away
- anti-smoking, I quit on my terms for me, not for a guy.
- recently divorced
- and so on...

I am definitely NOT going to renew my membership when it ends. And I will never become a member of that site again.

This is the only site I've tried, and so far it's pretty much a bust for dating, so I see NO point in trying another.

Crystal, isn't that with every site? They say that they are the best dating site!

In my humble opinion, dating sites have almost killed dating. The art of real interactions has been lost whilst expectations have risen.

Some dating sites are much better than others. I am speaking from my previous dating experience.

The first dating site I tried was a bust but it’s the only site where I did actually meet a few guys in person.

I got fed up and put myself on 3 or 4 other dating sites including this one. Very disappointed in the results on all of them. I was ready to give up. I was extremely discouraged.

Then one day a guy from the first dating site sent me the worst poetry I had ever read and he was a couple of years older than what I had been looking for. But I usually responded to most messages just to be polite. Well we started messaging, then phone calls and voila, we’ve been dating for a couple of months and he’s awesome. He isn’t someone that I would have considered dating when I started online dating. What a pleasant surprise!

Sometimes I think we overlook possibilities and don’t take enough chances. So far, I’m glad I didn’t go with my first instinct which was to laugh at the bad poetry and delete the message.

Don’t give up Crystal, maybe just open up the to more possibilities.

Justbehonest's comment kind of backs up what I said.

I think dating sites tend to make people more critical. Most set expectations which are unrealistic. Remember, few of US are as hot as we like to think we are

1. Realize that a dating site, ANY dating site is merely a TOOL to be used to locate possible matches.

2. Once you have your preferences figured out for the 'perfect' match, reassess them for the best possible match from the pool of that tool.

If the tool you are using is not right for the job at hand, find a different tool that is. You wouldn't use a hammer to screw in a screw.

If 'all the tools' are not right for the job, either you are trying to do an impossible task or you need to make your own tool for the job at hand.

Absolutely true! And what is 'good' changes all the time. You often see people move to another site when it's marketed right, think of Tinder.
What was a good site 6 years ago can now be one of the worst.
I just find it difficult to find one that suits me, that has people on it with a bit higher education for starters.

Don't agree with that. A great many people have met their current partner via a dating site.

Thanks, JBH

If you're looking for 'hot'... I'm looking for someone who's compatible.

I joined two other ones around the time I joined here, when I was piscesmoon. I was living in the Florida Keys at the time. I got messages from a few on the site that I paid for, but they all messaged me just to tell me why I wasn't a match for them... too short, don't drink, I smoked, too old, wasn't a Trump supported (I'm independent, just don't like him) or they just wanted a roll in the hay or an itune card, lol. I didn't renew with that site.

The other one was a joke, way too many scammers and no forum so I quit that one. Mingle is the only one I'm with now... in the beginning I had a couple tell me they were interested but I lived too far away. The only ones who seem to be interested and persistent in trying to get a date from me are the scammers.

I doubt I will spend money to join another site and have pretty much given up on the notion of that finding that special one for me online... after a little over two years of being told why they "don't" want a relationship with me, my ego is a little bruised and I've become even more gun shy than before in initiating anything.

I'm still a romantic at heart so I'm at least open to the idea that it could happen... although I'm more inclined to believe that for me finding that special one will happen when we meet in person rather than online.

That may well be true but we also have a larger population than ever before. Dating sites have made it far easier to cheat and in many cases with less effort or expense.

Strange you should say so when you've already admitted to ruling out potential suitors for being, in your opinion "too fat".

Over the years, I've been on a few sites.
Mingle2 has the best comfort level.

42 is the answer you seek.

Blue it's blue

Nah! Professor Plum in the library with a candlestick.