That's a smart way of looking at it thechoctaw

I can't turn my back on you kids for one minute . Can I?

He started it!

Well look at that...

I may have to establish my very first naughty corner on a mingle thread.


2019 ROCKS !!!!

All kinds.
There's usually a museum, or art gallery, or botanical garden, or something that isn't too expensive.
Just depends on the date. What one woman deems charming another can judge nightmarish.


The cost really had no bearing on whether a date was "enjoyable."
At most cost added insult to injury to bad dates.

Lordy Girl?
I guess you never met anyone like me?

I read your OP, didn't read anything at all after.
First impression, You are extremely shallow.
Perhaps you found grave in the replies but the first OP is telling me a story.
You come across as being very materialistic.
It doesn't matter why they only wanted to spend $20 on the date.
What matters is that it was a big deal to you.

Without reading what anyone else wrote...
Lets just say that I have had many 'dates' where I had ZERO dollars committed to the "date".
While that might be a foreign concept to some of you, it is important to me.
See, if a woman is willing to be in my company no matter the dollar sign spent, it means she has the potential of being someone real that I might invest my life into.
But, if she NEEDS me to spend money on her so she can feel important, she has greater self-esteem issues than what I am willing to tackle.

I'm sure there are many really good responses to this thread.
I don't need to read them to make a comment because I have lived this situation before and I need no insight on the subject.

I do have a name I assign to women that put a price tag on how they judge me, SHALLOW.
Whether you are shallow or not is not my concern. Mainly because I am not considfering you as a potential match. If you were a potential match, this would be a certain deal breaker.
Go find someone that thinks they can buy love.

20 bucks, huh

ummm....dunkin donuts, dime bag, head out to the park...

i'll bring my backgammon set & guitar...you bring you...K?

A first date for me is something special, not the meet and greet over a coffee before deciding if you want to date each other, but the first date after that. I could not go on a first date with only £20.00 in my pocket, I would expect to be dining out somewhere during the date and that would not cover the cost. Certainly on subsequent dates as you got to know each other, and date more frequently, but not a first date.

I hadn't thought about the art gallery and museum Tom. I think some ladies would definitely enjoy those options :)

i know peggy! we can go sit under the boardwalk and watch the submarine races

I appreciate the fact that OPs are subject to many interpretations , and I certainly won't dismiss yours Tom.


From one perspective , this OP can be viewed as shallow and materialistic , and another perspective might be in the vein of fostering creativity and resourcefulness on a budget, which some might actually find helpful in the expensive times we live in.

But your interpretation is just as valid as any.

Always nice to see you Tom

I don't know how to play backgammon Argo. Would ya mind if we do monopoly instead ? :)

This was really just a hypothetical situation to foster creative ideas on a budget.


One of my exes , when I met him , was still in the trenches trying to build himself up, which he eventually did.. But in the first couple of years , our dates were very modest . This OP was just depicting such a scenario.

Your take on the 1st time date is very thoughtful Duttoneer, as you always are :)

I'm up for it Eric ! But you are in charge of bringing the bug spray okay?

There is a bar in my area that has two grand pianos, drums and bass. They play 70-90's rock on the pianos. It really is a cool place to go - very energetic, everyone sings along and dances and it's a whole lot of fun. It's $5 to get in and then the cost of the drinks - it's a fun $20 date!

hi

$20 just got way too analytical up in my head!

That sounds like a place I would love Richie Rich. I love live music when I vusited Rhode Island, there was this really cool spot where there were amateur jazz performers but they were sooooo good! Im even up for karaoke now and then :)

Hiya!